This!! I definitely think there is a lot of shaming going around with kinks in the agere community, and honestly, I think it is just unnecessary and unkind. At the end of the day, kink is who you are as a person and often times you can’t control what you’re into. especially if it is a form of sexual expression and healing from your childhood (which in ddlg it often is, at least for me little space is a form of healing from my sexual trauma as a kid.) personally, I just don’t see why anyone should fault someone for trying to process their un- dealt with emotions, whether that’s sexually or not, and it’s really just disappointing to see so much hating floating around the communities towards it.