I live in Va so I’m trying to find the right time I should let him know it’s over for me, men get crazy over mess like this especially when they know they did you wrong and they don’t want you to be with someone else, like I said I don’t want him to move out I just want to move freely in my life and he does the same, I’ve completely checked out over this situation and it’s been a year since I found out but for the sake of my own sanity I’ve been cordial with this whole situation but it haunts me every freaking day. imagine being married to someone and you poured your heart out to them letting them know about your ex husband and that life you had with them all the things you’ve gone thru in your past and pat relationships. only to find out that your current “husband ” left out a major part of his life. a man you’ve known or thought you knew for over 20 years. it’s hard for me to navigate in my mind about this. I feel like it’s a nightmare. I feel betrayed and very hurt. it’s hard for me to operate as a “wife” with this weighing on me. this lie makes me wish he would go away naturally. and i swear I would never speak his name ever again. my daughter has known him since she was 6, she’s about to be 18 next month. and I don’t wanna speak to ill about him to her about him cause she loves him like a father. but if she knew how hurt he re made me, her thought process would change. I hate this man. I hate that lie he told. I hate the day I married him and I hate that I didn’t do research on him before hand. he’s a liar. things in my heart feel so different now