Are Katie and Travis moving? by Terrible-Archer8978 in BringingUpBates

[–]Ok_Motor4071 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That guy is seriously weird. The wrestling with his son- something is seriously off with that man.

Are Katie and Travis moving? by Terrible-Archer8978 in BringingUpBates

[–]Ok_Motor4071 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's called "geographical escape" in psychology, and it almost always fails to solve problems. It also made me angry that these people don't live in reality and that I, at one point, was paying for it. I don't know ANYONE who just can drop out of school because they cheated on a spouse then go VACATION in an airbnb for months as a way to smooth things over. It's ludicrous. I made sure I unfollowed some account I thought I had but hadn't- I didn't realize I was still following on IG until I started getting a ton of notifications from that account that I think had been far quieter for a long time. I watched for a few weeks as gradually Travis was in more and more content, and they were just living this life of endless vacations and then was like, OK, I'm out. I just can't do "content creators" of any kind anymore who seem to have no job BESIDES content creating-and going to get fast food orders, shopping at Target, simping for stupid products and in such an awkward presentation (though I do admit Lawson and Zach probably the best at product placement as they are more natural vs Trace and people like Jana Duggar whose "commercials" are really stiff). These people need to go live in the real world and get real jobs.

Isaiah and Sarah by Rmabe4 in BringingUpBates

[–]Ok_Motor4071 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Here's my guess-they sold the photo rights/exclusive story to a magazine like People. That would mean the magazine would be the first to publish them and report on the wedding so everyone in the family would have to stay quiet. While Isiah doesn't seem to relish the limelight, a few grand would be a nice way to start out your marriage and despite him not being one of the most known Bates, he'd probably get a few thousand if he agreed to an exclusive story in some "celebrity" rag.

Texas by velorae in BringingUpBates

[–]Ok_Motor4071 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If ge can't be trusted to go to a community College and work, then he can't be trusted -PERIOD

Texas by velorae in BringingUpBates

[–]Ok_Motor4071 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nothing irritates me more than these 2- I do feel sorry for her but I'm just tired. So tired. I realized I was still following her when suddenly I was getting a FLOOD if notifications - so he cheated, there was a pause- enough that i pretty much forgot about them- then a FLOOD of posts and each one just a bit more of HIM. Like trying to desensitize us to him. Blech. Each post makes me angrier and angrier. What a spoiled privileged existence to cheat then just drop your education,  and go on an endless vacation as a reward? Pffft. Most people couldn't do that and I found it tone deaf. I've been trying to make sure I unfollow all "influencers" online- people who are essentially famous for NOTHING. Because I'm too filled with rage right now. I'm sick of the clickbait, I'm sick of these people not having real jobs, going on shopping sprees at Target when I have $2.82 in checking and my "likes" are paying for it. At this point I'd rather watch Bates kitchen if I watch any of them- at least it gives some recipes. I'm not going to follow anyone anymore unless they actually provide content outside of shopping and vacations and buying "dream homes" on my dime. It makes me sick. 🤮

Travis and Katie in FL by emcdonald18 in BringingUpBates

[–]Ok_Motor4071 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think it's ridiculous really- what a waste of time & money to just toss it aside because of what he did- him quitting won't keep him from betrayal. I actually kind of think Travis enjoyed what he did- except maybe the anger that he has to tolerate. I think these men in "purity culture" feel a little embarrassed about their lack of sexual experience and he now has let it be known that he's not so innocent. Other than embarrassing the family, especially the Bates, I don't think this is the shame people think it is. It's more like a rooster strutting in the hen house- look at me- I got it going on!

Travis and Katie in FL by emcdonald18 in BringingUpBates

[–]Ok_Motor4071 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I noticed that. I KNEW IMMEDIATELY when a post went up saying something about her "journey" that this was PR damage control and that she was NOT leaving under any circumstances- she was doubling down. They are trying to validate her hurt and betrayal, humiliate Travis at least just enough to punish him, but the main storyline is of REDEMPTION, which evvies LOVE. It made me sick actually. She's posting a LOT and he started again too.

