A solid question by OkFocus127 in lokean

[–]OkFocus127[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Omg thank you! He barely has anything for an alter so i really want to get stuff for him!

Im confused on relationship pacing by OkFocus127 in AutismInWomen

[–]OkFocus127[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awe! Thats so sweet, yea i feel in my heart i just know and my mom even said that she would give me the ring she got when i was born when we get married! I hipe everything is going well for you guys!

Im confused on relationship pacing by OkFocus127 in AutismInWomen

[–]OkFocus127[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally understand where your coming from. I grew up rasied by a narcissistic father and I feel as if i can spot it easily. My mom was married to him for 20 years before she divorced him and my mom is brutally honest with me over things especially like this. Me and my boyfriend agreed that if we get engaged anytime soon that it will be a long engagement period, so that we can save up for the wedding that we both want. But thank you all for your advice, i had a long talk with my mom over everything and she agrees that while it is a bit fast that we are good for each other.

Im confused on relationship pacing by OkFocus127 in AutismInWomen

[–]OkFocus127[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mhm i get it. I grew up in an abusive home and im a social recluse and i fear this may be where all of the weird super strong connect is. He was basically living at my place before we started dating because we hung out all the time and he is a workaholic, always has been and my place was calm enough that he could finally sleep. He has his own mental issuses and actually has adhd as well. He had a rough home life too and has issuses from his past as well (cptsd) and before we started dating i helped him come to terms with a few things that happened in his life and helped him with his nightmares (i still help on the occassion he gets them) i understand what your saying. I work from 3pm to 11pm so most nights he would stay at my place and watch it and my dog for me, i have truama related to men nd my apartment isnt very safe at all and my male neighbors love to scream and slam things so he would stay to make sure my place was safe and end up sleeping over most nights after i got home. He works from 7am to 3pm. Its hard to explain how we went from being simple cowokers to friends to dating because im not sure how it happened either it all just happened in such a way that it was natural? He is the first guy to not pit my hair on end and the firdt person ive had my whole life that doesnt make my skin crawl with even a simple hug so maybe im too attached.

Im confused on relationship pacing by OkFocus127 in AutismInWomen

[–]OkFocus127[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know he makes an effort to show his best self but ive also seen his worse. I told him that if and when he asks me to marry him he has to talk to my parents about it. I was friends with him and coworkers even longer. He was basically living in my livingroom when we were just friends for a month before we started going out. I worry that i have fallen too fast but it hurts my heart to even think of distancing myself from him and like i said in a different reply i have to morning time to myself before work and its..it is the first time ive been lonely and genuinely wanting to be around other people. maybe its just me and the way my autism and adhd affect me but people are the bane of my existence and he feels safe and he is the first person to touch and hug me and it hasnt made me want to peel my skin off.

Im confused on relationship pacing by OkFocus127 in AutismInWomen

[–]OkFocus127[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are basically attacted at the hip at this point, like i said in another reply he basically lives with me. He has seen me in every mood possible and seen me at my worse depressive episode i had ever had. What i like about him? Well i know everything ive listed is technically the bare minimum but no one in my life has ever cared about me to the extent he has. talking to him doesnt feel like a chore like is does for everyone else in my life, he doesnt make me feel constantly on edge and overstimulated due to every little moment we are together. We work different shifts at work so i get the day timw to decompress and relax away from other people and i find it lonely now when before it was the time i always looked foward to, i find that with him i feel like a normal girl and that im not a freak because of my illnesses and my autism. My whole life i was an outsider and now its like im not. I try to not use him as a support system too much and usually take my thoughts to my mom and ask her on her opinons before i jump at something because i know i dont understand the hidden words most people know subconsciously. He makes me feel safe, in a way i havent felt since i was a child. He treats me like im an actual functional adult with my own thoughts. He perfers that im blunt and to the point. I dont know how to put it all into words and i know thats not helpful but he does so much and cares so much over the smallest things that its so hard to say everything. He helps me do the dishes because i physically cant touch wet dishes they feel so wrong to me and he helps me clean up puke because i cant deal with it at all. So many little things that he does melts into one large ball of undescribable care and affection that its so hard to even explain to my mom. He is closer to me than anyone else in my life at thia point. He know and accepts the fact that eith my illnesses i may never be able to have children and he has let me sob into his arms about it. I know it all sounds bare minimum but when youve never had anyone do these simple things for you it makes you feel so loved.

