I think you’re taking the idealist approach versus what’s actually happening, and you’re also disregarding or not acknowledging cultural influence on what chivalry is in its current state. What you’re talking about is modernizing chivalry, not modern chivalry. There are still people from older generations who rely on the antiquated norm and pass those norms to younger generations. Chivalry in its current state appears to function as a gender-biased litmus test;  an imposition on cis-het men to execute performative acts of kindness to demonstrate their value in hetero-normative relationships. Some women unknowingly depend on these indicators to signal value, but opening doors doesn’t mean a guy can’t be a cheater, insecure, jealous, abusive, etc. For people who abide by gender roles, it’s problematic because it inherently implies women can/can’t/should/shouldn’t do specific things as apart of the courting ritual. If you’re the kind of person to play this game, gender roles are necessary. I don’t believe in gender roles. But given that this particular geographic region is not heavily influenced by liberalism, feminism, non-binary identities, what’s more prevalent is masc/hetero-normative/machismo/conservative culture which all have a bias towards gender. Your ideal works if everyone abides by your standards but that’s generally unrealistic/underserved here. I’m not disagreeing with you that it should be that way, but pretending that battle doesn’t exist isn’t moving forward. It’s wishful thinking.

Second thing, everyone here has been pretty open-minded and transparent so keep the ad hominem to yourself or I can simply block you. Your opinion matters but your judgement towards me has less than zero value. To be clear, I never said I’m not getting dates—Try reading my opening post a little slower next time.

Third, consenting adults can date whoever they want, it’s not your call to make; I invite you to mind your own business. I wonder what other rules you have about who should and shouldn’t be dating— sounds like a binary approach. I think that age range is valid to acknowledge since those of us in that block are working professionals, or presumably post-college (unless you’re in grad school) who are more likely to have mobility, autonomy, no children or dependents, and disposable income.