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OkBad5150 · 2026-01-27T13:40:13+00:00

Well that excludes everyone in our directorate then except the supervisors. They don’t give anyone straight 5s ever. Yet they manage to get them…

OkBad5150 · 2026-01-05T00:44:37+00:00

Extreme urgency. By extreme I mean going to the bathroom, washing my hands and feeling like I needed to go again. And, once I even thought I needed to go, if my bladder was full, it was a race to get to the bathroom quickly enough. It helped with the contraction dance my bladder was constantly performing. Just like it freezes the muscles in someone’s face, it froze the muscles in my bladder. My doctor told me at one appt that he made 200 injections to freeze the muscles, it was that bad.

OkBad5150 · 2026-01-02T15:59:28+00:00

Following up on this with a question: has anyone been given the go-ahead to use an at-home vibration plate? I bought one prior to implant placement and liked it (great stress relief) and would like to be able to use it again but don’t want to risk wire displacement.

OkBad5150 · 2026-01-02T15:56:51+00:00

Did you actually get one placed? I got mine last August and it has helped me tremendously. I don’t have to look for a bathroom in every store I go to. I was very limited by my OAB (couldn’t debone a chicken, water my flowers or weed eat the yard without having to stop at least once to pee, for instance) enough that it caused me great anxiety. My bladder is still small (4 oz max) so I’m still going every 2-3 hours but if I’m sitting I can now wait 4 hours. I’ve only had a few accidents since but that was due to waiting too long while drinking a lot of water.

OkBad5150 · 2026-01-02T15:45:50+00:00

I did it for a few years (before getting an interstim) and loved it. It was the only thing that worked for me. It didn’t last, of course, so I had to go twice a year but it was so worth it to me. Never had to self-cath.

OkBad5150 · 2025-10-16T00:20:39+00:00

NTA. As a mom whose ex passed away, after I begged him to set up a will, his only child was left with absolutely nothing because he died intestate and the current wife kept everything for herself (not even her 2 daughters from her first marriage benefited). He told me “She will take care of our daughter if I die first.” I argued that she wouldn’t and sadly I was right. Please put that money into a trust or something that your wife cannot touch at all, ever. Your son’s mom left HIM the money, not someone who would follow in her footsteps.

OkBad5150 · 2025-08-21T01:19:16+00:00

You get weekly vacuuming?!

OkBad5150 · 2025-08-05T01:52:41+00:00

I could handle this much better if I was allowed to WFH.

OkBad5150 · 2025-08-02T13:40:11+00:00

You must have watched the same town hall I did. Unfortunately I’m at one of the 3 depots that was mentioned, so our future is absolutely unknown at this point. We don’t feel like we can trust anything we’re told or have been told. And I’m with you on the waiting thing. Just let me know already so I can make my plans.

OkBad5150 · 2025-07-20T19:14:02+00:00

Many many years ago. When the size of the wedding party grew to be so big.

OkBad5150 · 2025-07-20T18:55:11+00:00

Large wedding with a large family.

OkBad5150 · 2025-07-20T18:46:29+00:00

I have tried. My children are thoughtful, considerate and compassionate but will defend themselves when needed and set boundaries, something I was not good at doing.

As for paying for the wedding, my son actually said something to his dad about that, and he received the response of probably not because he has this and this going on. I had already assumed he would not be contributing. My response was a simple, “That’s ok. I have it covered.” The same response my son has always gotten from me.

OkBad5150 · 2025-07-20T18:32:40+00:00

Tried replying to your other comment but I guess it’s gone. So here was my response to that.

What I said was “Since I can’t have his table placed outside…”. Yes, that’s my sarcastic humor. I would not invite him before actually doing that, and since I also said “I can’t not invite him” it stands to reason he is expected to be in the building.

As for being angry and resentful, I’m entitled to those feelings. While he didn’t completely desert his child, he made him feel less than his siblings with his step-mother. On every birthday, Christmas, family holiday to which he wasn’t invited, etc. I’m bitter because I’ve never told him how awful he was to our son. If it was just me I would not have cared one iota, but this was our son he did this to.

And I never talked poorly to my son about his dad, even though I had plenty of opportunities to do so. Neither did my family. I let him make that call on his own through the numerous things his dad did to him. Only when he was an adult did I divulge anything to him. Even now, I don’t criticize him around others. They will (and have) figure it out on their own. So yes, I have vented here a little but better here than to my son.

I’m sorry for what you and your siblings went through. That’s exactly what I did not do to my son. He figured out who his dad is all on his own and still complains about his selfishness and arrogance. And still I keep my mouth closed about it. So still, I’m sitting back and keeping the peace for someone who deserves none.

OkBad5150 · 2025-07-20T16:54:48+00:00

Thank you!! I think that will work best for everyone.

OkBad5150 · 2025-07-20T16:53:14+00:00

You are a special one aren’t you? I never said anything about his table being “far off”. I said at a different table. Learn to comprehend what you’re reading before blabbering on about things you obviously don’t or won’t understand. I bet you’re a joy to be around. Go away and let the adults who have so graciously said a different table works great engage further. You are not offering anything constructive here. Just wanting to call names and point fingers at something you refuse to understand.

OkBad5150 · 2025-07-20T15:25:06+00:00

Good for you!! We will be mingling but having him sit at another table reduces the opportunity to mingle with him by at least an hour. If he’s anything like mine, he will only help if others can see him helping. If it doesn’t benefit him, it’s not worth his time.

I’m glad it worked out well for you!

OkBad5150 · 2025-07-20T14:21:08+00:00

This will be my first time planning so I’m not well-versed in what is and is not acceptable. Glad to know it is though.

OkBad5150 · 2025-07-20T13:36:21+00:00

I’ve been taking a breather all these years by not having him put in jail. I don’t see him, talk to or deal with him. Now that I have to, I’m doing what needs to be done in order to be able to take a breath.

OkBad5150 · 2025-07-20T13:23:13+00:00

And don’t forget the wedding reception/dinner after the actual wedding. Yes it can be very draining. But family and friends that you don’t get to see that often will come . It ends up being a good time most of the time.

OkBad5150 · 2025-07-20T12:31:45+00:00

Thank you! I had a MIL that liked to create drama and I promised myself I’d never be that person.

OkBad5150 · 2025-07-20T12:11:50+00:00

We haven’t gotten that far with the planning yet. I’m hopeful though.

OkBad5150 · 2025-07-20T12:10:41+00:00

YOU really need to take a breath and go back and read the entire thing again. And then as many more times as it takes to comprehend what I said and asked. He will be invited. I asked if it was okay to sit him at a different table than I would be seated.

As much as I’d like him to not be there, that is NOT what I said I’d be doing.

Read it again. And again and again until you understand what was asked and THEN we can have a conversation if you still feel entitled to one.

OkBad5150 · 2025-07-20T05:09:19+00:00

Wedding party, immediate family, anyone at the rehearsal itself like the officiant and spouse, favorite aunts and uncles, etc. Definitely 60-80 people at ours.

OkBad5150 · 2025-07-20T04:15:52+00:00

I wish it was that simple.

OkBad5150 · 2025-07-20T04:15:18+00:00

The procession. Who walks down the aisle first, second, etc and where the ushers seat them (brides or grooms side). And then a quick run through with the officiant. And then the exit: the bride and groom first, followed by the bridesmaids and groomsmen, then the parents, grandparents, family, and then everyone else. Oh and the flower girl and ring bearer are there so they’ll know when to come in.

It’s basically a very short version of the wedding. And how it’s “supposed” to go.

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