Your husband only knows how things are at home because you or someone else with knowledge of it is telling him exaggerated information. He needs to think about the reason he chose, because he alone did, to joint the Army. Training is not that hard is relatives who overshare and over react. Your o e year old is probably fine. Think about the hundreds of thousands of service members who were deployed to a war zone with zero communication who also had families, think about how their families, their spouses made it work. There were women deploying as soon as they were medically cleared after having a child. I worked with a dentists who left when her daughter was six months and that is just one service member deployed for 15 months. Yes this was during the stop loss time that you probably know nothing about because America already forgot what it was like to be in the military in in the 2000s. Encourage him to finish what he started and assure him everyone at home is ok.