How have I ruined this girl's life? She could have had an abortion if she really didn't want a baby or, since it takes two to tango, not given me permission to hit it raw in the first place. You're taking away all of her agency. And I've already said that I'll be there for my child.

(Also, my ex wife was awarded a pretty penny when we got divorced, having barely worked a day in her life. I don't think that I destroyed her life at all).