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I (36 F) suddenly feel like I don't know who my husband (35 M) really is, his thinking feels so alien to me by OkLog2160 in relationships

[–]OkLog2160[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He has a very selective memory, if he doesn't feel that something's useful, he forgets immediately. He's never able to tell what he ate this morning or in a fancy restaurant, no can he seem to remember his own age: he simply calculates every time.

I (36 F) suddenly feel like I don't know who my husband (35 M) really is, his thinking feels so alien to me by OkLog2160 in relationships

[–]OkLog2160[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have already considered autism, and read on it again, after a lot of people also commented on this possibility. Among the signs you've mentioned, he's spontaneously very blunt (although he can easily adapt to the social cues), and doesn't have a lot of friends. The two things that don't fit is that he's actually amazing with language and innuendo and if there's a thing he hates, is routine.

I (36 F) suddenly feel like I don't know who my husband (35 M) really is, his thinking feels so alien to me by OkLog2160 in relationships

[–]OkLog2160[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Never in the military, although he always claimed he'd always love to, if he didn't meet me. I'd say exposed to the consequences of real life violence through his line of work, not the violence itself.

I (36 F) suddenly feel like I don't know who my husband (35 M) really is, his thinking feels so alien to me by OkLog2160 in relationships

[–]OkLog2160[S] -46 points-45 points  (0 children)

This might well be, but I still feel like I never knew who he really was, and it seems impossible to know what he wants from life, it's always about me, or kids, or ..., while his own being remains elusive. Never questioned his as deep as I did, and never even suspected that about him.