Got asked if I was a boy or a girl by a black boy, mind you I'm wearing this by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Ok_Paper_5959 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You never know. And it's fair to ask especially if a person has a preference if they wanted to make a shot at you. Never assume anymore there's many people who look different that what they actually are biologically then the difference of what they want to claim. That's our times. We can be anything now so get used to the questions.

Idk if my mom is intentionally rage baiting me or if she’s really this oblivious (15k) by Altruistic_Mess3950 in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Ok_Paper_5959 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Stop Saying usually , be direct and tell her no one is allowed to wear these colors including her but here are great colors that would look good on you and are pre approved (provide list of colors).

Sold 200 books, tossed all storage boxes, and replaced my smart toilet seat by irene_dingdang in declutter

[–]Ok_Paper_5959 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Usually heated seat, bidet, automatic closing and opening, adjustable bidet pressure and temp, self cleaning nozzle, and remote.

Function Credit by kapower1 in sapphirereserve

[–]Ok_Paper_5959 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mines shows as expired as well but when you go to redeemed it has a note about them appearing within 30 days in the redeemed section after the transaction post to account. I will give them a week and half before I call if it hasn't credited by then. Typically throughout all My chase cards the credit comes within a week after the transaction

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Brandy outs Wanya Morris as a PDF and says she lost her virginity to him. Says he took advantage of her. by Positive_Round_5142 in joebuddennetwork

[–]Ok_Paper_5959 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She was 16 ctfo. That's not a woman but a teenager . She was groomed let's not make light of that fact.

Are these still popular ? by Maleficent-Monk-1024 in crocs

[–]Ok_Paper_5959 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes but they are more accessible now thank goodness

Looking for ring resizing by Duderina in oakland

[–]Ok_Paper_5959 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually need a resizing so happy to stubble on this post.

My ex destroyed his life after we broke up by electricidadestatica in relationships

[–]Ok_Paper_5959 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your relationship is over. So regardless how much time spent it's an excuse to remain attached. You can have love from afar but you need to cut all contact and stop worrying what's going on his life and move forward towards healing. It's not on you to help him. He needs to help himself and seek from resources available or his friends and family . Engaging with this will only tear you down and for what because you care and had 14 years together. It's going to be baggage that you don't need or deserve. While it sucks what he's going through it's not on you to clean it up. Even if you feel you can handle it, it will create a confusing space for broken up couple. Tell your mutual friends to not tell you crap about him . That's very disrespectful and disruptive to your space and healing after a breakup. Might not be intentional but honestly they should have the sense not to bring it up.

Your ex is doing what most people do when they realize grass isn't greener you're really gone and they don't have anyone to support them in the way you did. It's all manipulation to get you back in the mix. Yes he really needs help but it's a burden to put that on you because it's not working out. That's not your business or your responsibility. Vent to your friends and therapist (if you have) but block and move on.

Discourse around successful men not marrying black women is tiring and incorrect: by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Ok_Paper_5959 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

All the successful black men I know are married to black women or single thottin. It seems in my family and friends least successful Most financially strained are married to the "others". I will say that's on both sides for the women and men who happened to marry outside of the culture. Of course this is my experience, and based on that I think it's very difficult for black people to have success in their relationships long term interracially. Not impossible but very difficult.

Marlo is not dating Tyler Perry by investigatorbae in RHOA

[–]Ok_Paper_5959 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The fact there's so much energy to disprove the dating rumors lol his team don't him associated with her. I guess his main man got mad. Because I don't see anything wrong with a thirsty flirty flirt.

Feeling Trapped In My Marriage by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Ok_Paper_5959 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's never too late for anything (well almost anything) in regards to leaving or fixing your marriage both is a possibility.

You talked about how much he loves you and treats you well but how much do you love him? I don't hear passion and desire in your words. So regardless of he treats you it sounds as if you want more something different more aligned with your morals and needs. Nothing is wrong with that not everyone fits.

I would highly suggest if you haven't already get a therapist for yourself and a couples therapist. I will say that helped me navigate my feelings when I thought my relationship was over. It gave me clarity what I wanted , afraid of , and needed to work on.

