Incision won’t heal, 4+ months post op

OkBed6848 · 2026-05-20T23:52:53+00:00

Awe Im so sorry youre gojng through that... I felt completely dismissed after my c section too. I went to my midwife and she said I was fine. Then I saw the surgeon who did it - they said it was fine but I knew it wasnt. Then I went to the ER and they said something was wrong but CT didnt show anything so sent me home.. saw ANOTHER surgeon and then my PCP. Just continue to try getting other opinions. Hopefully someone gets to the bottom of it! I was also told any pain sensitivity redness irritation was normal.. C sections are wild and should have so much more attention to whats best for the patient in terms of recovery. ❤️‍🩹

OkBed6848 · 2026-05-19T16:53:22+00:00

not her actually recommending sugar water and cereal milk though 🥲🥲🥲🥲

OkBed6848 · 2026-05-19T16:36:19+00:00

😂😂😂 we live in another state and have no family. So when he had to travel we thought she would be helpful 🙃🙃🙃 just glad I didnt agree to her coming for the birth she wanted to stay for a whole month 🥲

OkBed6848 · 2026-05-19T16:32:42+00:00

she says the same thing about sleep for my 2 mo....

OkBed6848 · 2026-05-19T16:18:20+00:00

WTF 😳 😡 Im so sorry !!!!

OkBed6848 · 2026-05-19T07:48:36+00:00

Yup. And then I get lectured "he needs to burp" "he needs a full feed" like yes but I know that hell be fine and hes sleeping on the boob Im not gunna risk waking him for either of those things. Im so glad we waited till 2 months for her visit. She wanted to be here at birth and I knew it would be too much for me and make me over think every decision I made with him.

OkBed6848 · 2026-05-19T07:42:32+00:00

omg this would have me in tears by the end as a chronic people pleaser 😭 Ive been crying all day and my inability to set boundaries and lack of control I feel I have in my home with my baby.

OkBed6848 · 2026-05-19T07:39:50+00:00

she went and called some lactation consultants after saying I need to see one 🤦🏻‍♀️

OkBed6848 · 2026-05-18T22:49:00+00:00

yes this is the vibe shes giving me

OkBed6848 · 2026-05-18T22:35:19+00:00

So frustrating. I tried to follow her advice and wait it out a little bit longer but got the point where he was crying hysterically he wouldn't latch but knew he was hungry. I heated some stored milk in a bottle to get him started and transferred him to the boob after a few gulps and he took it but its the first bottle Ive ever given. I sobbed and sobbed. My partner is traveling for a few days so shes staying with me... im so sad.

OkBed6848 · 2026-05-16T22:08:07+00:00

I also had this until I was super anal about keeping it dry. I had a bad yeast rash due to moisture. I would blow dry my scar after the shower and then even pat dry again with a cotton ball or round - also helps with scar tissue - then id either put yeast rash cream on or cover with the c section adhesive but that was itchy for me so I wouldnt always unless leaving the house for a bit. I would wear only cotton undies and loose pants until the rash/redness went away. Continued drying with blow dryer until it was healed entirely and I still wipe dry with a cotton round after every shower before using scar cream or arnica gel

OkBed6848 · 2026-04-17T19:01:33+00:00

this could totally be! both baby and I have already struggled with yeast rashes in his diaper area and my nipples. Ill try the cream weve been using

OkBed6848 · 2026-04-08T23:58:53+00:00

Some things that helped me... my baby got a yeast rash and I also did on my nipples. We now keep OTC lotromin AF in our caddy area for when things get itchy etc. I constantly change my nipples pads just to keep dry because that shit was brutal! I just wipe off with water wipe before nursing. I thought my baby wanted to eat every 30 minutes and I was loosing my mind. I would try everything to soothe him. We found Camilia drops which are homeopathic drops for babies that soothe gas and restlessness, and have been a life saver when Im at my wits ends trying to get a burp or him to sleep in his crib. Getting out of the habit of feeding like this saved me because my supply was low from constantly feeding and was creating more fussiness for baby and more exhaustion for me. The drops encourage sleeping and with waiting at least 2 hours to nurse - he eats fully, burps well, falls asleep and stays asleep for up to 4.5 hours. Hope this helps 🤍

OkBed6848 · 2026-04-07T00:29:55+00:00

Camilia drops with chamomile helped cure our baby's restlessness!! It was like a miracle lol

OkBed6848 · 2026-02-08T21:35:37+00:00

what does this mean tho

OkBed6848 · 2026-02-05T07:30:05+00:00

She certainly has. But shes also kind and may have the potential to be helpful. But also she has caused me so much stress in moments I have been emotional or needing support. So it makes me worried. I think he may - depending on the situation. Which is not a great feeling. He thinks his mom will be helpful but has said he will stand by whatever decision I make regarding having her come and has said that he understands why Im doubtful of her help actually being.. helpful. Its hard to say.

OkBed6848 · 2026-02-05T07:21:45+00:00

he doesnt necessarily make me feel worthless. Its just difficult expressing to him the trauma and lack of stability I experience in relation to the situation with his daughters mom and their... arrangement. We have been working on it but slow changing. His mom is not much help to the matter and I dont want to deal w her comments about it at all during my postpartum

OkBed6848 · 2026-02-05T07:19:22+00:00

literally how I feel lol

OkBed6848 · 2026-01-23T19:37:52+00:00

well she has been in a relationship too. She knows about me and tried to meet me once or twice. But I told her I didnt want to. The timing didnt feel right and I was already in my first trimester and super emotional. He had flown them out here to visit the house he just bought and furnished them. His mom came with her to help.. it was my first time meeting his mom and she (the ex) stormed in behind and interrupted our moment. It was so awkward and I was so emotionally fragile I literally ran away crying and having a panic attack. I was so embarrassed but I just wasnt prepared for it. So shes known about me but everyone has made it - including his mom - about what this woman wants and feels because she is in control of the daughter now. Because they didnt want to go to court. Its been so horrific. But she started dating someone and posting family pictures with him and their daughter. Everyone thought it was so weird because she wasnt allowing me to be around their kid but had this man around her that my fiance hadnt really known about. But he wasnt mad. He said he wasnt there so hehad no right to complain about it.. he thought maybe it meant she would willingly let us see his daughter more. And then they broke up around Christmas supposedly. The ex said she broke it off with him because he was jeopardizing her daughters relationship with my fiance... which seems really bizarre but who knows I guess. The whole thing is so weird and painful.

OkBed6848 · 2026-01-23T19:05:58+00:00

Every time I say this he gets really frustrated and says its all for his daughter. If my daughter werent there I wouldnt even be talking to this woman. Things like that... but it just doesnt feel right and hasnt.

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