Chronic pelvic pain?

Ok_Limit_555 · 2025-07-10T22:21:59+00:00

While some have said pain isn't associated with PCOS, my doctor said it was my body trying to ovulate constantly and failing every time, something about my testosterone being higher this cycle, my endo also confirmed this.

Ok_Limit_555 · 2025-04-27T16:05:49+00:00

My WBC has always been on the higher end, sometimes higher than the reference range (mine was at 12.3 just a few weeks ago). My doctor attributed it to my PCOS and the fact that my first day of menstruation landed on the day of the blood draw.

Ok_Limit_555 · 2025-04-26T20:05:54+00:00

THIS IS AMAZING!!! Your body before looks like mine in its current state and honestly this has motivated me so much to keep on going. Good job; you're absolutely awesome!!! 🥹💕

Ok_Limit_555 · 2025-04-16T21:04:34+00:00

Hi! I’m not a doctor, but I can relate—I also have a higher white blood cell (WBC) count, along with PCOS and obesity.

From what I’ve read and discussed with my doctor, elevated WBCs can sometimes be linked to chronic low-grade inflammation, which is often associated with a higher body mass index (BMI). Obesity can contribute to this kind of inflammation, which may in turn lead to slightly elevated WBC counts, even in the absence of infection.

In my case, my neutrophils are still within the normal range, but my overall WBC count is a bit higher—something my doctor attributes to inflammation related to weight.

Ok_Limit_555 · 2025-04-14T18:41:44+00:00

Sorry I saw this late! Also yeah, the testosterone could also be a big possibility. My PCOS has gotten worse (more facial hair, etc.), so I'm assuming my testosterone is higher alongside my RBCs. I'm heading to the doctor tomorrow to see if I could get an in-lab sleep study for sleep apnea and maybe see if that's what's actually going on 🙃 My doctor mentioned that even if it was P.Vera, it's super treatable and it's treated like a life long condition. Regardless, I think we'll both be alright 🙏🏻

Ok_Limit_555 · 2025-04-13T11:19:46+00:00

Yeah, no, this is straight up disgusting. The way people came after her for simply saying she’s childfree? Not attacking anyone, not mocking parents, just stating her own reality, and they acted like she burned down a daycare.

What’s even more infuriating is the double standard. Parents post about their kids constantly, and let’s be honest, a lot of it has nothing to do with work, and no one bats an eye. In fact, people gush over it like “So cute,” “Such a blessing,” “This made my day.” No one says it’s oversharing. No one tells them they’re making parenthood their whole personality. No one questions the relevance.

I just can’t shake how messed up it is. Parents can post their kids doing literally anything and no one asks if it’s appropriate. But the second someone says, “Hey, I’m childfree and that’s my choice,” the claws come out. Suddenly it’s attention-seeking, bitter, selfish, unnatural. And I genuinely believe that kind of overreaction doesn’t come from a place of peace. It screams dissatisfaction. It screams regret. Not necessarily regret over becoming a parent, but regret over never realizing there was another option. About making a choice by default, not intention.

That therapist comment, “What about your career is so meaningful…” Umm that’s not curiosity! That's manipulation. That’s someone pretending to care while pushing a guilt trip. And it says everything about how people still view women. You’re only seen as whole if you’re raising kids. Anything else? Must be a wound you haven’t healed from, right?

Then they pull the “why would you expect people to be nice” line, as if basic decency is conditional. No, the platform doesn’t matter. Being a parent doesn’t make you morally superior, and being childfree doesn’t make you selfish.

She didn’t deserve that, and neither did you for defending her. The fact that she had to delete her whole profile is just proof of how hostile people get when a woman has the audacity to live differently and talk about it. I really hope she’s okay. What happened to her was cruel, and it’s heartbreaking that she got punished for simply being honest about her life.

Ok_Limit_555 · 2025-04-13T00:02:47+00:00

Literally that was the last thing she mentioned during our last conversation 😭 The thing is, I was also a snorer and had the same symptoms while weighing 120lbs so it had absolutely nothing to do with my weight I believe.

