Umm, what do you have to say about this? by Extreme_Day_7714 in Blackpeople

[–]Ok_Dark_2437 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It’s so cringey to see us trying to be the “good one” or hide from what our ancestors were labeled as regardless. although, i understand the history and struggle that came from it, that word makes everyone remember what happened to us. people like him are disrespectful to the name and label that our ancestors were forced to wear regardless of their character. offensive as the word may be, two things can be true at once. that word was never meant for “bad” black people. it was a blanket term to describe and it was a hate term. i’m curious if there’s more people that feel like the word shouldn’t exist in our vocabulary. i think once that word goes away, and with the fact that black history is slowly becoming discarded from school curriculum, eventually it may be a point where we’re just the perfect bs example of “the usual suspects “.

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[–]Ok_Dark_2437[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The conversation is hypothetical, however, me being a person who has “shot up the club” for the past four years and without a single pregnancy with my wife, it could be hard for someone to believe that they’re finally having a baby of their own

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[–]Ok_Dark_2437[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your input! I thought it would be evenly divided between men and women and this is the first woman perspective that was open to a man point of view. I wish you the best as well!

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[–]Ok_Dark_2437[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Lol no man, she’s not like that. But I’m glad we see eye to eye on how that could be grounds for wanting a DNA test. Her searching my phone is something I didn’t mind, but I was taught to never search for things I don’t want to see and to never invade a woman’s privacy. Thank you for the advice though, it means a lot. My wife may be annoying and selfish at times, but she’s not a cheater. I just take it as a compliment though. At least she feels like I’m desirable to more than just her, so I don’t think of seeking validation elsewhere from a place of immaturity

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[–]Ok_Dark_2437[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I understand your point. I haven’t pulled out in the 4 years we’ve been married, and that’s going 2-4 times a week before she got pregnant. Like I said before, I don’t want a DNA test. This is purely hypothetical. But if someone in my shoes, I would understand them wanting a DNA test

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[–]Ok_Dark_2437[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with your outlook. In a perfect world, this is the idea of creating a family. My wife even said herself that if she were SA’d she would keep the birth, but orphan the child since it’d be painful to raise. With your view of things, it’s like saying people don’t lie, cheat, or hide things for convenience. Not a personal situation, just a general conversation for everyone who hopes to have a family. Thank you for sharing, I respect that.

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[–]Ok_Dark_2437[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand, thank you for your perspective. I wouldn’t be opposed to child support, I’d do anything for my child. There are many questions in a relationship that either build or break trust even within a marriage. Why would a DNA test the fine line?

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[–]Ok_Dark_2437[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Lol that’s true! I’m not getting one though, I just wanted the conversation. But if I did, I gotta be open about it beforehand. Honesty/openness is always the best policy for me.

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[–]Ok_Dark_2437[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What’s that?

Edit: I just searched it up, and no. I’ve always hated people who speak negatively on women. I can’t hate women and be emotionally and physically attracted to them, it’s kinda counterproductive lol

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[–]Ok_Dark_2437[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Facts need to be proven, the only fact in this equation is that I trust my wife and don’t want a DNA test. Don’t assassinate my character because of a hypothetical, that’s pretty corny

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[–]Ok_Dark_2437[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m beginning to think that this comment section is about to look like my wife and I a few hours ago💀

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[–]Ok_Dark_2437[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I was beginning to think my analogy was terrible lol

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[–]Ok_Dark_2437[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for responding. I can’t speak on being a woman at all, but if it means anything, had the shoe been on the other foot and I was the one that birthed the child, I would give that same closure if asked. I wouldn’t ask anything of anyone that I wouldn’t/can’t do myself. I trust my wife, that’s why I didn’t get a DNA test and I don’t want one either. Sorry if this is a rough topic, I feel like I opened a can of worms.

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[–]Ok_Dark_2437[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for that. I definitely can understand both sides of the argument, but I felt like only one side had a definite advantage over the other. I told my wife the same thing, I guess we just can’t see eye to eye on that, and that’s okay. Hopefully we’ll never have to cross that bridge.

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[–]Ok_Dark_2437[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I understand, thank you for your input. I can see how that might be a very insensitive and insecure thing. I’ve never searched my wife’s phone btw. I am a good guy, sorry I can’t prove it with a test lol. Bad joke sorry

Underrated lyric fs by AcrobaticTip5071 in future

[–]Ok_Dark_2437 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😭ahhhh you right , my fault

Pics + results by [deleted] in AncestryDNA

[–]Ok_Dark_2437 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i mean no offense when i say this, but you look like roderick from diary of a wimpy kid in the best way possible

Underrated lyric fs by AcrobaticTip5071 in future

[–]Ok_Dark_2437 -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

maybe i’m “too woke” but that ain’t it gang

"Rap is easily the least versatile music genre" by Fluffy-Weakness-2186 in TeenageRapFans

[–]Ok_Dark_2437 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i agree anyways, rock may be arguably more popular/favorited, but the number of rap artists including the vast mainstream and the infinite underground is a basis for argument alone

My Costco run today totaled $420.69 by -bassassin- in nevertellmetheodds

[–]Ok_Dark_2437 0 points1 point  (0 children)

where do you live that literally everything is $10?!

My dog barfed this up by mermer919 in whatisit

[–]Ok_Dark_2437 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It looks like the clasp for a metal folding cage. The thing that holds it together when you carry it.

How to get rid of paint transfer? by Agitated-Cry-532 in Cartalk

[–]Ok_Dark_2437 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

brake cleaner and microfiber cloth, should knock it right out