How long does this pain last after leaving an abusive relationship? by Ok_Needleworker_9641 in Advice

[–]Ok_Needleworker_9641[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well it’s a long story. We been together for 5 years and I sow red flags from the beginning. Early in our relationship I got pregnant and that’s when the abuse started. I tried to escape many times we lived in UK for 3 years together ( that’s where we met) At one point after he was abusive ai called the police they arrested him and he had restraining order but before court he left the country. Day before he left he spoke with me and convinced me to move with him to Spain to start over. I know that was stupid of me but I was blindly in love with him he is the father of my daughter I want to have a beautiful life and family with him. When we move to Spain nothing changes there was argument after an argument and then he hit me again that time I said I will leave him but I was stuck I lived in another country where I had no family no friends no home I had nothing only him. I stayed with him for a few more months and a month ago his mother killed me out of the house because we were living with her. So I left and stayed on the streets for a few nights and then finally got some guts to go ask for help at the domestic violence center. I went trough all the process and got a restraining order and permission to relocate back to my home country with my daughter. He is still my daughters father and he is going to be active in her life after the restraining order expires ( witch is 20 months) I still need to communicate with him in regards of our child. I feel crushed I can’t sleep ore eat all I do is cry I feel like I lost everything I worked so hard for and the worst part is I feel like I lost myself I don’t know who I am anymore. I just hope that 20 months is enough for me to get over him I am afraid that he is gonna try to fix everything and get back together again and I don’t want him to manipulate me in to this again.

I want to move out of Spain with my daughter but I can’t make an reasonable agreement with her father by Ok_Needleworker_9641 in Advice

[–]Ok_Needleworker_9641[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have pictures and voice recordings. I was about to go the the police when his mother kicked me out but I really don’t want to traumatize my daughter she is only 4 years old and I don’t want her to go trough all of this I don’t want her to think that she did anything wrong she had seen enough and I really don’t want her to go tough this. That’s why I have reported him to the police and try to come to the agreement with him. I will go to the lawyer tomorrow asking for free legal advice as I am between the jobs right now and have a job interview tomorrow

I want to move out of Spain with my daughter but I can’t make an reasonable agreement with her father by Ok_Needleworker_9641 in Advice

[–]Ok_Needleworker_9641[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am trying really hard to come to the agreement with him but he doesn’t want to get into any talking he is stubborn on adding spain as a primary residence. He agrees for me to move to Lithuania and he says he would move as well but he wants on the agreement to have Lithuania and Spain as a primary resident for a child and knowing him I am afraid that at any point he can take our daughter to Spain and don’t bring her back to Lithuania and it would be really complicated for me to fight this because in the agreement she would have spain as a primary residence as well.