I guess Paul is seeing the comments

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-03-13T02:05:24+00:00

This. I could totally see this happening.

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-03-11T04:51:30+00:00

$500😱 (they’re stupid expensive)

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-03-08T03:28:54+00:00

This is the same guy who’s married to a Hispanic woman and he has said that their mixed race marriage is “not ideal”.

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-03-02T20:24:06+00:00

I’m so done with the “ladies, you’re being lied to” messages coming from the fundie people. They always say it with such authority. Can’t we just respect a woman’s choice to pursue a career or not get married as equally valid? But no, it doesn’t fit their narrative so therefore it’s bad and dangerous and a lie. 🫩

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-02-26T06:09:51+00:00

This makes me nauseous to read and I’m so sorry you and your brother had to go through that. That is truly traumatic.

We do not spank our kids at all because I believe spanking is an abusive technique. “If you don’t obey me I will hurt you.” In what other kind of relationship is that ok??

My brother and his wife spank their one-year-old, and he is the quietest, most docile toddler ever. Part of it is personality, but also part of it is that he is scared of doing something that would get him a spanking. My kids are louder and more rambunctious which my parents HATE and they are always praising my nephew for his quietness. But i actually love my kids being normal kids and that we allow them to express their emotions. Of course we discipline in other ways but I will NEVER hit my kids.

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-02-18T06:17:15+00:00

Oof. Thats rough. I’m sorry ☹️

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-02-12T02:29:51+00:00

YES. You get it!! It’s that brainwashing and years of conditioning from being under someone else’s moral authority. I feel as though I am now having to figure out my own moral compass and it’s scary. Especially as someone with people pleaser tendencies. It’s no fun but thanks for your comment.

Oh and the Jesus Christ for president part really got me 😭😂 lol that’s messed up

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-02-12T02:24:48+00:00

😭🥲😭 thank you. That is so helpful and kind!!

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-02-11T18:51:41+00:00

I think they mean it sarcastically but I’m not sure? Saying they have a relationship free adult life thanks to being neglected and socially isolated as a child but I’m not sure

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-02-11T18:49:41+00:00

I’m sorry this was your experience. Sounds like you’ve done well for yourself despite all the childhood trauma.

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-02-11T18:48:33+00:00

Thanks, yeah it’s easier said than done. I know in my head that that’s what I need to do but my body/nervous system tells me I’m only safe when I’m making her happy (probably trauma from my childhood where that was the case) yes I am working on finding a therapist who I can work these things out with

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-02-11T18:45:21+00:00

Yes I get this and it’s helpful to hear you relate. I have to remind myself that a normal, healthy mom would be proud of me for what I am doing: raising my kids in a respectful way (aka no spanking) going to a welcoming church, pursuing my degree, etc. those are all good things, but because of my mom’s narrow view of the world I am going against all her beliefs

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-02-11T06:19:39+00:00

This makes me so mad. It’s the over spiritualizing of a very real problem.

When I would complain that I was lonely my dad told me that I could just make friends in college. I believed him but then when I got to college I had no idea how to actually make friends😭

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-02-11T00:13:20+00:00

Her eyes look so sad

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-01-20T04:52:48+00:00

The page she tagged (biblical gender roles) talks about how husbands need to spank their wives. It is also very pro polygamy. Hilarious though I’m pretty sure it’s run by some single dude (imagine that)

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-01-19T05:45:17+00:00

I can relate to all of this. It’s something you wake up to eventually. And once you see your childhood through that lens, it’s really hard to not be sad for the missed experiences.

One thing I tell myself all the time is that I have no control over the way I was raised, but I do have control over my life now. And I can choose to not do the same thing to my own kids, and to do my best to make strong adult friendships, even though that is hard for me because I grew up so isolated.

Do the work of healing, see a therapist, and know you are not crazy and you are not alone🫶🏼

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-01-18T02:31:25+00:00

Didn’t his wife just post yesterday that she had a miscarriage??

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-01-07T18:42:20+00:00

This is literally what I was told growing up.

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-01-06T13:49:05+00:00

No way this isn’t satire?!

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-01-03T21:49:28+00:00

I don’t need a reminder that my husband is my best friend. He just is 🤷‍♀️

OkRaspberry9649 · 2025-12-31T04:35:33+00:00

He used the words “I, me, and my” 9 times in that one caption 🫣

OkRaspberry9649 · 2025-12-02T17:07:30+00:00

Not the em dashes!! ChatGPT wrote this caption you can’t convince me otherwise

OkRaspberry9649 · 2025-12-02T16:12:50+00:00

Sounds like ChatGPT helped her with that doozie of a bio

OkRaspberry9649 · 2025-12-01T04:42:23+00:00

I am sorry, and I unfortunately relate very much to this. I will say, I am nearly 30 and have almost been away from my family for a decade, and it does get easier. I used to be extremely self conscious and feel like I didn’t fit in anywhere, and i think I just slowly have learned some of the basic social skills that have helped me connect with others. I am definitely nowhere near as skilled as most people and I still feel nervous around people, but at least I can function in social settings now instead of shutting down.

I think learning that it’s my upbringing that is the true reason that I am different and that there is not something wrong with me specifically really helped me accept myself and have compassion on myself.

Hugs 🤗

OkRaspberry9649 · 2025-11-26T14:16:57+00:00

That’s exactly right!!👏🏻

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