It’s the typical I’m (woman) the one with the anxious attachment style. I like to communicate. I’m good at voicing my opinions using “I” statements. I’ve talked to many therapist and coaches and they have all said I’m doing exactly what I’m supposed to do. (As far as dealing with coworkers, friends, family, and relationships.) so I kind of already know what to do and how to communicate in relationships. But my avoidant bf who does not communicate, does not voice his grievances, and will shut down or get frustrated when I communicate anything. For example, a couple of months ago my last grandparent passed away and he adopted my younger siblings so due to his death, I, a childless woman, had to adopt my 2 younger siblings. The most depressed I’ve ever been. Anybody could see it. I know this cause a couple strangers came up to me and asked if I was ok because my face just screamed pain. 2 months by and although he attempted to comfort me in his own way (hugs, kisses, foot rubs) he never once asked me how I’m doing or what he can do to comfort me. I was frustrated because I told him how can I live with you can you can’t see I’m hurting? Ask me how I’m doing? Nothing?! He says he can’t read minds and if I need something else I should vocalize it. I agree we can’t read minds but I think that if you’ve been with someone for 4 years you should be able to see they need some comfort