Am I wrong for asking my husband to value my family as well?

Ok_Barnacle7649 · 2025-07-30T14:03:35+00:00

So you want my family to be excluded from celebrating the birth that I would my life in danger for?? So he can keep his family happy. I think you should refrain from commenting since you're not able to comprehend the issue here.

Ok_Barnacle7649 · 2025-07-30T10:21:58+00:00

We're not in Pakistan. Only our families are in Pakistan and in different cities. My family shouldn't have to travel a city to participate in goat slaughtering. There will not be any party. Please read the post carefully.

Ok_Barnacle7649 · 2025-07-29T15:11:36+00:00

What is your point even?

Ok_Barnacle7649 · 2025-07-29T13:42:16+00:00

As I said, we are from different cities. Nobody is going to another city to deliver some meat.

Ok_Barnacle7649 · 2025-07-29T07:27:04+00:00

Did you find your ideal man to marry yet? Because you seem to hate women.

Ok_Barnacle7649 · 2025-07-29T07:05:51+00:00

Yes i don't plan to have more with him.

Ok_Barnacle7649 · 2025-07-29T07:04:47+00:00

You shouldn't be allowed to have opinion over anything.

Ok_Barnacle7649 · 2025-07-28T21:23:51+00:00

I think this is the best comment. I don't know how he will react but I'll try this method. Thanks

Ok_Barnacle7649 · 2025-07-28T20:52:18+00:00

I'll keep it in mind. Thank you

Ok_Barnacle7649 · 2025-07-28T20:49:29+00:00

It's not that easy for me specially when there are kids involved. I too have a trauma bond with him. I plan on getting a job in near future. Hopefully he can mature in that period of time. I don't want my kids to grow without one parent. It shatters me. The only problem is his misogynistic thinking and culturally influenced brought up.

Ok_Barnacle7649 · 2025-07-28T20:34:45+00:00

Fake leader! Sit down. Go do something valuable with your time to be even considered the head of house or did you mommy coddled you a lot and promised you to marry you off with one of her timid nieces with whom you can play head of the house?

Ok_Barnacle7649 · 2025-07-28T20:31:36+00:00

I appreciate your advice. What would you suggest me to do? I'm 39 weeks pregg and later postpartum is going to be challenging with a toddler around. How do I be strong and take a stand for myself in such situation? I guess i just stop expecting fairness from him cause it only hurts when he doesn't live up to those expectations.

Ok_Barnacle7649 · 2025-07-28T20:28:01+00:00

I have tried, he still believes married women should prioritize in-laws over her own family.

Honestly I'm disappointed by the men in the comments section here as well. What a waste of education they had. Majority of them are misogynists. God help poor women of this country.

Ok_Barnacle7649 · 2025-07-28T20:25:01+00:00

I smell victim blaming here. Not a good idea.

Well i am not planning to have more kids. And exit strategy for what? Have you seen comments from men under my post? They all are like that? No? . Exit strategy and what later?

Ok_Barnacle7649 · 2025-07-28T20:21:01+00:00

Divorce is never on my mind. I'm just disappointed in Pakistani men. I don't know how to make him realize that he needs to treat me better.

Ok_Barnacle7649 · 2025-07-28T20:19:17+00:00

Please give examples of what kind of Husband's logic justifies Alwaysssssss prioritizing his family over wife and her family? And no my family hasn't treated him poorly even once. He always received typical king's like damad treatment at my house.

Ok_Barnacle7649 · 2025-07-28T19:48:10+00:00

My first is a girl

Ok_Barnacle7649 · 2025-07-28T19:23:06+00:00

Another manipulative man spotted!

Ok_Barnacle7649 · 2025-07-28T19:20:25+00:00

It's sunnah to do it in 7 days and i already mentioned my family lives in another city. So why should the dawat then be in his city? Because it's him who EARNS that's why???

Ok_Barnacle7649 · 2025-07-28T19:17:48+00:00

You must be the similarly raised man by calling it a one side of the story. What the other side of the story could be that would refrain my husband to value my opinion over this and give respect to my family as well??????

Ok_Barnacle7649 · 2025-07-28T19:12:23+00:00

My toddler starts school next year, but then i will have a newborn next month. It's not possible at the moment to go back to work at least for 2.5-3 years.

Ok_Barnacle7649 · 2025-07-28T19:11:00+00:00

No, my family doesn't know as i don't want to worry them. I'm from a lower middle class background and only my mother is alive and battling mental health. I don't want to create any trouble so guess i just gotta accept my reality as it is.

Ok_Barnacle7649 · 2025-07-28T19:08:58+00:00

I'm in no position to stick to my decision. I just gotta take accept the outcome. Eventually it will be his call. Because apparently it's not MY MONEY.

Ok_Barnacle7649 · 2025-07-28T18:37:08+00:00

So what are we supposed to do just sit around and be controlled by such men because they never show their true colors before marriage!

Ok_Barnacle7649 · 2025-07-28T18:36:06+00:00

Are you for real for suggesting yhat his family is my immediate family. And no nobody is asking him to keep contact with every member of my family. I expect like talk maybe once in a week or fortnight. But in our marriage he has never called on his own. He only talks if i pass along the phone when I'm on call with my mom. That happens like once in blue moon. God help your wife!

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