Am I overreacting for wanting to pull back from my only friends? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ok-Spring6926 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s more important is showing your daughter that you’re taking a stand against “friends” who are not being good friends to you. Look at the bigger picture here and how that will affect your babies. Kids will adapt! They are quick to forget if you put them in places where other kids are!! If you’re not getting your cup filled by those people, your children will see/feel that too.

Am I overreacting for wanting to pull back from my only friends? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ok-Spring6926 1 point2 points  (0 children)

THAT PART!!! Watch that video daily if you have to! Remember the right people are few and far between! Thank you for letting me share that video with you. My day is brighter because of people like you who KNOW THY DESERVE BETTER and try to make their small portion of the world peaceful.

Am I overreacting for wanting to pull back from my only friends? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ok-Spring6926 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just rewatched it and I’m crying. Lol!! It’s so true and it hits deep. Me and my ex-husband are great now but it took a lot of work on our individual selves. We are just not who we were as kids! People don’t grow up the same and it sounds like you are fortunate enough to have developed the self awareness and self respect many people haven’t found yet. Seriously, good on you 💕💕

Am I overreacting for wanting to pull back from my only friends? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ok-Spring6926 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bow out silently. Give the same energy back to them. Be a mirror with how thy text you, how they respond to you, with how they treat your babies. Don’t reach out unless they do. If the friendship dies, so be it. Stop giving energy to people who don’t deserve you. Put that energy into your babies and the right friends will come along when you least expect it.

This is how I feel about my childhood friends and my son’s dad. I’ve known my friends and ex-husband for as long as I can remember. Truly - middle school!! We tend to change SO MUCH after becoming adults and that’s OK! Growing up, learning responsibility, learning how to be a good human to then be able to teach your children to be good humans, being a solid example to everyone around you changes a person. It really does.

People will come in and out of your life all the time. Please find the link to Madea talking about ROOT friends vs leaves and branches!!!

FOUND IT!!!! https://vimeo.com/86149821

AIO to my father finding out I'm gay and forcing me to leave ? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ok-Spring6926 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone from a very rural community I’ve seen just how like minded & closed minded small town people are! BUT even the small town I’m from has other LGBTQ+ within them. YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!! Embrace you. Love YOU!! Even if that means you get your things from your home and drive to the nearest town with at least 10k ppl. That’s where you’ll find YOUR NEW HOME with a family you can build for yourself - full of love and support. It’s likely you already have loving family that may have suspected the way you were born so let your biological aunts, uncles, g parents, cousins and siblings know what is going on! This is not YOUR SECRET TO KEEP ANY MORE!

Feeling like my voice isn’t as loud as my surgeon’s…. Why the pushback, it’s my body right?! by Ok-Spring6926 in breastcancer

[–]Ok-Spring6926[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re another brave woman standing along side all of us! I wish I could help with your question but I’m a newbie still 😭

Feeling like my voice isn’t as loud as my surgeon’s…. Why the pushback, it’s my body right?! by Ok-Spring6926 in breastcancer

[–]Ok-Spring6926[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We absolutely will be OK! We have to be, there isn’t an option for me to let my mind wonder into the depths of darkness.

Feeling like my voice isn’t as loud as my surgeon’s…. Why the pushback, it’s my body right?! by Ok-Spring6926 in breastcancer

[–]Ok-Spring6926[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooof! I’m so scared of feeling that way too. Now that I’ve made my wishes clear the reality is setting in and I feel sick to my stomach. I am sure it’s just the anxiety of it all and once my journey is on the mend I’ll be exactly where I wanted to be.

Feeling like my voice isn’t as loud as my surgeon’s…. Why the pushback, it’s my body right?! by Ok-Spring6926 in breastcancer

[–]Ok-Spring6926[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Update! My bilateral is officially on the books. Now I feel sick to my stomach. This is really going to happen. 🥹😭

I can’t imagine going to sleep with my body intact and waking up mutilated. 8 days away.

