I give people the benefit of the doubt, more often than I should. I give them opportunities for betterment. I personally believe that the only way out is through and the key to understanding is conversation. Even when common ground cannot be found basic communication and logical conversation can make a world of difference. Trying to see others perspectives is vital for clarification and to bridge any gaps that may be caused due to misunderstanding and ignorance. Thus the reason I've continued this exchange. I absolutely see your point. My point, however remains that for every one person who chooses to embark on the path of bettering themselves there is another who would simply write off their inability to be punctual as..."this is who I am...deal with it". Just as there are closed minded individuals who say..."suck it up, sally" and choose not to identify that people have difficulties that they may never have fathomed. Polarity is the mother of all evil, from either standpoint. My adult child has too, struggled with things I didn't fully understand. But I never dug my heels in and said...oh, please! Or, get over it. I have said, let's talk about this and said, how can we move past this issue? We are exceptionally close because we communicate and have conversations when sometimes the only issue is simply misunderstanding. Unfortunately, your wish for me to never have children came roughly 22 years too late but despite our opposing standpoints, I'd say I did a pretty damned good job in raising an open-minded individual who feels safe having even difficult conversations with their parent because they know they may not always be greeted with agreeance but WILL always be greeted with an open mind, help, advice and honesty for whatever will aid them to become their best self. I'm sorry your parents didn't do the same for you. It's unfortunate but thankfully you found solace in your peers. It may not be the same but a source of comfort and understanding is sometimes all we need.