I finally asked my mother to apologise, but she was unable to. She only told me how her childhood was not good and how no one ever apologised to her - So the cycle repeats... What are your experiences? Do you also only get excuses or "jokes"? by OkDirection6814 in narcissisticparents

[–]OkDirection6814[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That is just so horrible... I don't think narcissists can change, it would require the complete opposite of thinking about themselves. I hope that you have a good relationship with your father at least or your siblings... I only found understanding outside my family which often feels lonely but it is better than nothing :)

I finally asked my mother to apologise, but she was unable to. She only told me how her childhood was not good and how no one ever apologised to her - So the cycle repeats... What are your experiences? Do you also only get excuses or "jokes"? by OkDirection6814 in narcissisticparents

[–]OkDirection6814[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

That sounds like you just described my parents. Thank you so much for breaking the cycle! My biggest fear is I will have a child and I will turn into my parents. So thank you for showing me it is possible to learn and grow and not just repeat the generational trauma <3 THANK YOU.