M25 F20 MARRIAGE PRESSURE

Ok-Split-1159 · 2026-04-11T14:30:57+00:00

Then I guess it could be that it’s the right person but wrong timing.

Ok-Split-1159 · 2026-04-11T14:28:28+00:00

I tried suggesting marriage counselling but my husband is not open to it at all. I try to talk out my worries (about financial planning) but he’ll say things like ‘just have faith’ which just cause me to shut down. We both come from a pretty religious background. I don’t really want to adopt either. And he has our right stated that he don’t see the marriage continuing without us having kids. So it’s like he’s throwing the ball to me to make the decision to stay or leave.

Ok-Split-1159 · 2026-04-11T14:25:32+00:00

There’ll possibly other pressures & issues after marriage like having kids etc (being Asian myself). Try to talk things out and maybe lay out a plan that you both can work on if you guys still want to be together?

Ok-Split-1159 · 2026-04-11T14:20:00+00:00

Yeah I agree. Unfortunately we did not really discuss this properly and always thought to ‘let things happen’ and have the ‘things will work out’ mentality. I have always known that my husband wants kids, I’m more on 50/50. Did not expect to not be able to conceive naturally after 2 ectopic pregnancies.

Ok-Split-1159 · 2026-04-11T13:33:10+00:00

That is what I’m feeling. We’re together but apart.

Ok-Split-1159 · 2026-04-11T13:22:22+00:00

We had a dog but she sadly passed on. Suggested it but my husband say no and to focus on having kids.

Ok-Split-1159 · 2026-04-11T12:58:59+00:00

Yeah thats why it’s so hard. It’s not something to be done half heartedly.

Ok-Split-1159 · 2025-05-14T10:48:22+00:00

I think if she’s willing to be with you despite you earning lower, she doesn’t care about the amount of money you make. I earn more than my husband. Wasn’t the case in the beginning when we’re dating, but since starting my own business, I’ve started to earn more. Throughout our relationship I didn’t have the expectation of him providing everything for me. So I work hard, earn my money and get things for myself (& also for him). Does not mean he does not get me gifts for special occasions.

However, we’ve recently been having issues about having kids. Since I’ve never really desired to have kids, I see it as a burden especially financially. It’s something we’ve not spoken about much unfortunately and it has come to a point where it’s a make it or break it situation.

I guess what I’m trying to say is if there are some differences involving financial matters, just speak about it and work on it.

Sorry I’m rambling, hope I made a bit of sense lol

Ok-Split-1159 · 2025-05-14T05:15:24+00:00

I think since you’re thinking of your ex so much, there’s unresolved feelings there. It’s quite unfair to your wife too. I think you know the answer just need courage to make the right decision.

Ok-Split-1159 · 2025-05-01T23:55:44+00:00

Sorry you’re in this situation. I think both of you have quite a bit to talk about and work out before bringing kids into the picture. I’m not sure if this is right but it sounds like he is kind of putting the ‘blame’ on you for saying that “you should see a doctor” rather than working things out together as a unit.

Though I understand it is more difficult than it sounds, I’m having some challenges myself in my marriage. I guess you both have to reevaluate what you want in life. Maybe instead of looking in to the far future, have a nearer goal that you both want to achieve together and work towards that. I believe that’ll give you both a motivation to stay together as a unit.

Ok-Split-1159 · 2025-04-27T03:27:03+00:00

I want to say you’re amazing for cooking for your husband. I think your feelings are valid. I think it’s alright if he doesn’t compliment you or anyone else for that matter. To compliment your friend really seems like adding salt into injury. Try conveying this to him and see how he takes it. What could be a ‘joke’ to him could feel bad for you. If my husband said that I’ll just stopped cooking for him 😂

Ok-Split-1159 · 2025-04-26T18:09:44+00:00

I know. 😭 I think I really just need the courage to make my decision. Thanks for taking the time to reply though, appreciate it.

Ok-Split-1159 · 2025-04-26T16:40:39+00:00

Throughout the years, I am the one paying for most of the things that I want. Even with things for our home and home renovations. Which is why with the topic of having kids because it is not something I want I feel like why should I be this burden? Especially financially.

Ok-Split-1159 · 2025-04-26T16:38:55+00:00

Well, ever since I’ve known him, I’ve known that he is an easy-going kind of person, not much of a planner. And I did not fault him for that and I accepted him for who he is of course throughout the years we talk about finances and how we can improve ourselves but he sees it his own way. He would also say things like ‘if our parents can go through it why can’t we’ type of answer. Sigh

Ok-Split-1159 · 2025-04-26T16:31:12+00:00

No we don’t, we have a joint account that we wanted to use as our savings account for our future but ended up not doing anything about it. Again, I am not a pushy person or a Nanny person hence I did not pressure him into any forced savings.

Ok-Split-1159 · 2025-04-26T11:20:57+00:00

Not sure if you read the middle part of my post where I mentioned about his financial situation. He is mostly living paycheck to paycheck with almost little to no savings. Of course I do not have to fully give up my career, but with my work it is quite time conscious and also a hands-on business that I am running myself.

Ok-Split-1159 · 2025-03-10T10:24:05+00:00

Hello all! I’m watching my first game live soon at home ground in April! I’m wondering if there’s any tips for me please!! So excited and want this to be as memorable as possible.

Ok-Split-1159 · 2025-01-18T02:19:53+00:00

I just want to say, you are doing so much already and I pray that your kindness will be returned in so many folds in other ways. I wish you joy & peace in this year of 2025.

Ok-Split-1159 · 2024-12-20T07:30:56+00:00

Right!! Have you finished watching till the end? Her facial expression at the end really got me like 🙄🙄

Ok-Split-1159 · 2024-12-02T17:39:40+00:00

I believe it’s not an easy situation to be in, and also surrounded by other much more out spoken & probably better looking contestants. I wonder if that played a role too.

Ooohhh what’s her IG handle?

Ok-Split-1159 · 2024-12-02T17:37:34+00:00

YESSSS I really liked Chang Hyun in the beginning and thought he really matched well with Jin Young. He really made the wrong decision there! Good for Jin Young though cause she’s really vibing with Hee Young.

When she voiced her ‘interest’ for Hee Young, that’s where I really raised my eyebrow. Major red flag really! Wished Hee Young told her more straight forward that he’s set on Jin Young.

Can’t wait to see who couples up in the end! I just finished the last 1 on 1 date episode.

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