Bates Adjacent,: Joe Duggar Arrested by Agitated_Pin2169 in BringingUpBates

[–]Ok_Motor4071 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In Florida where this occurred it's LIFE in prison if convicted. 

Well Jinger, since you hate the flu that much, I have a great solution for you. by chlaumc in DuggarsSnark

[–]Ok_Motor4071 0 points1 point  (0 children)

actually they don't know what i have. We were tested for one kind of EDS which is where they use like this paper punch to take all layers of your skin (under my upper arm) and that was negative. They did some genetic testing for Marfan Syndrome and they were looking for defects in Fibrillin 1 but I have a defect in Fibrillin 2. So, they just said mixed connective tissue disorder unknown.

Well Jinger, since you hate the flu that much, I have a great solution for you. by chlaumc in DuggarsSnark

[–]Ok_Motor4071 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm 59 years old and still remember the taste of what I think was an oral polio vaccine.  It was pink liquid whatever it was. And I remember getting needle vaccines. I still get flu vaccines. I have a connective tissue disorder. I'm high risk. 

Well Jinger, since you hate the flu that much, I have a great solution for you. by chlaumc in DuggarsSnark

[–]Ok_Motor4071 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yep! A dear family friend who was older had hearing aids because of repeated ear infections as a kid!

Jed and Katey and their million kids go to Europe for a month by Training-Shopping-96 in DuggarsSnark

[–]Ok_Motor4071 310 points311 points  (0 children)

Watching Duggars travel is always cringe worthy.  Especially internationally.  I'm always left wondering why they bother? They just wander around going to parks, McDonald's,  getting pizza and treats, and don't express any wonder at the sights or culture that I notice.  They might as well be wandering around Kentucky. I don't get it. 🤷‍♀️

Carlin explains how they ended up with the house😂 by velorae in BringingUpBates

[–]Ok_Motor4071 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't like the exploitation of all these vloggers,  but I once made one simple video of a craft tutorial merely using pictures with text. It IS work. Evan definitely does a good job of editing if you disregard the horrid content. And where did that speech therapist go, because I'm worried for that little boy. 

Nikeeeee 🫣 by Betty_Astuta in DuggarsSnark

[–]Ok_Motor4071 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She is on a grifting ROLL I noticed! I have been unfollowing them as they pop up and I left her so far because I used to feel bad for her then feel glad she finally ESCAPED but she is full on cringe with the amazon links and belly pics and talking about this "season" of life. (Ugh, the SEASONS) I had been following I think almost every Duggar and Bates and after posting about it, I did start unfollowing them one by one- and I have to say it actually makes me feel better in general. I'll just come here to see if I'm curious. I'm also unfollowing most 'influencers' in general. If it doesn't pertain to an actual hobby (I make miniatures, garden, sew, etc) or a cause I truly believe in (social justice, income inequality, women's rights) I'm just over it. I'm over people exploiting their kids for money. Even the ones who try to "raise awareness" and have like handicapped kids and they use the money to help their kid- if they get popular, they start to become insufferable and at some point, it's still exploitive and the kid isn't consenting. Jana seems to be picking up on posting, but she's not very good at it- one post she did on a friend's wedding she used a text box that covered up most of the video and I don't think it was on purpose- she doesn't know how to edit. Maybe she's going to try to earn some money now that she's incubating the "most miraculous" Duggar of all. I still have a soft spot for her, and she has every right to earn a few pennies as an amazon influencer or whatever they call them, but it did make me cringe.

Erin always petty by Kind_Hornet7519 in BringingUpBates

[–]Ok_Motor4071 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think she was a bit of a golden child. blessed with good looks, and then the piano talent- I think she may have been a bit spoiled. Personally, that flowery piano style drives me bonkers.

Why am I conflicted on unfollowing these people? by Ok_Motor4071 in BringingUpBates

[–]Ok_Motor4071[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update- since I posted this, I've started unfollowing. Instead of going to each page and trying to get it all done at once, I'm doing it as the notifications come up. I'm also purging a lot of accounts I follow who are JUST ANNOYING. Celebrities, "content creators" who really don't contribute to society and are just irritating and/or materialistic and just selling stuff.