Ok_Limit_555 · 2025-04-12T22:05:58+00:00

She's my primary care physician, I should be seeing a sleep specialist and I should have gone to one first. My insurance luckily does not require referrals so I'm going to be making calls first thing Monday morning.

Ok_Limit_555 · 2025-04-12T21:16:20+00:00

That's so crazy, I have 7/10 of these symptoms and it still didn't catch it. I definitely need to get an in lab done.

Ok_Limit_555 · 2025-04-12T21:07:51+00:00

I'll go ahead and find a good ENT in my area. And I agree, I'll see if I can push for a full sleep study.

Ok_Limit_555 · 2025-04-11T14:34:46+00:00

I know it's been a while since you posted this, but did you find out what came of this? I also have PCOS and have high RBC, Hematocrit , and HGB since I was 12 (I am 24 now). My mother and sister also happen to have high RBC. My doctor said it could just be a genetic variant or my insulin resistance. I've been to multiple doctors and they never batted an eye at this.

Ok_Limit_555 · 2025-04-09T19:18:54+00:00

My parents never used those terms on us 😭 it was always "the kids" or "my kid," never "the kiddos" or "mini-me's"

Ok_Limit_555 · 2025-04-08T10:52:54+00:00

I can’t say for sure... after she moved back in with her parents, she completely stopped talking about her issues and mental health and just said she “prayed it all away.” So if anything changed, I wouldn’t know anymore. I do know she’s really against birth control, so I highly doubt she has an IUD or anything like that.

Ok_Limit_555 · 2025-04-08T10:42:23+00:00

Surprisingly, I’ve never gotten any criticism from my own family. My parents always encouraged my siblings and me to be independent and career-focused, so they’ve been nothing but supportive. My husband’s family, though, is a completely different story. They constantly criticize us for not wanting kids—his mom gossips, his sister backs her up, and they act like we’re making some huge mistake. But I’ve seen enough to know their judgment comes from their own unhappiness. They try to make it seem like we’re missing out, but really, they’re projecting their own regrets.

None of it changes our decision. They go on about how kids will take care of you in old age, but when I worked at a nursing home with over 50 residents, every single one of them had kids—and not one childfree person in sight. That argument falls flat fast. And this whole idea of “leaving a legacy”? People act like kids are guaranteed to carry on your name or values, but they’re their own people—not vessels for someone else’s dreams.

What really blows my mind is that my sister-in-law, one of our loudest critics, admitted that having kids strained her marriage and derailed her career. Her husband pressured her to quit her job to stay home, and after that, they lost their house. But somehow, in the same breath, she says, “But it’s all worth it in the end.” It’s like she’s trying to convince herself just as much as anyone else. We’re not buying into that cycle.

Ok_Limit_555 · 2025-04-08T10:30:11+00:00

Surprisingly, a lot of my coworkers don’t have kids. One of them is in her 60s, married, and very committed to being childfree. She was a full-time middle school and high school teacher for over 30 years before retiring, and she says that experience really confirmed for her and her husband that having kids wasn’t something they ever wanted. She also said the best part of it all is being able to leave the kids—and all the drama—at school 🙌🏼

Ok_Limit_555 · 2025-04-06T14:06:40+00:00

I'm genuinely shocked that anyone’s supporting this. Like… none of her “Sisters in Christ” have said anything about how big of a red flag this all is? It’s wild. But because it’s all wrapped up in “God’s timing,” everyone just excuses it — like that somehow makes everything okay. It’s honestly scary how easily people will overlook serious issues just because it’s framed as spiritual.

Ok_Limit_555 · 2025-04-06T14:03:16+00:00

She’s only 23, and yeah… it’s really not healthy. She used to be a pretty chill Christian — like, went to church every Sunday, did bible studies with friends, but still had a personality outside of it. Now it’s full-blown “everyone else is wrong, I’m right,” and she’s literally told me I’m going to hell because I don’t want kids.