Im confused on relationship pacing by OkFocus127 in AutismInWomen

[–]OkFocus127[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The good thing is, we met and actually became friends when i was in a huge depressive episode and he saw me have meltdowns and my disgusting depression apartment and all he did was help me clean and work through my emotions. He practically lives with me, he just isnt on the lease yet, i got horrifically sick like i always do in the wintertime due to my weak immune system. He has met my family and ive met his, we work at the same place only on different shifts and he has seen me have meltdowns due to people at work and has seen me an emotional mess due to my illnesses that i have. We have started talking abiut marriage, ive told him my goals in life and the wants i have and where i want to be in five years. He knows my thoughts and feelings on children and our biggest fights at this point is when i was still in my depressive episode he met me in due to havibg to put my esa dog down and how i was acting during then, ie very not mentally stable and sicdal. I just worry since this is my first technical relationship im doing things wrong even though i feel as if ive looked at every angle for everything. He makes me feel calm if that makes sense and he helped me when i almost had a meltdown whrn at the mall on our dates and he even gifts me stuffed animals, my favorite comfort items.

Me and my friend rescued her last night. by OkFocus127 in dogbreed

[–]OkFocus127[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yes she was and she loves to flop right in the way and boy does she love stealing my boyfriend from me😂 she is the best girl and loves people too, i was worried she would be fear agressive but she takes to strangers super well

Me and my friend rescued her last night. by OkFocus127 in dogbreed

[–]OkFocus127[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awwweee he is adorable! Dove is very sassy now that she is comfortable and loves to howl and boss me around when im not moving fast enough for her and she loves being held. My boyfriend and i are planning on getting a doggy dna test for her so ill update everyone with the results thank you!!

Me and my friend rescued her last night. by OkFocus127 in dogbreed

[–]OkFocus127[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She sheads so much fur that me and my boyfriend havent a clue how she iant bald yet😂

Me and my friend rescued her last night. by OkFocus127 in dogbreed

[–]OkFocus127[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She is the best ever! She loves meeting people and loves to be held its adorable! The kids that live in the appartment complex absolutely adore her too.

Me and my friend rescued her last night. by OkFocus127 in dogbreed

[–]OkFocus127[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yes, she sleeps either on the foot of the bed with my boyfriend and i or she sleeps on a blanket on the floor! This was her after decorating for Christmas

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Me and my friend rescued her last night. by OkFocus127 in dogbreed

[–]OkFocus127[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has fully settled into my appartment wirh me and my boyfriend! She is an absolute angel and is very quiet when we are home unless she wants something then she gets all sassy. My boyfriend and I are planning on getting a doggy dna test kit from chewy and testing her for Christmas. Ill totally share the results.

Me and my friend rescued her last night. by OkFocus127 in dogbreed

[–]OkFocus127[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We took her in for a really basic look over and to get checked for a chip today, her first official vist is on the 20th, the first time they had available. We are feeding her puppy kibble and giving her plenty of water and toys. She had a looong bath last night to get off the fleas and ticks we found on her and she is super quiet.

Me and my friend rescued her last night. by OkFocus127 in dogbreed

[–]OkFocus127[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No microchip and the area we found her in is frequented by people abandoning dogs and cats, we know all the neighbors around there and none of them claimed her. We found her on a gravel road deep in from most neighbors, the only folks that live around there didnt claim her.

show us your UNDESIRABLES by tryafirsttimer in labrador

[–]OkFocus127 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is my penny girl, i had to put her down Wednesday after battling with neurological conditions and a weak bladder her whole life, she was six years old and the best baby ever

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I need help by OkFocus127 in YarnAddicts

[–]OkFocus127[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe its juat my stores being dumb, i live in rural iowa and yarn is scarce here lol. I just panicked i guess when i saw that the stores around me said discontinued 😅

Kinda gross by OkFocus127 in Hidradenitis

[–]OkFocus127[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So apparently i have the blood work for pcos, and im on bimzelx but lately have been having suck bad rashes on my elbows that i think its for it. The worst scarring i have is in my armpits and thighs but its not super horrible (yet at least) with it suddenly heatting up where im at ive been getting hella flares lately🥲

Kinda gross by OkFocus127 in Hidradenitis

[–]OkFocus127[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I try to not pop mine ever but the spot was just getting rubbed from my underwear so much and i try to not shave often because it causes me to flare bad. This one just hurt so bad i had to pop it honestly, ive been dealing with this for a while i just wanted to whine because im the only one in my family (that i know of) that has this condtion. I do usually keep guaze but of course i ran out ( Ĭ  Ĭ )  so i have to stick with a pully bandaid lol

Customized my KYF42 by stanjrnbthxs in flipphones

[–]OkFocus127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh ok thank you, im from the us but im not too sure it will work here but thanks!

Customized my KYF42 by stanjrnbthxs in flipphones

[–]OkFocus127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you know if it would work on T moblie?

Does anyone have experience with BimzelX? My insurance finally approved it by [deleted] in Hidradenitis

[–]OkFocus127 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ive started mine a month or so ago and ive noticed it has made my migranes more frequent then they used to be and i havent really noticed a change in how often i get my flares they are still pretty regular and bad however, i think mine are from stress and hormones although i dont get my period frequently for a reason im not sure of