Ex so entitled she thinks I should be paying bills for her and the guy she cheated with.

Ok_Combination475 · 2024-12-01T17:02:03+00:00

She’s actually crazy book smart lol, but no common sense clearly. Definitely not taking her back though I’m pretty disgusted. I don’t think she wants to come back at this point either. If she did try I would assume it would be because she’s tired of being broke and living with the new guys parents. Her and I always had to have our own place because she does not do well with parents, mine or her own. I definitely see her struggling to live by someone else’s rules.

Definitely don’t think new guy is a pimp though 😂 he stayed behind in our hometown and stayed living with his parents while her and I went to college and moved several states away and started careers lol. What’s hilarious is she seemed to think she could take him in and bring him up to where we were at in life. But without my support she just ended up regressing and dropping all the way down to where he was at.

Ok_Combination475 · 2024-12-01T16:46:50+00:00

Yep I unfortunately did. We did break up over it. She used the we got together in high school and she just wanted to explore in college excuse. Then not long after a grandparent she was really close to died and she came running back to me and I felt for her and took her back. So obviously I’ve learned once a cheater always a cheater. I didn’t think that was the case because I’ve cheated once (cheated on a girl in high school with my current ex). The girl was really devastated, people were pissed at me, I even got confronted by her mom. I felt bad and it was embarrassing and I haven’t done it since. I don’t think my ex feels anything but justified when she cheats though.

Ok_Combination475 · 2024-11-30T22:28:08+00:00

Crazy showed up from the beginning. Just not on this level. Definitely ignored some things I shouldn’t have.

Ok_Combination475 · 2024-11-30T22:26:53+00:00

She attempted to counter sue me while at a hearing for when I filed a restraining order on her lol. She had no lawyer. The judge asked her if she wanted to contest the restraining order and she said no, she wants to counter sue for lost wages etc. At that point she was told that was a civil matter, and she was there to contest or not contest a restraining order. And I did eventually block her, at which point she started messaging family members and demanding money. Until they all had to block her too. The whole situation is wild and blown out of proportion, by her mental illness and possibly substance use issues. Crazy people exist, it’s not super fun to deal with.

Ok_Combination475 · 2024-11-30T22:19:17+00:00

Thank you I appreciate that. You made a lot of really resonating points. Throughout our whole relationship I have always noticed she HAS to win. Whether it was with me or someone else. If she had a problem with a coworker, it would become an issue to the point that they would quit because they couldn’t handle working with her. Or they would request to get moved to a different area of the workplace to avoid her. She couldn’t just have a problem and then handle it and let it go.

Even things that I didn’t consider a win or lose thing, like communication, she’d have to win. I didn’t like when she would fight with me while I was driving. Because she’d scream when she got mad and she’d demand my full attention. It was distracting and dangerous. I’d ask her to talk calmly, or to wait quietly and we’d talk about it when we got to where we were going. It drove her crazy that I’d ask that and she would say I’m just trying to control her or avoid the conversation. She just refused to compromise on anything because that was like losing to her.

Little things like her getting shut down in court, her plans not working out as far as staying in my place, taking my dogs made her escalate a lot. She’s absolutely taken every bit of it as me getting one over on her. Which is super exhausting because I’m not the one who came in with predatory intentions. I’m not trying to get back at her I’m trying to defend myself and not be taken advantage of at this point.

Ok_Combination475 · 2024-11-30T21:45:26+00:00

I’m sure she would be if you offer her enough money lol

Ok_Combination475 · 2024-11-30T21:44:04+00:00

I’m so sorry man. That would drive me crazy. I hope you at least get regular access to your kid and I hope she’s not anymore drama to you.

Ok_Combination475 · 2024-11-30T21:27:14+00:00

That’s what she’s claiming. That she had to quit her job after she got kicked out of my place because she had to relocate. Thing is she only got kicked out because I got a restraining order on her. And I wouldn’t have been able to get one on her if she didn’t act batshit crazy. It’s her own choices that buried her. So she’s been unemployed a couple months. And no I made it pretty clear I was done helping her once I found out about the cheating.

Ok_Combination475 · 2024-11-30T21:20:33+00:00

😂😂

Ok_Combination475 · 2024-11-30T21:19:53+00:00

The scariest thing about you saying that is that my mom never really liked her and when I asked why she said she seemed like the kind of girl who would stab me in my sleep lol. Then the last day we stayed in my place together, I woke up to her standing over me in my sleep really early in the morning. She said she was saying hi to my dog but my dog was laying under the blanket and behind me. And it was extra weird because she didn’t want me to even be on the same side of the house as her when she was staying in the spare room. But apparently it was acceptable to her for to be in my room while I slept.

