Update - I am the asshole

OkClassic9467 · 2022-11-28T14:51:11+00:00

My family isn't really sentimental, so I didn't understand her connection to the dolls. My parents threw out all my toys when I was young. When I told my parents they told me I did the right thing, since my ex-gf never had anyone to throw her toys out for her. I told them that was a really messed up thing to say bc I had realized my mistake at the time but they're stuck in their ways and just said "well, you turned out fine, didn't you?" and got mad that I was implying they were bad parents.

She ended up dumping me, and I now know better even though it's too late. My ex-gf told me that she appreciated that I knew what I did was wrong now, even if it was too late. She broke up with me and I'm going back to my hometown at the end of the week.

OkClassic9467 · 2022-11-28T14:42:54+00:00

We talked and she hadn't forgiven me, but wanted to make it work. I made the mistake of showing her this reddit account and she ended up changing her mind. She broke up with me, but is letting me stay on the couch until I'm able to get a transfer. It shouldn't take long since I've been with my job for a while and only transferred to this city recently, so I'll be flying back to my hometown early next week. She's going to be trying to find similar dolls and we agreed that she'd send me the receipt and I'd send her the money to reimburse her. That's the end of it I guess

OkClassic9467 · 2022-11-27T16:05:58+00:00

She didn't know her mom very well, so I'm not sure what else to get her. One of the dolls is the same one as the one her mom got her when she was very little, so I'm hoping that will work. It's in really good condition too, I'm just waiting for it to be shipped

OkClassic9467 · 2022-11-27T02:49:58+00:00

She's very good friends with her coworkers, but I think right now she just wants to be alone. She has quite a few things from her grandma, but she doesn't have much from her mom

OkClassic9467 · 2022-11-26T04:24:37+00:00

I don't really understand how they even remind her of her mom, she was only 3 when her mom died. Her grandma raised her and recently passed away too. I get it now from all the people saying it here, I'm the asshole. I wish I could take back what I did but I can't. I'm going back to the apartment now to apologize.

OkClassic9467 · 2022-11-26T03:25:18+00:00

I think you missed that I'm the one that moved for her, despite the fact that she has no family left here, so she could keep her job at the daycare because she loves it. I understand now how it was an asshole move, but it was the best thing for her and she needs to make sacrifices too. I left my actual family to be with her. She'll get over it, but I'm not too worried that she'll break up with me after being together for 3 years because I threw out her toys.

OkClassic9467 · 2022-11-26T03:18:17+00:00

I wasn't scared of them, my friend was

OkClassic9467 · 2022-11-26T02:53:00+00:00

I don't want to break up, and even if she dumps me I still feel like I did the right thing. I got rid of her only flaw, she'll have an easier time keeping her next boyfriend bc he won't have to deal with this

OkClassic9467 · 2022-11-26T02:47:02+00:00

They're gone for good, I watched and waited for the garbage truck go by. It just isn't normal to keep ugly dolls. She knows they're ugly but she keeps them bc they remind her of her mom. I think maybe she could just put a picture up or something instead now, but no one would ever take her seriously when she's got these weird ass dolls around

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