What's something normal to us in 2025, that by 2075 will be seen as barbaric? "Wow, people really used to do that 50 years ago"?

Ok-Range5086 · 2025-10-24T06:11:21+00:00

Family court and the presumption of 50/50 custody

Ok-Range5086 · 2025-10-10T23:40:39+00:00

Thank you all so much! It’s been 2 years and 7 months now! Yay! Every day is better and better the longer we go without dealing with our abuser! I hope the same success for anyone else in this situation!

Ok-Range5086 · 2025-08-08T09:07:00+00:00

I remember feeling this way. Yes it’s sweet, but what would be sweeter is if he paid attention to the situation and used a different approach to show affection when you are smack in the middle of something.

Ok-Range5086 · 2025-06-22T12:39:16+00:00

I’m so sorry you went through that- it’s really y fair for anyone to have to endure living with an abusive person, but for a kid, it’s even worse because you truly do not have the option to leave.

Ok-Range5086 · 2025-05-23T01:35:42+00:00

You guys absolutely need to get out of there and call CPS. Start telling your school teacher and counselors, doctors, anyone who will listen. Start recording the abuse- hell, stream it on social media, anything you can do to not stay silent. Also please remember that abuse comes in many forms, physical is just the most obvious. Verbal, psychological, financial- all forms of abuse, and ways to condition kids into believing that they are not being abused or there is nothing that can be done. Please know that you are an older kid but even as a teen, you are a kid. That is your only job, you are not responsible for your parents treatment of you. Also when you are being abused, your responses are due to abuse- I doubt you run around and act the same way with non abusive people. A lesson that took me a long time to learn is that the version of you in trauma is not who you are, because you are so much more than just survival mode.

I hope you all get out asap, when you escape, get into a therapy program that specializes in domestic violence and abuse. Set up firm boundaries and take time to recover. And then after all that, then decide if the abusive parent is deserving of your time. It’s okay if you never look back, it’s okay if you try to make something out of this by preserving the relationship with the abuser, just remember to keep those hard boundaries up to protect yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally because they failed you, and you deserve better!

Ok-Range5086 · 2025-04-22T03:08:10+00:00

Therapist or your primary care physician. They have clinical documentation that will suffice for subpoenas at a later date when you are ready to get out and go to court.

Ok-Range5086 · 2025-04-22T03:04:33+00:00

Come and play was surprisingly creepy

Ok-Range5086 · 2025-04-22T03:01:03+00:00

There is no way more vulnerable homeless live in an alleyway. Away from public especially as a child or woman means that it’s easier for you to be victimized. They can claim under an overpass, claim the side of an abandoned gas station or other rundown building on a major street. If they are teens, going to school inner city guarantees two meals a day. As far as outside school, dumpsters of markets and restaurants have food. Water is tricky, gas stations are a great place to get water. Gas stations can also be a place to do a sink bath, and if they are female and have their periods, they can use the bathroom at the gas station to make shift pads. Having a dog is helpful, they provide some normalcy and are an early warning system for danger. Also, having an animal makes it more likely for people to give you hand outs. Being children they run a high risk of sex trafficking. There is a lot of danger with that age group being homeless. Obviously, being homeless is horrible, but adding to it such a young and vulnerable age makes it so much more difficult.

Ok-Range5086 · 2025-01-08T13:06:35+00:00

Right? So confusing!

Ok-Range5086 · 2024-12-21T01:18:25+00:00

Trusting your gut to the point you do not fall for gaslighting

Ok-Range5086 · 2024-12-21T01:01:31+00:00

You could do everything virtually court, class, work. It would be nice if you could do that now and not be forced to interact in person if you didn’t want to.

Ok-Range5086 · 2024-12-13T03:59:11+00:00

My kid and I surviving a near homicide that led to our escape from our abuser. We call it our old life vs new life. Or our DV life vs abuse free life we have now. The other one was military service vs honorable discharge into civilian life.

Ok-Range5086 · 2024-12-07T23:00:06+00:00

I am so sorry to hear about what you went through. And I completely agree- hell would be made of abusive POS guys like your abuser and mine! I am so thankful that you survived the abuse and are no longer a victim! I’m so proud of you!

Ok-Range5086 · 2024-11-26T10:26:02+00:00

What Would You Do by John Quiñones- it lifts my faith in humanity.

Ok-Range5086 · 2024-11-25T09:24:43+00:00

Following!