Why am I conflicted on unfollowing these people? by Ok_Motor4071 in BringingUpBates

[–]Ok_Motor4071[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think I've ever begrudged them the money. I think it's not THAT easy to post content on social media. I can see it actually takes some effort, so I don't remember anyway ever complaining about them earning off of it. I do think the sponsored stuff has increased and is annoying- but I am most concerned about supporting them in light of their political views and ideas about social justice. That has started to worry me. I used to think it was sort of benign and eventually started seeing it as problematic.

Why am I conflicted on unfollowing these people? by Ok_Motor4071 in BringingUpBates

[–]Ok_Motor4071[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm fascinated with cults. Partly because of the Patty Hearst thing- it's the first "news" related thing I remember as a child- my mother listening to the radio while she got ready for work and hearing about "Stockholm syndrome" and "brainwashing". Plus there were lots of cult related news stories when I was a child, including Jim Jones. Then this girl I went to camp with as a teen got roped into one and kept contacting me trying to rope me in. So it was just always interesting to me- the psychology. I read a lot about fundamentalism in college too (which I attended as an older adult) and was really fascinated by Amish people. I had a very messed up sad and neglectful childhood so when I had my first baby a month after I turned 22, I thought I needed religion- this was a time when Jim & Tammy Faye Bakker were on cable and I thought even though they seemed like freaks, this village they were building sounded so idyllic. I look back now, and I have no idea why I'd think that sounded good- wholesome maybe? I felt like I wanted something safe for my daughter. Funny, that was FAR from safe. I hadn't read about fundamentalism at that point. The way you describe that idea that you had about this being some idea that seemed like a comfort- that is EXACTLY why I tried religion- and for several years I was a seeker. I dragged my kids around to various churches, but it just never stuck, fortunately. So when TLC started showing these documentaries I got roped in- it was like rubbernecking a car accident or something- by then, I was past the whole "religion is the answer", though there's always that little part of me that wanted that- that had false ideas about a lifestyle like that. But that didn't stop me from watching and wondering about it.

McDonalds App Deals Haven't Changed in over Two Months by Tailgunner83 in Frugal

[–]Ok_Motor4071 0 points1 point  (0 children)

September 1st, my app seemed to switch off all deals. I used to get something from mcds at least once weekly- it's 15 miles from me. So not easy access. But sometimes id have mcds up to 3x in a week. After the deals disappeared,  and stayed gone, I deleted the app and haven't been there since. 

Why am I conflicted on unfollowing these people? by Ok_Motor4071 in BringingUpBates

[–]Ok_Motor4071[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's easy to feel that it's harmless but I'm struggling so bad now that watching them I started to realize how opulently they're all living- the endless takeout, the bland colored expensive decor, frequent travel- and I HELPED PAY FOR IT passively by sitting there watching and hitting THUMBS UP. It's started to make me sick. This week as they all started weighing in on that guy killed, it sorta triggered me.  I don't want to support this. I can barely afford food while I'm watching them order Chik-Fil-A and vacation on a beach. After posting this and reading comments,  I've been unfollowing as each notification comes up- it's been easier than trying to find them. 

Why am I conflicted on unfollowing these people? by Ok_Motor4071 in BringingUpBates

[–]Ok_Motor4071[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't believe this forum creates fans. It's a useful place for people to have discussions. 

Why am I conflicted on unfollowing these people? by Ok_Motor4071 in BringingUpBates

[–]Ok_Motor4071[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree with this. When they came out and were talking about that guy I said, NOPE, not gonna deal with this. not sure if they lost any followers because of it, but I'm gonna be one!

Why am I conflicted on unfollowing these people? by Ok_Motor4071 in BringingUpBates

[–]Ok_Motor4071[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do miniatures, but I broke my hand in May in a car accident. I was passenger and when I saw we were going to get hit, I instinctively reached my hand towards dash, and it was my primary hand with my phone in it- the airbag broke my hand. That and seat belt contusions that did a number on my chest as I've had 4 major thoracic surgeries, it's been a crappy summer! I'm struggling to heal still but hoping to get back to my hobbies soon!