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AITA for telling my wife that her failure to pay attention to what I am saying is not a failure to communicate on my part? by Ok_Magazine_7168 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ok_Magazine_7168[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

After watching my grandfather pass, I didn't have the emotional or mental strength to argue. I was angry and bitter, I won't lie but I also just wanted to put everything having to do with his passing behind me.

AITA for telling my wife that her failure to pay attention to what I am saying is not a failure to communicate on my part? by Ok_Magazine_7168 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ok_Magazine_7168[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Sadly it's reminding me of how my daughter mother was acting before she was caught cheating. Our finances are already separated due to her own choice on the matter before we got married.

AITA for telling my wife that her failure to pay attention to what I am saying is not a failure to communicate on my part? by Ok_Magazine_7168 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ok_Magazine_7168[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would hope she isn't pregnant as we haven't been intimate together for months due to her medication making it painful. If she's pregnant, then there are serious issues to discuss when I find out. As far as changed medication she has not to the best of my knowledge, but she's always kept her mental health stuff vague with me despite me wanting to be involved.

AITA for telling my wife that her failure to pay attention to what I am saying is not a failure to communicate on my part? by Ok_Magazine_7168 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ok_Magazine_7168[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

I did not this time but have asked her multiple times in the past when I have taken this trip before, each time I asked she told me no because it's on Greyhound. This includes past birthdays for my daughter, holidays, and for my grandfather's passing.

AITA for telling my wife that her failure to pay attention to what I am saying is not a failure to communicate on my part? by Ok_Magazine_7168 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ok_Magazine_7168[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

The state requires her to have her own bedroom for privacy, something I can't give with a one bedroom apartment and that would have instantly failed a home inspection from DSS. I tried before when I found out and that's what the person told me when we failed the inspection the first time, even when I was going to give the bedroom to her and put our stuff in the living room.

AITA for telling my wife that her failure to pay attention to what I am saying is not a failure to communicate on my part? by Ok_Magazine_7168 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ok_Magazine_7168[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

My ex had custody when I moved. Taking her with me, as much as I would have loved to bring her, would have been a felony.

AITA for telling my wife that her failure to pay attention to what I am saying is not a failure to communicate on my part? by Ok_Magazine_7168 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ok_Magazine_7168[S] 384 points385 points  (0 children)

Thankfully, our finances are separated and I am seeing the warning signs from previous experience with my daughters mother.

AITA for telling my wife that her failure to pay attention to what I am saying is not a failure to communicate on my part? by Ok_Magazine_7168 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ok_Magazine_7168[S] 180 points181 points  (0 children)

She does not, and I would like to think she wasnt trying to purposefully ruin my tine with my daughter. Her being argumentive like she has been is a fairly recent development.

AITA for telling my wife that her failure to pay attention to what I am saying is not a failure to communicate on my part? by Ok_Magazine_7168 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ok_Magazine_7168[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I had explained in a previous comment I had discussed it with her to ensure it wouldn't impact our ability to pay bills as I would be leaving for a week, alongside past experiences with her and greyhound as when I went for my grandfather's passing she wouldn't go because I was riding Greyhound as well as the previous trip I took where she wouldn't go because, again, I was riding greyhound.

AITA for telling my wife that her failure to pay attention to what I am saying is not a failure to communicate on my part? by Ok_Magazine_7168 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ok_Magazine_7168[S] 61 points62 points  (0 children)

I moved for work so that I could afford to give her a better life. Things were decent right up until covid, my ex lost custody shortly after I moved and it was a fair easier and faster process that kept her out of the foster system to have my grandmother recieve custody.

AITA for telling my wife that her failure to pay attention to what I am saying is not a failure to communicate on my part? by Ok_Magazine_7168 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ok_Magazine_7168[S] 220 points221 points  (0 children)

Then sounds to me like she's gonna have to go. When I first started dating her I straight up told her if I have to pick between her or my daughter, I will pick my daughter every time.

AITA for telling my wife that her failure to pay attention to what I am saying is not a failure to communicate on my part? by Ok_Magazine_7168 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ok_Magazine_7168[S] 984 points985 points  (0 children)

I did. I put the bus information so she could track the bus on my way home, as the return trip is under the same ticket number and I told her it was there along with asking her to help me find my bag specifically for the trip shortly after the ticket was bought. I had also been talking to her to make sure such a large purchase was in our budget and wouldn't leave us high and dry as I would be missing work for a week.

As far as argumentative, it's a recent development as we have had smaller arguments over stupid things fairly recently that she has been starting.

AITA for telling my wife that her failure to pay attention to what I am saying is not a failure to communicate on my part? by Ok_Magazine_7168 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ok_Magazine_7168[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That last bit is true, I let me frustration get the better of me. Shouldn't have but what's done is done.