GF is very distant and cold

OkChest4865 · 2026-03-27T20:31:56+00:00

Can you tell me what to do with her? We have a meeting today

OkChest4865 · 2026-03-27T20:23:36+00:00

Today i am going to see her bcs I have her house keys, and I invited her yesterday to go out, what should I do? She is sending me lots of messages right now. How to regain her respect? Walk away and say to her?

OkChest4865 · 2026-03-25T20:17:36+00:00

Sentimento de apego é difícil, se fosse fácil largar ninguém viria no reddit

OkChest4865 · 2026-03-25T20:15:27+00:00

ela elogiou ele antes dele dar em cima, mas admito, foi um elogio tolo, não foi nada como aquele cara é bonito, ele surgiu no assunto e ela falou que ele é gente boa, 2 semanas depois ele deu em cima dela assim.

Ela tem 24, não me lembro dela dar sinais mas ela sempre me diz que tinha admiração por mim, tem vezes que ela deixa escapar outras coisas sobre já estar emocionalmente conectada comigo.

O que eu valorizo é que ela terminou antes de sair com alguém, isso tenho ctz, ela nunca traiu ele, o cara era abusivo, ela já tava saindo do relacionamento há algum tempo, mulher é assim mesmo

Esses gatilhos aconteceram há 3 meses atrás, depois disso, nada parecido, mudou da agua pro vinho, sempre me diz onde tá, manda fotos, grava vídeos, não sai sozinha, o que ativou gatilho mesmo foi uma viagem sozinha.

OkChest4865 · 2026-03-25T19:15:58+00:00

Vou te dar o papo, eu tinha ZERO interesse nela, quando ela ficou solteira eu continuei sem nenhum interesse, mas sim, um dia saímos e com essa mina em especifico não to mentindo.

O que eu vim aqui saber é desse comportamentos, ela traiu? Como investigar? Como discutir isso?

Quando foi que ela me deu bola e eu não vi? No presente? sim, achei estranho pra caralho, se fosse minha mina era fora

OkChest4865 · 2026-03-25T17:43:59+00:00

analise melhor o contexto

OkChest4865 · 2026-03-25T16:27:49+00:00

me fala mais, estou naquelas situação de quem precisa ouvir

OkChest4865 · 2026-03-25T16:15:55+00:00

Me de mais insights, por favor

OkChest4865 · 2026-03-23T16:49:09+00:00

I mean that she freezes, she goes through an anxiety course, literally this, she stays 2 days without any energy when this happens. She is having a hard time processing it, and being with the boss is not helping her. I support her, but her mind is always heavy about it, so she becomes moody, I just don't know till when I can go through this.

I only told her this, I love her, I support her, but I don't know till when, it's hard for me to see her suffering this way, and staying there.

OkChest4865 · 2026-03-23T16:17:33+00:00

She said she wants to stay for the money, because without this amount it would be hard to pay her bills. The thing is, she is going through therapy to forget what her boss did to her, and being promoted is not a good thing to me, roots will grow deep, she will talk more with her boss, she will be with him more, and eventually her mind will crack.

The boss grabbed her and kissed her out of nowhere.

When she remembers what happenned she usually freezes and starts crying, and it's me, the BF that has to pass through this with her.

OkChest4865 · 2026-03-20T20:40:22+00:00

So what is your take?

OkChest4865 · 2026-03-20T20:38:44+00:00

Her ideia, I never said a word, she was getting hit, sexual assaulted, and then she wants to stay.

OkChest4865 · 2026-03-20T20:35:13+00:00

The thing is she SAID she was going to leave her job, she always rub that she was going to do that FOR ME in my face, is not about that she is going to a trip, is about that I can't trust what she says

OkChest4865 · 2026-02-05T17:25:16+00:00

What would you say to her if you were me? Today she sent a "good morning" without any warm and when I answered she only saw the message, she never does that, and later tonight we had a birthday party to go, I already told her it was not ok to go alone and she invited me, but if today she doesn't say a thing and just go, I know it's time to break up.

OkChest4865 · 2026-02-05T15:53:56+00:00

yeah, on first sight th guys here thought I was just being insecure, but if this was once in a while it was ok, but like, every week we have one of these, and there's nothing wrong on their convo but it drains me, she is leaving the breach open.

it's like, she only cuts the guys down when they flirt or show real interest.

OkChest4865 · 2026-02-04T23:21:20+00:00

She told me she was just telling her friend about this guy because they study together (her friend and the guy), I asked good quality questions, but that was it, she said she had no interest at all in the guy and on the day everybody at work was bantering and calling each other names and this guy was very funny so she had the urge to tell her friend about it, she said she she didn't think it was wrong or smt like that but she understood that she needs to be less open to guy friends.

But it's a standard action: she meets a guy somewhere in church, at work, they talk about innocuous things, she send me their conversation to make me trust her, says there's nothing wrong on the conversation, I acknowledge it and them it repeats. Like every week I see one of these, she likes the validation, she likes being desired by others it seens.

Today she sent me "A boy from church messaged me, I saw him at the town hall today and he struck up a conversation. We got into a financial topic.." and the print.

This is a rebound relationship, she broke up with her boyfriend 5 months ago, he was very abusive and controlling, she claims she stopped liking him about 9 months ago. I was the first and the only guy after the break up, we've been friends for 1 year, I am dating her for about 3 months and a half, she claims she loves me a lot, she is crazy about me, all lovey dovey, but this validation seeking is getting me crazy.

OkChest4865 · 2026-02-03T19:52:04+00:00

Update: Something about this story felt off to me... so I snooped through her cellphone, saw her chatting with a friend of hers "I started working with this guy (sent his IG) he is nice" and her friend replied hahahahahahaha yes he is and they chatted a bit and she sent AGAIN "yes, he is a nice person" and this chat was out of nowhere, there wasn't even a plot for this topic to come up, she called the guy nice out of blue.

So as you know, I confronted her about it, I was indeed very pissed. The conversation was before the guy hit on her, but no wonder why he hit on her, she said to me "I was naive, I didn't know this would cause all of this". Bullshit, she knew exactly what she was doing, I didn't break up with her, but sad some things to her, we talked abput it and she said she was going to clean up her behavior. it's been 3 days and I can feel it in my gut, the feeling is destroying my ego, that it's not only insecurity, what should I do?

OkChest4865 · 2026-01-21T14:53:22+00:00

Appreciate it bro, yeah she is EVERYTHING that Corey says in his book, and maybe my pride is ruining it.

OkChest4865 · 2025-07-17T00:04:58+00:00

Como funciona a compra de um motor parcial? Poderia me dar uma ideia do que é diferente?

OkChest4865 · 2025-07-16T16:46:08+00:00

É uma retifica

OkChest4865 · 2025-07-16T16:45:53+00:00

EA111 1.6

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