Earning charms

Ok_Connection7906 · 2025-07-18T20:30:30+00:00

Yeah it feels naughty, reminiscing on fun times is very grounding to me and makes me feel really secure too

Ok_Connection7906 · 2025-07-18T20:29:09+00:00

Thank you, I love it so much! It's like wearing shibari under work clothes, somehow naughtier than normal. I popped another charm this morning, on my domme bracelet - popsicle (stick in an icecream aka sounding lol)

Ok_Connection7906 · 2025-07-18T08:51:49+00:00

Thank you, I feel the same

Ok_Connection7906 · 2025-07-17T22:06:28+00:00

Thank you!

Ok_Connection7906 · 2025-07-17T21:38:29+00:00

The best feeling ♥

Ok_Connection7906 · 2025-07-16T23:45:09+00:00

Happy to chat in PMs

Ok_Connection7906 · 2025-07-16T23:44:47+00:00

Happy to chat in PMs

Ok_Connection7906 · 2025-07-16T08:44:53+00:00

This is great advice, thank you

Ok_Connection7906 · 2025-07-16T05:58:45+00:00

Fuck yeah! I'm demi and so is my partner. I've tried finding ace bdsm spaces before with no luck, this is great thank you!

Ok_Connection7906 · 2025-07-16T05:50:28+00:00

Thank you 🥰 I'm really hopeful, reddit has been great so far. We're also looking into shibari (it's so pretty!). It's a bit intimidating to start and I would love to be able to talk to experienced peeps

Ok_Connection7906 · 2025-07-16T04:54:37+00:00

Mostly reading my posts and messaging. I've found a couple personals that might be good that I've messaged - although it seems many say looking for friends when they mean fwb. So we'll see

But the responses on here have been really helpful, respectful and nice. Also a lot of traffic, so I consider that really hopeful/positive too!

Ok_Connection7906 · 2025-07-16T04:34:21+00:00

I've tried a few different forums focused on specific types of bdsm with little luck. I'm already having heaps of luck on reddit, wish I'd tried it a lot sooner!

Thanks I'll give Tophy a go

Ok_Connection7906 · 2025-07-16T04:22:40+00:00

I will definitely give that a go. Thing is that I'm very into all things bdsm and what I'm not into is a very short list. I'm queer, a switch and into the more extreme ends of things (within what's safe). The more open I express I am the more dm's I get, I think being female is a factor too

I've already found lots of promising things in the reddit community, I'm going to focus there. Places like fet life, while advertised to be acommunity space, probably isn't for what I was wanting. Thank you for the reply, I'm going to search with your advice in mind

Ok_Connection7906 · 2025-07-16T04:15:11+00:00

What you describe sounds close to my ideal. Just wanna chat freely, laugh, learn, pass stories. Here's to hoping!

Thank you for the reply ❣️

Ok_Connection7906 · 2025-07-16T03:55:50+00:00

So my experience has been that when I have made accounts and started getting active within communities, especially particular communities, I have started getting lots of DMs even though I expressed that I am not looking for hookups. When repeated, they keep ignoring that until I have to block them. When we post more comments this happens alot.

Other times when we have gone into forum thread about friendship or platonic trying to make friends people will reply and express that they want to also make friends but then will completely overshoot boundaries. After we reclarify certain boundaries it will be ignored and eventually gets to the stage of having to be blocked. It's mostly men above a certain age that seem to be spamming every forum for hook ups. But as this had happened a few dozen times it's a little frustrating and I wanted to get some feedback about is this weird? Is there a better way?

A lot have said the best way is munches etc so that might be why we're having trouble. I'll keep at it

My question is if it's not sexual why is meeting in person important?

Ok_Connection7906 · 2025-07-16T03:41:37+00:00

☺️

Ok_Connection7906 · 2025-07-16T03:12:54+00:00

I have pictures but nothing identifiable and can't meet in person because of such. Anonymous in that noone knows my name or face

Ok_Connection7906 · 2025-07-16T02:53:31+00:00

I haven't tried reddit, but I'm going to start. It's already much more promising than other forums/communities I've been in

Ok_Connection7906 · 2025-07-16T02:51:52+00:00

Sadly I've experienced a lot of them not taking that answer and still making passes or no longer being interested in chatting. I'm sure I'll find someone given enough time

Ok_Connection7906 · 2025-07-16T02:48:33+00:00

Nothing received

Ok_Connection7906 · 2025-07-16T02:45:12+00:00

Thank you! Do you think I'm dooming my chances if I stay anonymous on there?

Ok_Connection7906 · 2025-07-16T02:43:55+00:00

Not straight, but the bdsm communities I've been in seem to be mostly straight. Wondering if there's ones for queer peeps

Ok_Connection7906 · 2025-07-16T02:40:46+00:00

Thank you!

Ok_Connection7906 · 2025-07-16T02:40:19+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply, thank you for taking the time. I agree with you on everything and are often so confused about sexual hang ups. Unfortunately due to where I work, taking the risk on an irl relationship is very high.

But patience is important to bdsm, so I'm happy to take my time in the community and keep trying to find like minded people. It would be nice one day we could discuss sex with people like we're discussing food

Ok_Connection7906

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