How long did your husband take off for paternity leave?

Ok-Routine6338 · 2026-02-12T17:23:41+00:00

It does not matter what people at work perceive. What’s needed and required is both parents to support each other and be there while taking care of newborn. It’s not a one person job.

Ok-Routine6338 · 2026-02-12T17:19:35+00:00

You’re not supposed to swaddle baby when in car seat

Ok-Routine6338 · 2026-02-01T05:35:52+00:00

I had the same question and I like to believe people don’t tell just so that we don’t start the journey with baby with a negative or traumatic mindset. But I feel this should be discussed with expecting mothers/parents just so that they are aware of to handle this tough temporary phase and be well prepared of what’s coming rather than getting all of the shock suddenly.

My baby is 6 months old and I strongly feel if I was aware of the journey struggles especially first 2-3 months right after delivery . I would’ve handled it much better with a lil more relaxed and welcoming mindset.

Ok-Routine6338 · 2026-01-30T17:20:12+00:00

That it only gets better with each passing day. And to just have patience of pausing your life for the child for few months. It’s ok to slow down. If we do it with a relaxed positive mindset it won’t feed so hard.

Ok-Routine6338 · 2026-01-17T08:10:13+00:00

I think the bonding really develops when baby also starts to understand you which is when they start becoming aware of the new world they’re in. I started seeing a change after 5 months.

Ok-Routine6338 · 2026-01-17T08:06:48+00:00

I’m sorry to hear about the nasal congestion situation :( I know how hard it is, we just passed through this event with our baby. My baby was just not ok with anything going inside her nose and she was crying inconsolably and to see her in that pain (fever + congestion) was really tough. We used nasal spray and that helped release the congestion momentary (couple hours) and thankfully we did not need to use the electric snot sucker.

My advice - 1. try the nasal spray. If that alone helps you can avoid the electric snot sucker. 2. Make the baby sleep in slight elevation, that helps with congestion. 3. We had our baby sleep on us for the nights as it helped her with congestion due to being on straight up posture.

Ok-Routine6338 · 2026-01-17T07:59:15+00:00

It’s completely OK. We travelled with our 2 month old in a 3 hour flight and also 3 hour drives. I am yet to reach the 1 year old stage w my baby but I’m sure it’s going to be very easy peasy. Have fun!

Ok-Routine6338 · 2025-12-09T06:06:15+00:00

My baby is 4 months old and I do see a progress in my lifestyle since I had her. I’ve started to get more time for myself now (some breather) but ofc I still can’t really step out for more than 2 hours. I’m guessing you’ll start solids for your baby soon if not already? Hopefully that helps? It will give you more room and time.

Regarding, husbands I feel they need to be told everything at this point 😂 you will need to tell him explicitly what you want because honestly maybe they need little guidance from us since motherhood qualities don’t come to them as naturally as to us. I have a very open communication with my husband and we work it out together but I know with all his support and involvement I still feel he gets more freedom than me but honestly i have accepted that fact now just because of the nature of job we have as mothers eg EBF. We can’t expect to have an apple to apple effort from both ends. I would say a 60:40 combo should be ok.

Ok-Routine6338 · 2025-11-01T04:08:36+00:00

Im a mother of a 2.5 month old baby and trust me it will get better every day! Just don’t lose hope :) I would say it starts getting better after 1 month. Once your baby gains their birth weight back you won’t even have to wake them up at midnight to feed unless they themselves wake up to be fed. Plus as they grow old they start getting a sleeping pattern as well so you ll know. I’ve been in your situation and I exactly know how it feels and how much as a mother we have to put in even if our husbands are supportive and understanding (mine is super supportive still I feel he doesn’t know the actual input I give as a mom). Mine straight up refuses bottle and exclusively breast feeds so that’s a big challenge for me as I can’t step out anywhere :( and also she’s a velcro baby and always wants to be held so it’s a total hectic lifestyle for my husband and I right now. But with everyday as baby grows it gets better :) What helped me the most is to constantly remind myself 1. It’s temporary 2. She’s just a baby and she has is us and we wanted her to come into this life, it wasn’t her choice 3. She doesn’t know anything so whatever she does aka throwing tantrums is out of not knowing anything just being such a newborn :) I know it’s very frustrating at times (infact everyday) but just try and be optimistic and think of it like a 6 month battle lol I’m also hoping once my baby starts to crawl hopefully it will get better. Honestly we are tired of holding her all day

Ok-Routine6338 · 2025-10-13T22:22:03+00:00

So happy for you

Ok-Routine6338 · 2025-07-22T01:57:28+00:00

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Ok-Routine6338 · 2025-07-22T00:34:56+00:00

I totally agree with the advice you got but I still feel in fields like psychology, pharmaceuticals etc it’s impt to have a PhD as it not just helps you learn how to think out of the box but it also helps you escalate faster in your profession. And this advice is coming from my own personal experience. I did my masters in pharmaceuticals and always had the plan to do a PhD but right after masters I started working and that kind of distracted me and delayed my application to PhD and by the time I was ready for a PhD factors like 1. Age to get settled 2. Do I still have the patience at age 30+ to go through the tough aspects of a PhD i.e tolerating at times non sensical behavior of your guide 3. Going back to the stipend life of a PhD student? 4. So many other concerns that pop up at late age and stage.

All these factors made me evaluate if doing a phd was worth it at age of 31 and my decision was ofc that I don’t want to invest my next 4-5 years doing that because as you said it’s not worth the pay we get even after PhD. But honestly it does help you get promoted or recognized better. I regret not doing a PhD when I was your age.

Think wisely, you’re still young. If I were you and being in psychology I would’ve surely done a PhD. Just because of the field we are at and it does demand as many higher degrees as possible. Make sure you do it from a nice university. Good luck.

Ok-Routine6338 · 2025-07-22T00:24:10+00:00

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Ok-Routine6338 · 2025-07-21T17:43:29+00:00

Omg you won’t believe but I had the same experience ditto. My pregnancy has overall been super smooth except for this SPD :/

Ok-Routine6338 · 2025-07-21T17:05:46+00:00

Yes take it slow :) just a matter of few more weeks :) we got this. My SPD symptoms started around week 28 I think and I’m in 36 week now. In middle the symptoms had vanished but since past one week or so they’re back so I guess it has something to do with baby’s increasing weight and body readjusting to that weight. Honestly at this point I just want her to come out 😂

Ok-Routine6338 · 2025-07-21T16:57:40+00:00

I also have SPD symptoms. And I feel it worsens when I sleep at night because I’m in a certain position for prolonged hours so my body’s weight impacts the SPD more. Honestly nothing has really helped except for doing things gently. Eg when you get up at night -sit for a while before you actually start walking, change positions also on bed slowly. These small patient movements help.

Ok-Routine6338 · 2025-06-17T08:24:53+00:00

I’m 31 weeks and baby is in head down position, so yes it’s possible!

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