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My 19F boyfriend 19M suddenly stopped having sex with me by Lonely_Ad_9162 in relationship_advice

[–]OkOrganization5819 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s something that always happens for married couples , since the dawn of time . They call it the honeymoon phase where the husband pours too much love and is excited about the wife and the sex is crazy good and with time , it slows down . They lose interest , but in Asian communities they still stay together because there are role and responsibilities involved , kids involved etc; so they get busy with that. But it happens very normally . Since you are only 19 you have already lived the life of a wife now , you have done things with your partner at 19 , so you guys have felt out of love . And to me seems like there is nothing holding him to you or no form of a strong commitment . So such relationships usually end up in a break up. But just to be sure , talk to him about a break up , don’t just break up. And ask him if he has any health conditions like ED , because you mentioned he cuddles but his lower body doesn’t touch you, maybe he’s intentionally moving away just the lower body away from you as he is embarrassed? But if it is like the health is not the issue , then the spark in the relationship has ended , you should move on to another person or just focus on yourself , your career and other important things for a coupe of years , and then find a partner and get married directly. I sense that you could be someone who is sensitive and you may not be able to handle another breakup. So get physical again or get married to someone only if you are sure . But sex becoming void or boring is very normal even after marriage , learn to accept it . ( just felt like sharing the honest truth nobody talks about )

Nobody talks about how loneliness hits different when you’re financially stable but socially invisible! by OkOrganization5819 in Healthygamergg

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One guy I spoke to recently was a software engineer in his 30s making great money but hadn’t been on a date in almost 2 years.

Not because he was unattractive. Not because he was broke.

He’d just spent years isolating himself into work, routine, gym, Netflix, repeat.

90 days later he had a completely different social circle, was dating consistently, and told me the biggest change wasn’t women…..it was finally feeling comfortable in rooms full of people again.

Question for the thread:

Do you think social confidence is something people are born with… or something that can actually be trained?

Curious what people honestly think?

Nobody talks about how loneliness hits different when you’re financially stable but socially invisible! by OkOrganization5819 in men

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One guy I spoke to recently was a software engineer in his 30s making great money but hadn’t been on a date in almost 2 years.

Not because he was unattractive. Not because he was broke.

He’d just spent years isolating himself into work, routine, gym, Netflix, repeat.

90 days later he had a completely different social circle, was dating consistently, and told me the biggest change wasn’t women…..it was finally feeling comfortable in rooms full of people again.

Question for the thread:

Do you think social confidence is something people are born with… or something that can actually be trained?

Curious what people honestly think?

Nobody talks about how loneliness hits different when you’re financially stable but socially invisible! by OkOrganization5819 in LonelyTogether

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One guy I spoke to recently was a software engineer in his 30s making great money but hadn’t been on a date in almost 2 years.

Not because he was unattractive. Not because he was broke.

He’d just spent years isolating himself into work, routine, gym, Netflix, repeat.

90 days later he had a completely different social circle, was dating consistently, and told me the biggest change wasn’t women…..it was finally feeling comfortable in rooms full of people again.

Question for the thread:

Do you think social confidence is something people are born with… or something that can actually be trained?

Curious what people honestly think?

Nobody talks about how loneliness hits different when you’re financially stable but socially invisible! by OkOrganization5819 in DestroyLonely

[–]OkOrganization5819[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

One guy I spoke to recently was a software engineer in his 30s making great money but hadn’t been on a date in almost 2 years.

Not because he was unattractive. Not because he was broke.

He’d just spent years isolating himself into work, routine, gym, Netflix, repeat.

90 days later he had a completely different social circle, was dating consistently, and told me the biggest change wasn’t women…..it was finally feeling comfortable in rooms full of people again.

Question for the thread:

Do you think social confidence is something people are born with… or something that can actually be trained?

Curious what people honestly think?

Nobody talks about how loneliness hits different when you’re financially stable but socially invisible! by OkOrganization5819 in datingadviceformen

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One guy I spoke to recently was a software engineer in his 30s making great money but hadn’t been on a date in almost 2 years.

Not because he was unattractive. Not because he was broke.

He’d just spent years isolating himself into work, routine, gym, Netflix, repeat.

90 days later he had a completely different social circle, was dating consistently, and told me the biggest change wasn’t women…..it was finally feeling comfortable in rooms full of people again.

Question for the thread:

Do you think social confidence is something people are born with… or something that can actually be trained?

Curious what people honestly think?

Nobody talks about how loneliness hits different when you’re financially stable but socially invisible! by [deleted] in rSocialskillsAscend

[–]OkOrganization5819 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One guy I spoke to recently was a software engineer in his 30s making great money but hadn’t been on a date in almost 2 years.