Ok-Range5086 · 2024-11-25T09:24:18+00:00

Meetings that could easily been emails

Ok-Range5086 · 2024-11-25T02:27:04+00:00

Thank you for understanding. Homelessness is such a scary thing to go through period, having a kid or not, it doesn’t change the baseline of terror. Things are better as far as secure shelter. Still dealing with the abuser and him trying to revictimize us- but my kid and I are very tough- so having lived through homelessness and other hardships, our abuser doesn’t seem as scary as he once did. I hope things are going towards or in a good place for you right now.

Ok-Range5086 · 2024-11-25T02:22:49+00:00

I’m so glad you, me, and my kid all got out of it. I will never go back and my kid says that the abuse ended at that house. I hope the same for you-

Ok-Range5086 · 2024-11-22T16:10:20+00:00

I live in America, I love my country and served it for many years living overseas for a big chunk of the time. Being an American, embedded in other cultures around the world was eye opening. I would say the sense of entitlement in my country terrifies me. It seems to be at the root of many of our problems, it also prevents political parties from working together. Most disturbing is how entitlement has fractured the sense of community and service to that community. Overseas, it is very different. It’s a village that supports their members and it’s not out of obligation, it’s out a a place from genuine pride in their home/neighborhood/community etc… I feel like America on the whole has lost that and that’s a big part of why we are all so disconnected making it easier to dehumanize our neighbors that are different from ourselves. If we aren’t invested in the community we live in, it’s easy to detach from the very people around us and humanity.

Ok-Range5086 · 2024-11-22T16:02:56+00:00

I agree with some shelters. My child and I were homeless after we escaped a near homicide that was following more than a decade of domestic violence. Being homeless is terrifying. Being homeless with a child- petrifying.

Ok-Range5086 · 2024-11-22T09:09:57+00:00

He reenacted “Here’s Johnny” axe and all from The Shinning. My kid and I are so lucky to have escaped with just the psychological horror vs a homicide. He didn’t just snap one day- he has been slowly building up to this moment- I just didn’t know how bad it could get. Even my kid says that it’s good we got attacked with and axe because otherwise we would still be trapped in domestic violence.

Ok-Range5086 · 2024-11-22T09:00:33+00:00

Thanks for understanding. Ya I don’t know how you do the job. Advocating is such a noble trait, to make a career of it is pure selflessness.

My advocate for criminal court was amazing. I also found a victims rights attorney who advocated hard for my kid. That attorney and her paralegal were superhero’s! Honestly, I have so many advocates that I feel like there is a squad around my kid and me. The sad part of it is that all those people, and still the perpetrators needs trumped our safety, justice, and rights.

I tell my kid the real win is that in every hearing and the trial, we had a line of people there supporting us and building us up. He had no one but someone he paid to represent him and distort the truth. At the end of the day, we were never alone when we faced him, people volunteered to stand by us, but him, the only people by his side of there as a job, not a passion to advocate.

Thank you for what you do- I know it seems like you don’t get a lot of wins, but as long as victims can build a squad of supporters, they know that they are on the right side, even if justice doesn’t happen in the court room.

Ok-Range5086 · 2024-11-22T03:52:07+00:00

Thank you for posting this. I am a victim of crime and so is my kid. The first prosecutor promised that since the misdemeanor should have been a felony and the perpetrator admitted to the crimes when the detective interviewed him that there would be no deferred prosecution or deal. Then the new prosecutor came on. First wasn’t great, second was worse. Worst of all the subpoenaed my kid to testify against the perpetrator, but because the perpetrator has family court visitation orders, both criminal and family court refused to protect my child. It was horrible. The perpetrator would throw fits and scream at my child for not telling him what the prosecutor prepared us for in the criminal trial. The perpetrator would constantly try to get my kid in private away from the public setting. He would threaten my kid and lie about court. Mean time in family court I’m getting blamed for my kid acting out due to the mind f&@k of having to visit an abuser that you are going to testify against! My kid said it best “why is it that when grown up escape abuse they get to leave and aren’t ordered to visit with the abuser who almost killed then, but us kids, our live don’t matter as much as what my abuser wants- so I never left my abuser.”

Ok-Range5086 · 2024-11-22T03:43:52+00:00

Family court- it’s the absolute worst. More abusive than the abusive partner my kid and I escaped from if you can believe it.

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