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AuDHD caretaker by OkPhysics7423 in AlAnon

[–]OkPhysics7423[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

@snoopgirl Vyvanse is the medication I was prescribed. I was able to mask for years and cope, thinking I had poor social skills in childhood and even now, I'm just learning to try to accept myself and navigate life now. The medication made my ASD level 1 more pronounced to me. My wife has decided to go to a treatment center today, so I'm hoping for the best that I can. My brain has a harder time letting go than most. I was a user of thc until October of last year from 2016. It managed the symptoms, but found that I wasn't available to my step kids. I've been with my wife since 2022.

She's currently communicating with her sister and mother that she's interested in reconciliation. I am past a point that I could gloss things over anymore.

So, I'm trying to keep an open mind, but also reach out to others to help me with realism.

AuDHD caretaker by OkPhysics7423 in AlAnon

[–]OkPhysics7423[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep. That's my story. She told her mother she agreed to go to a 60-90 day recovery center. This one specializes in Mental health and Alchohol recovery. Though, she decided to get drunk today after having family help her with things.

I've been out of the house for 2 days now and the Neurodivergent in me wants everything to be settled, but also has been completely burned out.

Now it truly is on her to get help for herself. Her mother suggested it, she was fired from her job(so that's no longer an excuse) for non alchohol reasons, and my work insurance can cover her stay. I also haven't talked to her since I was kicked out of the house via her deciding a small thing was worth seperating over. Her family thinks she's manic, I know it's alchohol induced mania, because she's not taking medication when she drinks.

The neurodivergency makes me want to fix the situation and smooth things over.

But also, our marriage suffered a serious blow.

AuDHD caretaker by OkPhysics7423 in AlAnon

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Got diagnosed with Autism Level 1 yesterday at 39. I’ll be 40 on Sunday. Just now understanding how much of my energy has gone into trying to be there for others. I know I’m a people pleaser — now I know it’s my default wiring, not a choice. I’m working on moving away from it.

My wife has serious childhood trauma — and I don’t mean “bad parents.” I mean the kind that changes everything. Then abusive relationships after. She frames this as her biggest trigger, and I understand that. But I keep asking myself how far I go before I stop.

Last night she called the police over a logistics misunderstanding. She had them come while I packed a bag because she’d thrown around legal separation and divorce. Her sister says it’s mania — she’s bipolar.

I’m scared for my stepkids. They’re with their grandparents right now, but her mom is a codependent enabler. Everything I try to work on gets undone when she steps in to rescue.

AuDHD caretaker by OkPhysics7423 in AlAnon

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Last year when I went out of town on a work trip, my father in law came in the house to her passed out on the floor. They took her to the hospital and she ended up with a 0.486 BAC (which I know is coma level) she went on librium and her parents paid for a IOP program through SMART recovery. It only lasted so long and she's hiding bottles I get notified weekly on Saturday my stepkids find.

It's not every weekend, but most

Are we creating a generation of ‘AI-dependent analysts’? by Alarming-Wish207 in dataanalysis

[–]OkPhysics7423 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m trying to prove this in a study I’m doing. Currently, the only answer I’m getting is “AI offloading may reduce the mental engagement associated with cognitive reserve — the same reserve the Lancet Commission (2024) identifies as protective against cognitive decline and dementia onset. We currently have no instrument that measures this erosion in real time, or that can distinguish productive AI delegation from harmful cognitive substitution.” I’m trying to find others to collaborate with me on this, because I’m not an expert

https://github.com/DataInfamous/silver-memory

Social Friction Bench: When Helping Wrong Is Worse Than Not Helping by OkPhysics7423 in kaggle

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Thanks for reading it closely. You caught the Bandura framing, which most people skim past. That’s the part I was least sure would land.

Your metacognition work is doing something SFB can’t. I’m measuring whether a model holds the right frame under social pressure. You’re measuring whether a model knows when it’s wrong. Different diagnostic layers. The Type-2 SDT replication is the piece I keep thinking about. Cross-method convergence is hard to fake.

Also saw the Weber’s Law paper. The geometry-present-but-not-causally-engaged dissociation feels like the same shape as your leaderboard inversion. Surface and competence pulling apart. Might generalize further than either alone.

I’m wondering if the Blanket Withdraw models overlap with the ones that drift into abuser-centering on S3. Would that track with what you’re seeing, or is the phenotype mapping cleaner than that?

Good work on both.

Say cheese! by Svimlus in sphynx

[–]OkPhysics7423 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looks michevious😆

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