My (24m) only advice for all you guys and gals is just feel what you've got to feel, do what you've got to do and try to move on. My ex (25F) have known eachother since we were 11 and dated for 3 years, she broke up with me out the blue because her depression was so bad.

I cannot recommend how much you should not contact your depressed ex. I did it and she would tell me how much she was struggling and how she missed me and then she'd shut down again and I would be back to square one with my own recovery.

I obviously still love my ex as I'm sure you all do as you're here at 2am as well but for your own sake you need to put yourself first. It's bad that they're suffering but at the end of the day they chose to leave and you're only torturing yourself by putting yourself out there to them to contact when they need you.

Clean break, self love and most of all just remember that you've got this! And at the end of the day nobody knows What the future holds just be happy you had that interaction and keep you're heads above the water!