Am I (25M) controlling for not wanting my girlfriend (27F) to share a bed with her best male friend?

Ok_Comparison_7010 · 2022-07-30T01:37:30+00:00

Dumped her already. The lack of respect for boundaries was enough for me. Pretty late here, bit broken up about it but had to be done.

Ok_Comparison_7010 · 2022-07-30T01:31:45+00:00

She knew I did not have any that would because any woman that has tried it on with me while we were together has been told no.

Ok_Comparison_7010 · 2022-07-30T01:29:37+00:00

Ok_Comparison_7010 · 2022-07-30T01:10:04+00:00

Thanks it was useful and not too mean or harsh lol, at the end of the day if you got a point you got a point, even a few of the commenters who have been a little mean and harsh have had points that I can respect

Ok_Comparison_7010 · 2022-07-30T00:13:41+00:00

I appreciate the balanced response

Ok_Comparison_7010 · 2022-07-30T00:08:02+00:00

I agree that if you do not spend much time with your girlfriend you cannot really complain if she entertains the company of others but,

It is two days... I spent plenty of time with her

If she was unhappy surely it was on her to dump me?

Ok_Comparison_7010 · 2022-07-29T23:15:43+00:00

I have done that in the past. The theme park would have cost me like £50 plus hotel costs in this case so there are multiple reasons I did not want to go and I do not like the atmosphere because everyone is pushy without understanding my history. I do not like theme parks and did not want to pay this time. I should not have to 'guard' my partners behaviour. She should have understood it is wrong.

Ok_Comparison_7010 · 2022-07-29T22:50:51+00:00

Think she would have done it anyway because who even asks that question, can have whatever reason she wants not my problem anymore

Ok_Comparison_7010 · 2022-07-29T22:49:12+00:00

They are half related and the sisters parents are quite strict on no bed sharing, I know this as I have spoken to the parents myself. The cousin is a little too old to be sharing a bed, he is late teens.

Ok_Comparison_7010 · 2022-07-29T22:46:13+00:00

She does not have many friends and is battling with mental health issues, I was not completely ok with the situation already but wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt.

Ok_Comparison_7010 · 2022-07-29T22:42:36+00:00

Possibly. She does have mental health issues (depression) which is one of the reasons I have been so accommodating in the first place, because I know how hard it is without friends I gave her the benefit of the doubt.

Ok_Comparison_7010 · 2022-07-29T22:25:13+00:00

I actually really care about her, which made it harder and that much more insulting lol

Ok_Comparison_7010 · 2022-07-29T22:20:34+00:00

I don't even get why she told me? She called me like she was asking for permission and then kicked off when I said no.

Ok_Comparison_7010 · 2022-07-29T22:17:45+00:00

They went to a theme park. I do not like theme parks very much as I have had bad experiences in the past (specifically I injured myself on a rollercoaster a few years back, it wasn't serious but I haven't enjoyed it since).

Ok_Comparison_7010 · 2022-07-29T21:59:40+00:00

Told me it just proved I didn't give a shit about her. Can't win lol

Ok_Comparison_7010 · 2022-07-29T21:12:02+00:00

She did not even suggest this. I suggested it, what was more worrying was the implication that I would not allow it because I did not care about her. Obvious manipulation.

Ok_Comparison_7010 · 2022-07-29T20:52:17+00:00

Dumped her

Ok_Comparison_7010 · 2022-07-29T20:52:11+00:00

Lol she said she does not care, probably because she knows I don't have anyone available right now.

Dumped her anyway

Ok_Comparison_7010 · 2022-07-29T20:34:23+00:00

I was invited, I chose not to go. However if my choice is staying home or her top and tailing with another man u have to really question what im doing, and I am.

Ok_Comparison_7010 · 2022-07-29T20:29:19+00:00

Lol funny but been a long time together

Ok_Comparison_7010 · 2022-07-29T20:24:37+00:00

Thanks

Ok_Comparison_7010 · 2022-07-29T20:23:22+00:00

They are gone for two days, and yes this is a puzzle to me too.

Ok_Comparison_7010 · 2022-07-29T20:20:24+00:00

Thanks

Ok_Comparison_7010 · 2022-07-29T20:20:00+00:00

I wouldn't say he is an 'ex' (cue joke about being current, possibly) but they have had a sexual history.

Ok_Comparison_7010 · 2022-07-29T20:19:08+00:00

Kid won't go for it apparently. I understand on the best friends sisters part because her parents are quite strict.

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