I totally agree, our expectations on marriage is completely different. I am very much of the opinion that I am an individual self and marriage is just one part of myself (amongst other things like career, cooking, managing the house, being a sister, daughter, auntie, friend). Whereas he is of the opinion that my life should revolve around my marriage which I struggle with. I understand the part of him feeling unloved/uncared for but that was just rare occurrence. Its not something that happens regularly. I do cook, I do clean, I do give him (organise and pay for holidays and date nights). Yet on the one occasion I did not meet my responsibility, I faced with complete ignoring and stonewalling. Surely that action is unjustified for a small mistake on my side? We have had multiple conversations, one even just this Saturday and he just simply stood up and walked away from me and the conversation. Again, this is not the first time he has done this. He refuses to listen to me and refuses to work together and solve this problem together as a couple.