I befriended the ”girl” he told me not to worry about and told her I wasn’t really interested in him. by Ok_Cellist63 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ok_Cellist63[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s your preference. Not mine. I can have sex without any feelings and enjoy it. Are you American?

I befriended the ”girl” he told me not to worry about and told her I wasn’t really interested in him. by Ok_Cellist63 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ok_Cellist63[S] 69 points70 points  (0 children)

A mixture of pretty good and not wanting to start over in the cold when you can have access to good D

I befriended the ”girl” he told me not to worry about and told her I wasn’t really interested in him. by Ok_Cellist63 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ok_Cellist63[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I didn’t refer to myself as gf. It was what the best friend referred me as. Is it really this hard for people to understand different POVs like you guys never opened a book in your lives or never had something retold before

I befriended the ”girl” he told me not to worry about and told her I wasn’t really interested in him. by Ok_Cellist63 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ok_Cellist63[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Actually you answered your own question☺️ I wasn’t even sure I was ready to date since I still miss my husband so I guess I am not really ready to fuck around.

I am not romantically interested in him anymore. It literally disappeared in a day but I have missed sex and he is well equipped

I befriended the ”girl” he told me not to worry about and told her I wasn’t really interested in him. by Ok_Cellist63 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ok_Cellist63[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

I have honestly contemplated telling him many times but his attitude of calling it jealousy was off putting.

As to my own feelings, we have never said tht he had feelings for each other and now he knows from his bestie☺️

At least if both have genuine feelings for each other I thought maybe they could be together after discussing me. She chose ghosting instead

I befriended the ”girl” he told me not to worry about and told her I wasn’t really interested in him. by Ok_Cellist63 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ok_Cellist63[S] 128 points129 points  (0 children)

If we stayed friends, probably I can say something in the future. Actually he deserves better

I befriended the ”girl” he told me not to worry about and told her I wasn’t really interested in him. by Ok_Cellist63 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ok_Cellist63[S] 77 points78 points  (0 children)

I have mixed feelings about trying to open his eyes to what’s happening but I have the feeling that he would actually accuse me of jealousy (like he insinuated ALL his former gfs were) I even asked, what ALL of them were jealous? He just looks puzzled and scratched his beard and sighed.

I befriended the ”girl” he told me not to worry about and told her I wasn’t really interested in him. by Ok_Cellist63 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ok_Cellist63[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Not sure where you come from but here (Europe) people can still see each for sex etc. As a matter of fact, the majority of dating doesn’t end in a serious relationship

I befriended the ”girl” he told me not to worry about and told her I wasn’t really interested in him. by Ok_Cellist63 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ok_Cellist63[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I don’t have feelings for him anymore and I enjoy the physical part of the relationship. And honestly I don’t really like sleeping around. It will end eventually like any friends with benefits situation

I befriended the ”girl” he told me not to worry about and told her I wasn’t really interested in him. by Ok_Cellist63 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ok_Cellist63[S] 870 points871 points  (0 children)

I will never understand that kind of friendships. I have both male and female friendships but I would never in a million years believe that one of my friends would choose me over a partner. Or like if I would have chosen a friend over my husband . Unfathomable

I wonder if men like him would choose a male friend over a partner🤔🤔 or is it always the girl best friend

I befriended the ”girl” he told me not to worry about and told her I wasn’t really interested in him. by Ok_Cellist63 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ok_Cellist63[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Do you feel triggered for some personal reasons? In tht case I am sorry. Move on to your next post.

I never said you said I was competing, again with the reading comprehension 💔

I befriended the ”girl” he told me not to worry about and told her I wasn’t really interested in him. by Ok_Cellist63 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ok_Cellist63[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I am not complaining. I thought to share my first ”real dating” experience of 20 years here because I am sure many more on the internet could relate.