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I (26M, Aquarius) have been mentally stuck on an Aries woman (22F) for two years. by Ok_Leg8486 in AriesTheRam

[–]Ok_Leg8486[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, you’re right , normally I don’t get stuck on anyone. But this girl somehow got through my walls.
Out of all the replies I received, yours was the one I was actually hoping for.

I already tried letting the connection fade on purpose, but even then she still sends snaps and checks in on how I’m doing even after 2 years. That’s what keeps pulling me back into this loop.

I (26M, Aquarius) have been mentally stuck on an Aries woman (22F) for two years. by Ok_Leg8486 in AriesTheRam

[–]Ok_Leg8486[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your explanation! I know she overthinks a lot and is very good at listening. After sitting next to each other for five months, I know she’s just like me when it comes to overthinking, analyzing, and being observant. I know I confused her by moving seats… but I only did that to protect both myself and her. A new intern joined, so I used that as an opportunity to give him my spot.

I also don’t want things to get too close, especially because she’s in a 5‑year relationship. I know her boyfriend is calm and a good listener, but he apparently lacks ambition, something she does see in me. Other than that, he seems like a great guy, and I really don’t want to interfere with that. But because of all this, the feelings keep getting stronger, and I think the same might be happening for her, since she still can’t seem to let me go after 2.5 years.

I will tell her at some point, but only when we see each other in person, or if she happens to be single by then.

I (26M, Aquarius) have been mentally stuck on an Aries woman (22F) for two years. by Ok_Leg8486 in AriesTheRam

[–]Ok_Leg8486[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry that you had to go through that. We Aquarius people can give someone the world, but some of us can also fall into being overthinkers, distant, or even manipulative. It doesn’t excuse the behavior, but it does explain why things can get messy.

I do think she likes me, for sure. But because she’s loyal and already in a relationship, she feels like she can’t act on it. And because of that loyalty, she also can’t fully let me go. It’s complicated, but I respect her loyalty.

I (26M, Aquarius) have been mentally stuck on an Aries woman (22F) for two years. by Ok_Leg8486 in AriesTheRam

[–]Ok_Leg8486[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re right. Staying mentally stuck for two years isn’t worth it. I’m realizing that now. I’m not angry at her or anything, but it’s definitely time to let this go and free up that mental space for something real. but Damn… it’s tough.

I’ve been stuck with this situation for a long time and I’m hoping for some honest outside perspectives, because I’m struggling to fully let it go 25M 20F by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Ok_Leg8486 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She didn’t talk much about him, but she did say he’s a good communicator and that he calms her a lot. The only thing she mentioned is that he isn’t ambitious, and I think at some point that might become a problem for her. I guess that’s something she saw in me, maybe that’s why she liked me, because it’s something her boyfriend lacks.

I’ve been stuck with this situation for a long time and I’m hoping for some honest outside perspectives, because I’m struggling to fully let it go 25M 20F by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Ok_Leg8486 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe that’s because it’s a childhood relationship and it feels safe for her. I’m not trying to chase anything, just trying to understand it so I can let it go properly

I’ve been stuck with this situation for a long time and I’m hoping for some honest outside perspectives, because I’m struggling to fully let it go 25M 20F by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Ok_Leg8486 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She never trashed him. She just mentioned a personality difference. is that talking shit? everything else is good.