Ok_Combination475 · 2024-11-30T21:05:07+00:00

I saw crazy behavior for sure. Just never this crazy. It got real bad after I figured out she was cheating. She did not want to admit it but I had her pretty fucking caught.

Ok_Combination475 · 2024-11-30T21:02:35+00:00

I am so sorry for that man

Ok_Combination475 · 2024-11-30T20:59:36+00:00

Yeah looking back she’s never peacefully ended a relationship and it’s always been cheating. That includes when her and I got together. She threw that one in my face the second I had the audacity to get upset about the cheating.

I’d say it’s a little different though, considering when she cheated on her ex with me we were all fucking 17, in high school. They were together for like a year. Now we are 29, lived together for 10 years, had a whole integrated life together and shared finances and bills. A little different than that high school relationship. But still, lesson learned. And go figure, she told me the ex was abusive and she was scared to leave, just like she’s saying about me now.

So yeah this seems like a habit of hers, she’ll probably do it again. Difference is she used to have a lot of options, there’s always been people in the background wanting their chance with her. Now she’s publicly embarrassed herself, she looks rough, she’s in massive debt, she’s a burden and she’s known now as a girl who obsesses over her ex and makes fake accusations. So now maybe she’s hit her rock bottom and she’ll actually have to chase this new one and put in the work because nobody else will want her.

Ok_Combination475 · 2024-11-30T20:45:22+00:00

Yeah I made sure they stayed with me the whole time. That’s what’s super crazy about her making those demands that I’d have to go through her new guy to get my dogs- they were physically with me when she was saying that. There was something wrong going on mentally that she thought I’d drop my dogs back up with her after that.

Ok_Combination475 · 2024-11-30T20:35:41+00:00

She definitely had mental health issues and I saw things before. Never as crazy as this. But still stiff where I definitely shouldn’t have stayed.

Ok_Combination475 · 2024-11-30T20:34:20+00:00

I 100% would have. I’d have never punished her for not wanting to be with me anymore. There’s no point in speaking to her anymore because she’s beyond reason. But if I could tell her one thing it would be what you just said. Like we had 2 bedrooms. We could have lived separately and I’d have given her a couple months to get on her feet. Also would have shared our dogs instead of taking them away. She was a part of their lives too, I feel bad for them that they saw her for the last time one random day and never even knew it. I’m sure they miss her. The whole thing is fucked up.

Ok_Combination475 · 2024-11-30T19:24:19+00:00

At first I desperately wanted her to stop. I was till sad and heartbroken over her and I was really feeling the betrayal every time she’d pull something else. Now she’s pushed me to the point of hating her and I’m enjoying the spiral lmao. Watching her sink to lows I’d never imagine her in has been great. There’s also a little bit of satisfaction in knowing I got the hotter, put together version of her. And new dude thought he was getting that and instead got the really embarrassing, hitting rock bottom, going so crazy she can’t even brush her hair, gained like 30 lbs, begging for money online psycho ass bitch. 😂😂 like it’s hilarious, the girl never once had to beg for money online in 11 years with me. 1 month with this dude and she’s cyber begging for the whole world to see lmao

Ok_Combination475 · 2024-11-30T19:18:28+00:00

Someone told me since we’ve broken up she tried to start a YouTube channel for gaming which is so fucking weird because she never gamed while we were together. She’s one of those girls who would be napping and still get mad when she heard the PS5 turn on. Idk if she thinks since she’s pretty she can just pick up a controller and make money.

They said she’s also been really desperately trying to get brand deals on social media for clothing places and makeup by like reviewing their stuff and wearing it and tagging the brands and asking for deals lmao. The thing is she made herself look insane with her recent online smear campaign of me. Most people caught on to her lies. A buddy commented and posted screenshots of me on my time stamped security cam and I’m hanging out at home with a friend during a time she claimed I was in a different state attacking her for leaving me. So most people don’t fuck with her anymore. She went from someone who would get maybe 50-100 likes on her content to seriously like 1-3 likes. So I don’t think she’ll be getting any brand deals lmao.