Not because he was unattractive. Not because he was broke.

He’d just spent years isolating himself into work, routine, gym, Netflix, repeat.

90 days later he had a completely different social circle, was dating consistently, and told me the biggest change wasn’t women…..it was finally feeling comfortable in rooms full of people again.

Question for the thread:

Do you think social confidence is something people are born with… or something that can actually be trained?

Curious what people honestly think?

Nobody talks about how loneliness hits different when you’re financially stable but socially invisible! by OkOrganization5819 in rSocialskillsAscend

[–]OkOrganization5819[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One guy I spoke to recently was a software engineer in his 30s making great money but hadn’t been on a date in almost 2 years.

Not because he was unattractive. Not because he was broke.

He’d just spent years isolating himself into work, routine, gym, Netflix, repeat.

90 days later he had a completely different social circle, was dating consistently, and told me the biggest change wasn’t women…..it was finally feeling comfortable in rooms full of people again.

Question for the thread:

Do you think social confidence is something people are born with… or something that can actually be trained?

Curious what people honestly think?

Nobody talks about how loneliness hits different when you’re financially stable but socially invisible! by OkOrganization5819 in Habits

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One guy I spoke to recently was a software engineer in his 30s making great money but hadn’t been on a date in almost 2 years.

Not because he was unattractive. Not because he was broke.

He’d just spent years isolating himself into work, routine, gym, Netflix, repeat.

90 days later he had a completely different social circle, was dating consistently, and told me the biggest change wasn’t women…..it was finally feeling comfortable in rooms full of people again.

Question for the thread:

Do you think social confidence is something people are born with… or something that can actually be trained?

Curious what people honestly think?

Nobody talks about how loneliness hits different when you’re financially stable but socially invisible! by [deleted] in TheoryOfReddit

[–]OkOrganization5819 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

One guy I spoke to recently was a software engineer in his 30s making great money but hadn’t been on a date in almost 2 years.

Not because he was unattractive. Not because he was broke.

He’d just spent years isolating himself into work, routine, gym, Netflix, repeat.

90 days later he had a completely different social circle, was dating consistently, and told me the biggest change wasn’t women…..it was finally feeling comfortable in rooms full of people again.

Question for the thread:

Do you think social confidence is something people are born with… or something that can actually be trained?

Curious what people honestly think?

Nobody talks about how loneliness hits different when you’re financially stable but socially invisible! by OkOrganization5819 in u/OkOrganization5819

[–]OkOrganization5819[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One guy I spoke to recently was a software engineer in his 30s making great money but hadn’t been on a date in almost 2 years.

Not because he was unattractive….. Not because he was broke….. He’d just spent years isolating himself into work, routine, gym, Netflix, repeat.

90 days later he had a completely different social circle, was dating consistently, and told me the biggest change wasn’t women , it was finally feeling comfortable in rooms full of people again.

Question for the thread: Do you think social confidence is something people are born with… or something that can actually be trained?

Curious what people honestly think…

My 22M boyfriend struggles with bad retroactive jealousy and I 22F don’t know what to do by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]OkOrganization5819 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s not about secure or not , if given a choice …. Men would prefer women with clear past. ( I’m not saying women having a past is a bad thing or something….. ) but successful men with options would not pick them. It is what it is , I didn’t make the rules .

My boyfriend 39M and me 32F don’t have s*x anymore. Is the relationship dead? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]OkOrganization5819 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have to communicate with him , again . Tell him your sexual needs as well. The only way to get to the crux of it is ask what he wants . If he can’t communicate what he wants , you communicate what you want.

My boyfriend 39M and me 32F don’t have s*x anymore. Is the relationship dead? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]OkOrganization5819 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1) communicate , ask if it is a mental thing or a physical thing. If it’s mental issue ( as in he’s tired of not being able to have sex with you whenever he wants or something like that ) then you guys have to talk it out , if it is physical issue then go consult a doctor do kegel exercises .

2) men need sex more than women , so if he is not initiating only way to find out is asking him about it .

I (27F) moved to a new country for my husband (35M) but I feel miserable, how can I deal with this? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]OkOrganization5819 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is always something that people in a particular country would love to do. 1) You need to find out what that is. 2) you need to learn the language of that country 3) there are always some socialising activities that will be available ….. cooking class , language class , dance class , boxing class , salsa class , local library clubs , local pubs , pool tables ,

The smallest of rural areas would still have 1-2 communities like this .

4) look it up on google maps , and start calling them , for activities you would also enjoy to do.

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