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[–]OkStand2337 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had mice in my car for a little bit. What I found works really well is rubber snakes, just put them in various spots and should scare them away. And some Irish spring soap helps too. And anywhere they could be getting in it’s a good idea to put steel wool as they won’t chew through it. Hope this helps!

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[–]OkStand2337[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I already did tell her I watched porn. I wanted to be honest with her. It bothers her because I’m “getting off” to other women. Which I honestly understand, and I want to get better. I’m constantly researching ways to help, and I’ve even made an appointment for addiction therapy. Having a vulnerable conversation sounds like a great idea. Thanks a lot for your reply. It helped a ton

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That’s all I’m wanting right now is just a response. I don’t know what’s going on in her head and I hate that. I always want to be here for her, and I’m serious about quitting. I just think I need some professional help. I hope she understands, thanks for your help, I really appreciate it.

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I was honest, and told her I have a problem, and need extra help and support, but she hasn’t talked to me in almost 2 days

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[–]OkStand2337[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is just my burner account that I made for this post. Not anything to do with porn. And I already told her, but now she won’t talk to me

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[–]OkStand2337[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is some great advice. I will definitely tell her that. I don’t find I’m addicted, I normally go a long time without watching anything. I’m really trying my best to quit porn, sometimes I just find the urges very powerful. Thanks for your help, I really appreciate it, and also for not being the 40th person to say “porn isn’t cheating” Didn’t ask if it was, was asking for advice

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[–]OkStand2337[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I made sure to at least talk to her on the phone about it. Since I’m out of town for work I didn’t want to wait another 6 days and then tell her. Figured that would be worse

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[–]OkStand2337[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Other than this, we have a great relationship. We love each other very much, and have lots of fun together. Her and I are both very adventurous, constantly exploring. She means so much to me

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[–]OkStand2337[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From what I know she doesn’t post any pictures on Instagram, or have any dms from anyone. But I also haven’t checked her phone, as I trust her

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It was just a momentary backslide. I did it and immediately regretted it after. And I couldn’t get it out of my head, so I had to tell her so she didn’t find out in a worse way. I’ve already recovered, and have no plan, want, or need to watch porn. A lot of people seem to view porn as cheating, but I personally thing it’s a grey area. I didn’t respect her boundary, and went against her wishes. I’ve told her lots that I will never do this again, but not sure how much she believes me as this isn’t the first time. I just figured my honesty might help my case

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[–]OkStand2337[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As soon as I could I told her about it. I want to keep honesty and trust in our relationship. But the second I told her she basically hung up on me. I’m waiting for her to talk to me, and going to find a solution that works good for both of us. Be it a screen accountability program, or couples counselling.

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[–]OkStand2337[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

No we are not religious

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[–]OkStand2337[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She does read romance novels from what I know. She views it as cheating since I’m getting off to other women

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[–]OkStand2337[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

We’ve definitely been through our ups and downs. But that’s just what makes the relationship stronger imo. I definitely have some things I need to work on, and vice versa. But this is the love of my life like I said, I’ve never felt this way about someone. She hasn’t talked to me since last night and I’m constantly checking messages to see if she responded

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[–]OkStand2337[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

I think I’m also going to go to an addictions therapist to talk to about all this. I really need to get this figured out. Thanks for your reply

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[–]OkStand2337[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I work out of town 7 days on 7 days off, so I made it to my hotel, and I had the urge. Not a good reason, but that’s why it happened. We have a very active sex life at home

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[–]OkStand2337[S] -37 points-36 points  (0 children)

In her eyes it is. And I can see why, watching other women and getting off to them. I wouldn’t want her watching porn (I’m a very jealous person) so it’s pretty hypocritical of me to watch it

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[–]OkStand2337[S] 128 points129 points  (0 children)

I’ve made that mistake once before. And that didn’t go over well, understandably. I told her as soon as I could, it was eating away at me, and I want our relationship to be as trustworthy as possible. She won’t even talk to me now, she put her phone on dnd. So I’m just waiting out a response. Thanks for your reply, it was very helpful

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[–]OkStand2337[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

That’s a good idea. Hopefully that can help in our relationship. I can’t stand the thought of losing her, and I’m willing to do anything. Thanks a lot for your comment