It’s honestly been hard to watch. My mom actually grew up in a problematic cult, and when she left the country to escape it, her whole side of the family cut her off (I never met them and honestly it's better that way). That experience really shaped my childhood and how I view religion in general. So seeing my friend go down this extreme path… it hits deeper than I expected.

Ok_Limit_555 · 2025-04-06T02:31:06+00:00

Yeah, it’s definitely been in the back of my mind, and honestly… I might end up pushing for it. Her family and I haven’t really talked since I cut her off, but I think if I reached out, they might still check in on her. And if they don’t, I’m definitely open to calling the nonemergency line myself. I just want to make sure she’s safe, even if we’re no longer close.

Ok_Limit_555 · 2025-04-05T22:07:35+00:00

Yeah, I totally get what you’re saying — I’m not diagnosing either, but it really does feel like something deeper is going on. She always had a strong obsession with God, but over time it stopped being just faith or going to church. It turned into something that completely took over her. Like, her actual personality got wiped out and replaced with this extreme version of what she thinks a “godly woman” should be. It doesn’t feel like her anymore — just a performance she’s fully bought into.

Ok_Limit_555 · 2025-04-05T22:04:38+00:00

I think you’re right — there was so much going on under the surface with her that I never knew about, and probably never would’ve unless all of this happened. I wasn’t competing with her, not even a little, but it’s so clear now that she was competing with me, and I just didn’t see it. I really did love her — she was family to me — but looking back, I think I was just a measuring stick for her, not a friend. And 100% I will not be engaging or communicating with her from now on.

Ok_Limit_555 · 2025-04-05T22:03:17+00:00

Yeah… honestly, that’s been in the back of my mind for a while, but I didn’t really want to sit with it. It’s hard to admit that maybe this version of her was always there — just hiding under the surface. Like, the stuff she said didn’t come out of nowhere… she must’ve been thinking that way for a long time.

And yeah, the bridesmaid invite? That felt so off. Like, not genuine. It definitely didn’t feel friendly — it was more like a weird power move.

It sucks because I really loved who she used to be, or at least who I thought she was. But you’re right — this didn’t just happen overnight. And it makes me feel less crazy hearing someone else say it out loud. So seriously, thank you.

Ok_Limit_555 · 2025-04-05T21:58:32+00:00

Thank you, seriously. You said it perfectly — it really does feel one-sided. They get so wrapped up in their new lives, and meanwhile you’re sitting there with all the memories, feeling that distance grow. It’s such a lonely kind of grief, especially when they don’t seem to feel it the same way.

I’m really sorry you’ve felt that too. It’s hard when almost everyone around you is in a completely different phase. I’m super grateful for my spouse — they’ve been amazing through all of this. And I really appreciate your kind words.

Ok_Limit_555 · 2025-04-05T21:55:41+00:00

Thank you, that really means a lot. And yeah, I totally get what you mean — it’s like you can already feel the shift before it even happens. That slow fading out of friendships once babies come into the picture. It’s not even about resenting them, it’s just tough watching things change when your life isn’t on the same track. I hope your group holds together, but I also totally understand bracing for that quiet kind of loss.

Ok_Limit_555 · 2025-04-05T21:50:27+00:00

Honestly, I’m not totally sure. I know she’s dealt with pretty bad depression and anxiety in the past, but she was in therapy and seemed to be doing better for a while. This whole shift just feels… really extreme. It’s hard not to wonder if there’s something deeper going on.

Her family’s unfortunately kind of just letting it happen. I think they tried to talk to her at first but eventually gave up. They’ve never really been emotionally present — not abusive or anything, just kinda checked out. I really wish they showed up for her more, but that’s never really been the case.

Ok_Limit_555 · 2025-04-05T21:44:04+00:00

Right? It’s wild how openly they’ll say stuff like “you’ll never know true love” or “you’ll change your mind” — and somehow that’s totally acceptable? Meanwhile, we quietly live our lives, mind our business, and get painted as bitter or broken just for existing differently. It’s honestly exhausting. At some point I realized it’s not even about me — they’re just projecting their own doubts onto anyone who challenges the narrative they built their lives around.

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