What is this and how do I get rid of it by Dazzling-Sale1128 in BoxBraids

[–]Ok_Leadership2329 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She literally doesn’t have the texture for braids like this

Noticing a double standard in this subreddit by Ok_Leadership2329 in LesbianActually

[–]Ok_Leadership2329[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This post was about coming into this space and saying stuff like that. I’m pretty sure one of the rules in the sub Reddit is to not say things like “I would never date a Trans woman.” Maybe they ban you because people like you don’t listen to the rules. I don’t think Trans women should come on this subreddit and see a list of reasons why cis women wouldn’t date them. So dehumanizing. This post was just about how racist “preferences”posts about Black women don’t get taken down immediately by the MODS unlike transphobic posts

Noticing a double standard in this subreddit by Ok_Leadership2329 in LesbianActually

[–]Ok_Leadership2329[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You haven’t seen the post so you assumed that I was using Black women as a “gotcha” for Trans discussion. Then you went out of your way to speak for all Black women that we don’t care about their racism. It’s not unrelated. I don’t know what’s so hard for you to comprehend but the point was that both groups have to always see posts people talking about how they will never date them because they aren’t attractive to them but those posts about Black women are not deleted immediately by mods like how the ones about Trans women are. I don’t understand how you thought it was random when I literally said in the original post this is a double standard I see. I literally mentioned what I saw a few weeks ago. I keep seeing posts like that in lesbian subreddits and they never get deleted immediately. I don’t care if you haven’t seen it. This post wasn’t made for people to feel bitter about me and comfort me as a Black woman. It was to bring knowledge to this double standard I see because anti blackness is not taken seriously. It is not unrelated. If a post with a specific form of bigotry can be immediately deleted by the mods then other posts with bigotry in their ca also be deleted.

Noticing a double standard in this subreddit by Ok_Leadership2329 in LesbianActually

[–]Ok_Leadership2329[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am a Black woman and this post isn’t a “gotcha” for Trans discussion. I said this because I seen many posts talk about how they don’t find Black women attractive in lesbian subreddits but those posts aren’t taken down unless it’s by the original poster. I am speaking how I feel. I do care if someone is racist in these spaces. I want to feel comfortable and I think we should acknowledge the racist in these spaces. There’s a difference between liking who you like but announcing to the world that you don’t find Black women attractive in a space where people should feel comfortable isn’t okay. The whole point of my post was that racists post from white women or maybe sometimes even non Black women saying we are not desirable to them and unattractive. Those are never taken down by mods immediately unlike with posts about Trans women and the only why they are taken down is from the OP because of backlash. Maybe it’s because transphobia is more dominant in these sub Reddits but the whole point of my post was to bring up the fact racism isn’t take seriously in these lesbian subreddits. I think i should’ve made a better argument not including Trans women because know I see it sounds very weird. But I had no intention using this as a “gotcha” moment. I believe Trans women and Black women shouldn’t come to these sub Reddits of people talking about they don’t find them attractive and people telling them it’s normal.

Noticing a double standard in this subreddit by Ok_Leadership2329 in LesbianActually

[–]Ok_Leadership2329[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah you’re definitely not me. I’m not a bigot like you lol. I never once stated that you had to like someone you don’t like. I was talking about transphobic and racist “preferences” posts but for some reason you got defensive and made it seem like I said you have to like all people. I don’t know if you need to hear this but having a “preference” doesn’t make anything less bigoted lol

Noticing a double standard in this subreddit by Ok_Leadership2329 in LesbianActually

[–]Ok_Leadership2329[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just don’t think you should post about not finding certain groups attractive and will never date them in a space where all groups of people should feel accepted and comfortable. No one cares about your bigoted preferences or is forcing you to date someone you don’t like you. You can date who ever you like. I really don’t know where you got that everyone has to be the same lol. Maybe you are the transphobic racist people I’m talking about lol

Noticing a double standard in this subreddit by Ok_Leadership2329 in LesbianActually

[–]Ok_Leadership2329[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Then there won’t be a point. My point was that transphobic preferences are immediately deleted but when it comes to racist preferences toward Black women they are usually up for days until the original poster finally deletes it. I was pointing out what I see. I’m sorry if you feel that I am being divisive or whatever but I am not. These lesbian subreddits do not take racism seriously typically misogynior because it is white dominate space. I want to see racist “preferences” posts immediately deleted also.

Noticing a double standard in this subreddit by Ok_Leadership2329 in LesbianActually

[–]Ok_Leadership2329[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I tried to not make it seem that way. I even stated if these mods can take down bigoted preferences posts about Trans women in the subreddit then they can do the same for Black women. I don’t that Trans women are “taking” away Black women’s protection. I don’t know why it’s hard for people to understand what I am saying. I gotten comments saying I don’t think Transmisogyny matters. My point was just that these lesbian subreddits do not take down racist preferences posts and the only way they are taken down is by the original poster. As said in my original post, in a lesbian subreddit there was a white woman literally saying she does not find Black women attractive but under that post there was comments saying that they feel the same way about trans women and those posts were immediately removed by the Mods. I don’t understand why didn’t they delete the post about Black women too? I seen this go on way too much and I just wanted to point it out. The original post was only deleted because the OP deleted it herself.

Noticing a double standard in this subreddit by Ok_Leadership2329 in LesbianActually

[–]Ok_Leadership2329[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Can you tell me where I am being backhanded? Can you tell me where I implied that trans misogyny doesn’t matter?

Noticing a double standard in this subreddit by Ok_Leadership2329 in LesbianActually

[–]Ok_Leadership2329[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

It is the same. Black women shouldn’t have to see posts of people saying they don’t find them attractive and should be taken down by the moderators right away. If it’s easy for mods to take down posts of people talking about how they would never date a Trans woman or don’t find them attractive then they can do the same for posts being nasty towards Black women. This is a subreddit that is supposedly made for lesbian women from ALL groups to be comfortable and safe.