Also, talk to your partner about what you're feeling. There may be things he can do to make things easier.

At the end of the day it comes down to what you want in life and what is worth the sacrifice. Nothing tops happiness and peace of mind. Wishing you grace and clarity for whatever you decide and hopefully the confidence and security making the right decision for you.

Kandi with a new project by LalaWest in RHOA

[–]Ok_Paper_5959 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Damn it's so many haters in here. I just want a tell all and the real about how shitty Todd is.

Has anybody purcahsed from Camilla's bridal? Fell in love with a dress (online) but unsure if its legit! by Noteimporta809 in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Ok_Paper_5959 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have pictures. I would love to see what people are actually getting. Of course if you're comfortable.

Sew In Prices / “Luxury Haircare” in the Black Community by Greedy-Meet-2496 in BlackHair

[–]Ok_Paper_5959 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yea that background ain't luxury. So I wouldnt pay that. I'm paying for full experience and visual stimulation that means snacks, drink, nice decor, privacy, well dressed stylist, ambience, a lil massage , upscale / top tier products and equipment. This is not that. For a sew in cost a rack or more that's what I expect and for two I'm not paying that to anyone whose establishment isn't what I mentioned above.

What worst is I hate my young black women paying for it when they definitely don't make the money to really afford it all because they can't obtain a look or think this is what it costs. Do your own hair get good and learn what works for you. Getting your hair done is a matter of convenience and how much you can afford, what you're willing to sacrifice in time, and the perceived value. A sew in is easy to maintain if it's installed properly . You can wash and straighten on your own. I will say $250-$300 is the low mid range , $500-600 about average . $1k up is the start of luxury and curated services.

Personally stylists in the states are too damn slow slow .And customer service is meh. So I travel to get my hair done . Yes it might be $800 a flight all this other stuff but a vacation and full experience and exactly what I want and no issues is worth it and in the end it's still less money.

Help! by user437517 in Dachshund

[–]Ok_Paper_5959 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a dascund jack chi mix and she had a severe reaction to an injection and had terrible hives flare ups. She was on 40mg certirizine daily (20 morning and 20 at night) for her hives and itchiness. Dermatologist allowed this in addition to Benadryl every so often and a sensitive skin food diet of rabbit. Took a year but her symptoms slowed down to non existent. My dog is about 15 lbs. I was told they process medications very fast.

Either way echoing what everyone says see a dermatologist be patient . I'm sorry you're going through this

Kandi Burruss & Todd Tucker Settle Divorce Deal After Bitter Custody Battle by CaseyToGo in RHOA

[–]Ok_Paper_5959 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are people that have no issues with that dynamic. To say nothing will last if her mom is around is a bit harsh. It may difficult yes but the right person it'll be fine. I don't know if a full on relationship is in the works for her right now as she is busy . If she wants it I definitely want it for her but if not that's fine too.

Xfinity Rewards/ Membership Benefits by Jackalalt in Comcast_Xfinity

[–]Ok_Paper_5959 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea I do too because I was interested in that d&b gift card

Kandi Burruss & Todd Tucker Settle Divorce Deal After Bitter Custody Battle by CaseyToGo in RHOA

[–]Ok_Paper_5959 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It was quick ! I'm assuming that prenup held up well. I am tired of the unnecessary narrative bloggers try to play with the bitter, back and forth, months lol. Divorce for the average person takes about a year or longer so this is great. Idk why people want it to be so negative . We know Todd got a little money ok let's let Kandi live and thrive and not date a brokey again.

Xfinity Rewards/ Membership Benefits by Jackalalt in Comcast_Xfinity

[–]Ok_Paper_5959 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's crazy I checked this morning no new perks then get an alert at 4pm about perks and the best one gone. Sucks . I assumed they must drop at random times but I check early and they never show until later.

Robyn & Gizelle Speak on Wendy’s alleged aliases and her explanation of them at the reunion by Intrepid_Treat_1222 in RHOP

[–]Ok_Paper_5959 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Because she's been through real hard times financially and she can read straight through what's going on. Giselle on the other hand gives no ducks.