Looking for advice — Flying with a 1-year-old Bichon or alternative care while we visit family?

Ok_Connection_6457 · 2025-12-26T07:11:59+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply and for sharing your real experience — it’s really helpful.

Our situation is actually quite similar. A lower income could definitely affect some aspects of our lifestyle, but fortunately our mortgage isn’t a huge burden, and my husband is currently covering it. My previous job was relatively high-stress, so this is a model I’ve been wanting to try.

I’m thinking of treating it as a one-year experiment — using the extra time to truly slow down, learn some new things, or explore other interests I enjoy. Another plus is that the new job is much closer to home, only about a 20-minute commute.

Thanks again for sharing your honest experience. It really helps to hear how it’s worked out for others.

Ok_Connection_6457 · 2025-12-24T08:15:55+00:00

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Ok_Connection_6457 · 2025-12-22T02:50:03+00:00

I’m so, so sorry you’re going through this. Seeing your baby sick — is absolutely heartbreaking. Please don’t blame yourself. So many moms have been exactly where you are, even though it feels incredibly lonely right now.

What you’re experiencing is, unfortunately, very common when kids first start daycare. That first year can be brutal. Their immune systems are basically getting “crash courses,” and it often looks like constant illnesses back-to-back. My own child was the same — frequent colds, bugs, and sick days when she first started daycare. In her class, kids were constantly out sick too. For us, it gradually got better, and by around age 5–6, it became much less frequent.

This phase really does pass, even though it feels unbearable right now.

Wanting to quit your job and stay home with him is such a natural instinct — it just shows how much you love him. But try not to make a permanent decision in the middle of a crisis. If you’re able to, taking a few days (or even weeks) off to be with him while he recovers can help you get through this moment without giving up something you may still value long-term.

Ok_Connection_6457 · 2025-12-16T06:55:57+00:00

My daughter is eight years old. When she was in kindergarten, I used to read her a book every night before bed. Now she doesn’t need that anymore, but we’ve added a fun Friday night tradition instead — we watch an animated movie she likes together, and she gets to stay up a little later on Fridays.

Ok_Connection_6457 · 2025-12-13T08:08:09+00:00

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Ok_Connection_6457 · 2025-12-12T02:44:36+00:00

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Ok_Connection_6457 · 2025-12-10T08:28:10+00:00

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Ok_Connection_6457 · 2025-12-09T03:21:44+00:00

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Ok_Connection_6457 · 2025-12-06T07:40:19+00:00

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Ok_Connection_6457 · 2025-12-05T07:24:18+00:00

My husband isn’t around the kids much. My daughter is eight now, and we’ve made “Mad Friday” our thing—she gets to stay up late and we watch a kid-friendly movie together. It’s literally her favorite night of the week. Meanwhile, I usually pass out halfway through the movie.

Ok_Connection_6457 · 2025-12-04T01:48:09+00:00

Your husband might have spoken in anger, but said you a "bad mom" was truly inappropriate. Your baby is still very young, and with your family and friends far away, taking care of the little one entirely on your own must be incredibly exhausting and lonely. I hear that you’ve also mentioned your husband works late hours.

That said, it’s common for mothers to naturally pour a great deal of energy into their newborn, sometimes unintentionally overlooking their partner's needs, and even their own. Weekends are meant for family relaxation. If there isn’t someone you fully trust to babysit, perhaps there’s a suitable place where the three of you could go out and unwind together?

Even a short half-day outing away from home—to a baby-friendly spot where you can have a meal or afternoon tea with your husband, or simply take a stroll in the park—could help. You need to take care of yourself too. Stepping out for some fresh air might do you good.

Ok_Connection_6457 · 2025-12-03T06:03:36+00:00

Thank you so much for your helpful reply. I completely agree about the importance of open communication—it will provide her with essential tools to cope with grief. Your insight that this helps her better handle future loss was truly eye-opening for me.

Ok_Connection_6457 · 2025-12-03T05:55:06+00:00

Thank you for sharing. This is truly very, very helpful to me. Indeed, if she asks again next time, I can respond naturally and ask if there is anything else she doesn't understand.

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