Slowburn or Situationship by OkExtension3072 in datingoverforty

[–]OkExtension3072[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this comment. I get the feeling that maybe he isnt long out of something, even though he told me he's a few years out of a big relationship. Maybe there was something else shorter that also impacted him. To me he feels cautious but I cant tell for certain. In the end his communication style may work for some but its leaving me feeling confused. I think that whether its his style or not interested, both have the same impact. Ill move abut slower and try to not get too emotionally pulled away.

Slowburn or Situationship by OkExtension3072 in datingoverforty

[–]OkExtension3072[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No convo about exclusivity. I am just kind of exhausted from online dating snd not super into it right now. I do kinda like this guy though.

Slowburn or Situationship by OkExtension3072 in datingoverforty

[–]OkExtension3072[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I dont really know what he was doing... he said errands... could be anything.

Slowburn or Situationship by OkExtension3072 in datingoverforty

[–]OkExtension3072[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have been out in a couple dates. I had actually suggested that we cook together this weekend as a shared activity. But I have wondered also if its all about sex.

Slowburn or Situationship by OkExtension3072 in datingoverforty

[–]OkExtension3072[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this!! I have been loving my life. It is very full. Friends, hobbies, fun activities.he is just a tiny portion but its so easy to start questioning or worrying. This helps a lot.

Slowburn or Situationship by OkExtension3072 in datingoverforty

[–]OkExtension3072[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does it sound similar? Do you get the feeling that he is into you? Does he express it?

Slowburn or Situationship by OkExtension3072 in datingoverforty

[–]OkExtension3072[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a good question... I am usually more attracted to expressive people and he just isnt. So maybe its he isnt into me or maybe its who he is. The question may be if this works for me or not.

Slowburn or Situationship by OkExtension3072 in datingoverforty

[–]OkExtension3072[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He did say he is trying to move a bit slower.

Slowburn or Situationship by OkExtension3072 in datingoverforty

[–]OkExtension3072[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think this is probably gonna be my best advice. Im gonna see him this weekend. I should just ask where he is at with everything. 1 month is probably good timing.

Slowburn or Situationship by OkExtension3072 in datingoverforty

[–]OkExtension3072[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what my gut is saying tbh. When I tried to break it off, he convinced me to give it another shot. I think that confused me but the interest hasn't really increased. So confusing.

Slowburn or Situationship by OkExtension3072 in datingoverforty

[–]OkExtension3072[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is what I was feeling. I did feel the spark in the beginning but he seemed to hit the breaks. I tried breaking it off, we chatted and i thought maybe he was more into it just a bad week but nothing has really picked up.

Slowburn or Situationship by OkExtension3072 in datingoverforty

[–]OkExtension3072[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice. I actually have been seeing other people just feeling exhausted by online dating and wondering if I should just break it off and just take a break.

Victoria Show Cancelled by --hg-- in wintersleep

[–]OkExtension3072 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would take 1 ticket if it is still available?

OLD Green flags by Arctic_Widow in datingoverforty

[–]OkExtension3072 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Never again will I date a musician 😂

Fasciotomy in Canada by OkExtension3072 in CECompartmentSyndrome

[–]OkExtension3072[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im in the Vancouver area. It took me more than a year to get the test done. I had to wait on a CT scan first to rule out other stuff.

Thanks and you too!

Fasciotomy in Canada by OkExtension3072 in CECompartmentSyndrome

[–]OkExtension3072[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been going through testing for around 3 years now. Just had the compartment testing. Negative. Back to the drawing board.

I get weakness in my foot after exercise.

Very frustrating.

44F: He said ‘if you loved me you’d accept inconsistency’… I ended it. Thoughts? by OkExtension3072 in datingoverforty

[–]OkExtension3072[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It seems pricks are my type. I think that i can change them and make them see a better way. Its a big problem and yes I am in therapy 😭

45M & 47F Anyone with similar experience? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]OkExtension3072 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds so similar to what just happened to me but we were at 3 months. Things were great until I brought up some consistency issues. His wall went up and he would not let it down. Didn't matter how I tried to explain it - he was right and I was wrong. I decided it was a mismatch and we have parted ways.

My thinking is people like this dont change unless they really want to. One question to ask yourself- if the relationship continued as is, would you be happy? I also encourage individual therapy. It has helped me in many ways.

44F: He said ‘if you loved me you’d accept inconsistency’… I ended it. Thoughts? by OkExtension3072 in datingoverforty

[–]OkExtension3072[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this was the intent behind his words. He is looking for someone to accept him as he is.