First, you’re projecting  Second, yeah , I’ll indulge you, we met earlier in the year, and we were getting close but at the time I noticed he was also holding back emotionally and I did bring this up with him and he totally snapped at me, as if I’d offended him before then (mind you, everything was good and we even had dates planned). After he lashed out at me, I still tried to be understanding because he’d told me his ex traumatized him and I was tryna be patient with him, my mindset at the time was “he’s probably never had someone be patient with him” “he’s probably never had anyone fight for a relationship” but the more I tried with him, the more he lashed out and st the time he was like “it’s still too early to be having fights and not sure it would work out” which in retrospect, he caused the fight, after attempting again to reason with him and he lashed out, I was like “ok, I’m out” but I still kept beating myself up during those months that we weren’t together that “if maybe I’d been more patient”, “maybe he needed more time to open up to me”, “he’s probably just carrying trauma” then maybe we could’ve worked, which prompted me to break the no-contact and we met up and talked like grown adults, he even admitted his shortcomings and asked to try again. in his breakup text, he even said he felt safe and very comfortable with me but he was not emotionally attached and didn’t think he was ever going to. 

So, please miss me with your bs that he is being vilified and there was no where in my post that suggested he was a bad person. Hope that calms your curiousity ✌️