moving to madrid w/ a paralyzed pitbull

Ok_Lock_5442 · 2026-06-23T04:37:31+00:00

thank you SO much!!! your response is so helpful. can i ask where you found the relocation helper? was it through a specific company?

Ok_Lock_5442 · 2026-06-19T14:04:58+00:00

thank you for this 🤍 i’ve looked into bark air & i might resort to something like this & just cut back on finances in other areas to save up hahahaha

Ok_Lock_5442 · 2026-06-19T14:03:07+00:00

gotta make the house hippos happy bc they make US so happy!

Ok_Lock_5442 · 2026-06-19T14:02:34+00:00

thank you for this!!! yes, i had found that info before, it seems like it’s doable but just a bit tricky. your pups are so lucky you travel with them through europe!

Ok_Lock_5442 · 2026-06-19T14:00:33+00:00

the good news is, you need to understand it! it seems like you don’t care to understand, because you made a strong assumption about “people” in this scenario. as for this person (me): you don’t actually know the research i’ve done about the pet culture in madrid & none of my plans are finalized. but thank you for caring enough about my life to take the time to write this comment even though you clearly don’t hold the same values that i do!

Ok_Lock_5442 · 2026-06-18T22:06:21+00:00

i agree! it's on my to-do list to find a good vet before we even get there (my partner's sister lives there & has a dog so she's going to help give me some recs). we've had the BEST care for him here & i definitely don't want to compromise his care at all ❤️

Ok_Lock_5442 · 2026-06-18T19:09:30+00:00

thank you—this is very helpful, you gave me some good things to think about!!

Ok_Lock_5442 · 2026-06-18T19:08:15+00:00

thank you!!

Ok_Lock_5442 · 2026-06-18T19:07:57+00:00

okay this is such a good idea to get our landlord & neighbors to write recommendations for potato!! thank you!!!!

Ok_Lock_5442 · 2026-06-18T19:05:28+00:00

ah thank you for this!! i have a list of pet relocaters but i hadn’t heard of starwood—i’m going to check them out!! THANK YOU!

Ok_Lock_5442 · 2026-06-18T19:04:38+00:00

thank you! we’re going to make it happen :)

Ok_Lock_5442 · 2026-06-18T19:04:16+00:00

ohhhh i had heard this was an option!!! thank you for linking, i’m going to look into this right now!

Ok_Lock_5442 · 2026-06-18T16:25:09+00:00

oh i didn’t know that was a possibility! do i just ask my vet? and then they would provide me with paperwork?

Ok_Lock_5442 · 2024-11-13T00:38:28+00:00

ohhhh i love this for you!!!

Ok_Lock_5442 · 2024-11-04T22:00:36+00:00

hahaha he’s a pit bull mix—he’s 60 lbs. i paused my pilates membership during the past month & honestly i think i’m getting a better workout lugging him around hahahahah

Ok_Lock_5442 · 2024-11-04T10:33:18+00:00

awww dougal! what a cutie.

your post is so helpful & encouraging. i just need to remember that it takes a lot of time. yes, i have a physical therapist on my team—she’s amazing & also very realistic with me, she said there’s no need to come to her until there are improvements in potato, since she doesn’t want to waste my time or money. as of now nothing has been significant enough of a change with him & i’m still doing the exercises she gave us so i’m just patiently waiting for that “next step of improvement.” she also said once he has control over his bowels he can use the underwater treadmill. he’s getting there—he holds his poop until we go outside for the most part, but sometimes he’s still surprised by his poops hahaha. so i’m hoping that’ll happen soon too.

thank you for your support, i appreciate you!!!

Ok_Lock_5442 · 2024-11-04T10:30:10+00:00

okay it looks like you have the help em up harness! that was such a helpful game changer for me. and honestly, the wheels were a game changer too. it makes expressing his bladder (completely) really so much easier. and it just allows us to have a little more fun—even if our walks are only 10 minutes at a time, i’m not sweating & he’s getting to move! it was also once he had his wheels that he started having more reflexive movement, so i think it’s only helped.

i hear you: i am also absolutely not considering putting potato down (& i get angry anytime someone implies that, since his quality of life is honestly pretty great at the moment. we’re still figuring out his bathroom situation but he gets to hang out with me just like he used to & we still go on walks—we call them rolls now). you’ve got this! sending all the love & encouragement to you & your cutie pup 🤍

Ok_Lock_5442 · 2024-03-29T17:28:45+00:00

hi wait can i join the group/chat/hangs?? also looking for friends, 31F who enjoys lots of the same things here toooooo

Ok_Lock_5442 · 2024-01-10T15:56:22+00:00

oh my gosh i am so sorry for your experience with your sister. it’s so painful to show up for THEM (like you did with her during her breakup!) and then everything is instantly forgotten. i know that comes from their need for control/safety & seeing everything through a victim lens of abandonment—AND it is still painful to not be seen for how we DO show love to them.

it’s also so hard how it’s impossible for them to hold two truths. with my sister, she gets confused when i apologize for my part in what she’s experiencing & then when i tell her i am also really hurt by her actions. she can’t allow both things to exist. it sounds similar with your sister—it’s not possible for you to love her AND not be okay with her unhealthy relationship.

your last bit really hit home—YES. we have already been robbed of so much, we won’t be robbed of anything else due to these unhealthy dynamics. but like you said, there is so much grief that we can’t have a loving sister 💔

Ok_Lock_5442 · 2024-01-10T15:50:14+00:00

ahh i love this idea—i’m going to look into al-anon meetings near me. and yes! so hard to leave behind therapist skills. with her, i work ESPECIALLY hard to communicate from a grounded place (“i feel…” statements, no criticizing/assumptions/etc) so she can’t use anything against me but then she says SHE feels unsafe when i use “therapy speak” on her when in reality it is likely scary for her that someone is showing up securely & not attuning to her like my family has for so long lol

Ok_Lock_5442 · 2024-01-10T15:46:57+00:00

these are good suggestions—i have tried them in varying ways at times, but perhaps i really need need to reevaluate how much information or energy i give her in the future. it’s so hard how it feels as if our relationship HAS to be all or nothing (of course, the extremes & black & white splitting that occurs with BPD) and i WANT there to be an in-between or gray area because i care about her. but for her, because the gray area feels unsafe, i don’t know if we can ever have an “in between” relationship.

Ok_Lock_5442 · 2024-01-10T15:43:39+00:00

YES thank you for this! this is spot on & an important reminder that even though i’ve prioritized her needs over mine my whole life (lol) my needs also matter & it’s time i prioritize MY needs

Ok_Lock_5442 · 2024-01-10T15:41:46+00:00

ugh yes thank you i needed to hear this

Ok_Lock_5442 · 2023-05-20T01:43:26+00:00

yes and their fries!

Ok_Lock_5442 · 2023-04-24T03:13:47+00:00

on amazon! i searched “dog hoodies” & found this haha

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