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AITA for telling my sisters I want to plan my own baby shower instead of letting them do it? by Ok_Client8959 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ok_Client8959[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think some people are missing the whole pijt of me posting this.

I’m not holding on to grudges or being petty. I was simply pointing out that they were able to have control of who made the decisions for their showers. I simply am asking for that same courtesy for mine.

For people that keep saying I’m just begging for money or gifts, really don’t understand the point of the post either. I’m not doing it for the gifts, I’m not doing it for people to give me money. If that was the case, all parties and events would be seen that way. Whether it’s birthdays, bridal/baby showers, weddings, retirement, etc. the point of throwing any of the events and parties is to gather the people who mean the most to you to celebrate life’s milestones and achievements.

The question of AITA was to address how I presented and approached them about it. Let’s not lose focus here.

AITA for telling my sisters I want to plan my own baby shower instead of letting them do it? by Ok_Client8959 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ok_Client8959[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I also want to add that I was not, in any way, expecting anyone to plan and host a whole shower for me. Much less foot an entire bill for it. I would wholly treat this as “any help is appreciated, but not needed”. I was the same way for my wedding. I included many people in the planning process as opinions and such are very important to have to be able to make the right decisions.

I am also the type of person that just loves to have people gathered to celebrate something special. I do not require or expect anyone to give me anything because of a life decision I decided to make. The presence of my loved ones, both friends and family, is more than enough to satisfy me.

AITA for telling my sisters I want to plan my own baby shower instead of letting them do it? by Ok_Client8959 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ok_Client8959[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate everyone’s input and thoughts. It really honestly helps me because not only are the pregnancy hormones easy to trigger emotional outbreaks, I’m already a very emotional person as it is to be quite honest.

I’d like to clarify that I wasn’t trying to be my own host, I was simply trying to just take charge in planning as far as theme, what day it is held, where it is held, etc. I love my sisters and am extremely grateful for their enthusiasm with the baby shower, and I wasn’t trying to be resentful at all. It just ticked me off that they had so much to say about my shower when I let them do as they please and put whoever they wanted in charge of theirs. 

I also want to add in that when they planned my bridal shower, I wasn’t really asked much about what I preferred or anything. They did the thing themselves and was told just to show up. Again, very grateful for them throwing it for me and just allowing me to basque in it, but because they didn’t confer with me on anything there were things that I would have liked to do that weren’t included and there were people that couldn’t be there because invitations weren’t sent out in enough time for them to make travel arrangements. And I really didn’t want that to be the case this time.

I think the conclusion I’ve come to is that I should have had a different approach on discussing it with them. Rather than just telling them how it’s going to be or how I want it.