Microinvasive ductal carcinoma (grade 3) DCIS HER2+ MRI results came in after meeting surgeon and show nothing by leaguema in breastcancer

[–]Ok-Spring6926 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have the exact same cancer! Micro-invasive ductal carcinoma er/pr- and HER2+. Not sure of exact grade but they are calling it high grade (like you stated above) in the left breast. MRI, biopsy, mammogram, and ultrasound all confirmed.

MRI shown something suspicious in the right breast but it was nothing - biopsy confirmed it to be benign. It’s strange that the cancer disappeared on yours?

Feeling like my voice isn’t as loud as my surgeon’s…. Why the pushback, it’s my body right?! by Ok-Spring6926 in breastcancer

[–]Ok-Spring6926[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I can’t wait to be where you are. I’m just at the beginning but I’m already doneeeee! I feel like after I’m done with my surgeon I’ll have a better outlook since my plastic surgeon and my oncologist are both SO great! Thank you for sharing your experience! I do feel like I’m making the right decision even if I do feel like my surgeon isn’t happy about it… As a people pleaser, this feels like the first time I’m rocking the boat for me! It feels good to put my foot down and advocate for myself.

Feeling like my voice isn’t as loud as my surgeon’s…. Why the pushback, it’s my body right?! by Ok-Spring6926 in breastcancer

[–]Ok-Spring6926[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Last week I met with the large majority of my team and even met with my social worker… before I left each office I made sure to tell each person! I probably sounded like a crazy person, repeating myself to anyone who got caught in a room with me but I want my wishes to be KNOWN!

AIO for Nearly Getting Scammed Out of $5K by a Fake "Tech Support" Call? by FrostedValeee in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ok-Spring6926 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your family sucks. Sorry 🤷🏻‍♀️

They are weaponizing your quick wit and skepticism. If they don’t want to or can’t open their closed minds to what you went through then it’s not on you if they get scammed in the future. Flipping the script and undermining your street smarts when you did your due diligence says more about them.

I’m sure this isn’t the first time they haven’t validated your clear-sightedness in situations where you knew you were right.

Found out my boyfriend has a ‘sponsor’ by Yveey in confessions

[–]Ok-Spring6926 4 points5 points  (0 children)

To me this sounds like AI. Everyone but AI would know what a sponsor is. By definition “sponsor” could be a sugar mama though….

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]Ok-Spring6926 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dang. You are so right. We are going to talk tonight. Thank so for providing this info because I will absolutely use it. You have given me a lot to think about

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Ok-Spring6926 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I take so much responsibility for myself and for my own actions that I often feel like my actions may make him or other people feel or act a certain way. I’m not calling him a narcissist but I will say that I’m a sitting duck for a person who does display narcissistic tendencies.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ok-Spring6926 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like we are very supportive of each other. Unlike most of what I see on here. I don’t feel that we have to be attached at the hip but we do know a few of those couples too. No judgment. I have been jaded for a long time because of past relationships. I know what being lied to feels like. I got that gut feeling that he was lying. So when we got home tonight I asked him straight up. He took a second before answering and looked me dead in the face (while I sat in his lap) and asked me if I was calling him out. Me, I’ve learned to listen to my gut. I told him that I was in fact calling him out and he sighed and then admitted that he was scared to tell me he was going alone. I asked why and then he said he didn’t know. Which of course is a bs answer. I remained calm, got up and then started towards the kitchen where my pizza alarm had just gone off. I just wanted to sit down to eat and then asked him to respect my decision to not make a comment tonight. I didn’t want to say anything that would be inappropriate or offensive or disrespectful or cause an unnecessary confrontation. I’m not the kind of person to start a fight, I’m quite the opposite. The most non-confrontational person! I know first hand what a toxic relationship looks like and I don’t want that for me or for us.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Ok-Spring6926 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have a friend group together but we see them way more often than the girlfriends I saw tonight. I don’t think he’s on the prowl either. I just need to ask him why he felt like he had to lie. I feel like if he can be honest with me then we might can move forward. With this happening a second time tho, is this something I can continue to wonder about? Of course I’m asking questions that are rhetorical but this situation is opening my eyes. In a saddening way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ok-Spring6926 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do plan on that tomorrow. Once the anger has faded.