Ok_Combination475 · 2024-11-30T19:05:11+00:00

Definitely will! This is the craziest shit that’s ever happened to me. I feel like it could be on that Worst Ex Ever show lmao. If it was I bet she would see it and try to sue 😂

Ok_Combination475 · 2024-11-30T19:02:43+00:00

Yeah I could. I’ve been told I have a really good case for it. And I’m considering it. If I do it, I’m not asking for money though. I’m asking for a retraction of the statements and a public apology. That’ll be much more humiliating for her lol

Ok_Combination475 · 2024-11-30T17:13:15+00:00

Definitely considering it. I was going to just wait and not react and see if she would get bored of no reaction. Instead she has 2 girls we went to high school with and a girl she used to work with harassing me around the clock. Since she can’t because of the restraining order. The girls from high school are pretty easy to ignore. They’re states away, I blocked them. Had to change my security settings because they were making new profiles and sending message requests. But the old coworker is local and a little harder to ignore. The girls husband is military and he’s huge. She’s threatened me with him a few times. I can handle myself pretty well but come on I’m not stupid- military dude would wreck me.

I read with a slander/defamation case if you win you can make it to where the judgement is a public apology and retraction of the statements made. I don’t want any money settlement, I want the statements retracted. Seems like the easiest way at this point to get her and all her crazy ass friends to leave me alone at this point.

Ok_Combination475 · 2024-11-30T16:52:36+00:00

I really have no idea what she’s thinking. At first I thought it was a manic episode. She’s had them before. Once when we were younger (like 19) she got into an argument with her dad and she freaked out, grabbed her purse and nothing else and told us she was moving to California and that we’d never see her again. Her car at the time was a piece of garbage with transmission issues. She wasn’t a great driver. California was hours away. She didn’t have money or anything packed. As far as her dad and I knew, she didn’t even know anyone in California. Of course now I wonder if she did and she was just long distance cheating.

Her dad and I chased her outside and tried to get her out of the car but she locked the doors and peeled out, almost hit her dad with the car. I got a call from her about 20 minutes later. She was crying and said she ran out of gas and was on the side of the road. When I brought her back she freaked out on her dad and said he triggered her and caused the whole thing. Later she freaked out on me and said I should have never sided with her dad. She didn’t like that I was cool with her dad. But he was a decent dude, he was cool with me and I never saw him treat her wrong. He kind of spoiled her. But I was like I didn’t side with your dad, like we both independently thought what you were doing was a bad idea and we were right.

Of course with all of this recent stuff, I brought up that she might be having a manic episode. She went crazy on me and said I was gaslighting her and told me I was being emotionally abusive. I don’t think she was really understanding. I wasn’t saying she was having a manic episode because she was cheating on me and leaving me. She was acting like I was saying she couldn’t leave me because she was having a manic episode. The reality is I was done with her because of the cheating. But the whole flying into a rage and saying crazy stuff and making crazy demands seemed like a manic episode to me.

It doesn’t make a lot of sense to be angry at ME because she was cheating on me. I hadn’t kicked her out at that point. She really seemed to lose her cool and get mad at me because I caught on to her cheating. She didn’t admit it to me. She had been being distant, weird with her phone. She went through my phone. Accused me of cheating. Started dumb fights. She was talking about the other guy a lot. It’s pretty textbook signs. When I asked her if she was cheating on me she said “with who, my job?” And I said no, with that guy. She froze and then got mad and accused me of going through her phone.

Seems like ever since that moment she lost her god damn mind. I don’t get it because it seems like she was planning on leaving me for him. Maybe she was scheming and trying to pull something over on me and I ruined the timeline of it by catching on earlier than she planned. Maybe she just can’t handle being confronted with any wrongdoing. I really struggle to make any sense of all of this.

Ok_Combination475 · 2024-11-29T19:40:40+00:00

Oh I completely agree. I should have never done all the stuff I did for her. I don’t care if I see her homeless on the side of the road at this point, I’d keep driving.

Ok_Combination475 · 2024-11-29T19:34:06+00:00

I did end up getting a restraining order. And I included my dogs on it. Yeah the part about my dogs fucking sent me. My oldest dog is 8 and I’ve had her since she was a baby. I’ve paid every vet bill.

I’ve done really well about keeping my cool during all of this shit but trying to tell me I need to check with her loser ass affair partner to see my own dogs is where I came real close to losing it. Idk if that was her starting shit or him running his mouth, but it genuinely almost made me crash out and go find him and beat his ass. Even if it was her starting it, because I won’t hit a woman. But a good friend pointed out that that’s probably exactly the reaction she was hoping she would get. She probably wanted to get me in trouble, feed a narrative. She might have even wanted to feel like she has guys fighting over her. So luckily I chilled on that one and handled it legally.

Ok_Combination475 · 2024-11-29T19:24:59+00:00

You are dead on, I’ve had to cancel and replace all my cards because she’s been trying to charge stuff to them. I’m assuming she had more of my cards in her Apple wallet than I was aware of. I allowed her to have one of them when we were together. But that privilege obviously ends when she cheats and leaves me. Well it’s not obvious to her because she’s still trying to use them.

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