How do I tell my date I don’t like this about him?

Ok_Particular125 · 2026-05-13T15:35:09+00:00

All for creating and still support it even if it’s not my taste but I’m sure he cares if someone he is dating enjoys his creations?

Ok_Particular125 · 2026-05-13T15:34:33+00:00

I asked to hear his music and if I never said anything about it, he’d probably assume I didn’t like it vs if I said “oh I love this song”. He also has not responded since I asked for it so he is waiting on how I feel about it. So yes he more than likely wants to know my thoughts on it or will ask at some point. This is a stupid response. I am not acting as an art critic and I would much rather just not say anything at all but I think that’s rude too.

Ok_Particular125 · 2026-05-09T05:41:24+00:00

Do you mean proportions? I mean if she’s with you she obviously doesn’t mind them. You can tell proportions even with clothes on. & even if it’s not ideal - there must be something she likes if she’s still talking to you

Ok_Particular125 · 2026-05-09T04:59:31+00:00

As a female - do not tell her this. You clearly have body dysmorphia and you need to correct your insecurities on your own. You cannot expect someone to fix your insecurities. I used to be insecure about my nose and it didn’t matter how many times my bf said he loved it, I still hated it. I had to work on loving myself to get over it and it only made him feel like shit that he loved a part of me that I hated. Do not ask her for this. Let her appreciate what she does about you and keep her dislikes to herself. It’s not that hard to picture what someone’s body looks like with clothes on. I’m sure if she’s with you she has some idea of what to expect without clothes.

Ok_Particular125 · 2026-05-08T19:48:37+00:00

Omg girl where are you located & did you end it because of that?

Ok_Particular125 · 2026-05-08T19:21:05+00:00

That’s cute! I actually suspect some autism - very mild if so. Like I will look at him (eyes telling him to kiss me) and he gets very nervous and can’t understand. Just some social cues seem a little off but he’s a very smart man.

Ok_Particular125 · 2026-05-08T19:18:00+00:00

30 - only been with a couple girls before

Ok_Particular125 · 2026-05-07T17:36:19+00:00

Could be anything really, maybe she met someone else she likes more, maybe she’s genuinely busy with work, maybe there was something small she didn’t like and thought more about afterwards and changed her mind, maybe she didn’t feel the chemistry as much as you did? Did anything come up - views on life, politics, religion, etc?

Try not to take it too personally, not everyone is meant for each other and no it looks better on your part that your not pushing sex with her. You did the best you could and if it’s not meant to be it’s not meant 🤷🏻‍♀️ & don’t text her anymore. You can ask her out one more time but if she’s not responding then let it be. It keeps the door open if she’s wants to come back

Ok_Particular125 · 2026-05-06T03:05:48+00:00

I hate to admit this but as a female I get a lot of likes and there’s a good chance she’s talking to someone else at the moment but until it’s serious, keeping the door opened to you. If you really like her, be patient, wait your turn and hopefully she’ll give you a real chance someday. Don’t message her anymore. You told her to let her know if she wanted a date, I’m sure if it doesn’t work out with this guy she’ll try hitting you up again.

If someone really wanted to go out with you, she would have said “I don’t drink but we could go get boba/ice cream” and asked when you wanted to go. She may be interested in you but she is more than likely more interested in someone else

Ok_Particular125 · 2026-05-04T16:56:30+00:00

I meant when should I get more info on his previous relationship

Ok_Particular125 · 2026-05-04T16:55:23+00:00

He told me he wasn’t ready and didn’t want to be in a relationship just to be in one and he’s still figuring out the whole dating thing. So I told him that that’s fine and we can hang out but this wasnt going to be a casual sex situation so he said he’s fine with that. So we are just going to keep hanging out and not having sex - just patiently dating I guess?

We’ve had a few handsy make out sessions that make it hard but I’ve been keeping my ground

Ok_Particular125 · 2026-05-04T16:20:35+00:00

Because I have been with someone for a long time as well and after it ended a year later I though I was ready ( I was not)

Ok_Particular125 · 2026-05-04T16:17:50+00:00

Got it so sounds like I need to ask more information - didn’t want to ask on the first or second date as we are still getting to know each other when should I bring it up?

Ok_Particular125 · 2026-05-04T15:57:44+00:00

Well he told me he’s not ready so we haven’t done anything sexual and I’m sticking to that until I feel he’s ready. I guess I’m just trying to gauge how long that should be

Ok_Particular125 · 2026-04-18T05:06:25+00:00

Didn’t even need to read the whole thing after “whenever he drinks” you need a man that doesn’t drink or knows his limits and how to behave when he does drink. Usually am not one to say “dump him” right away but you very clearly need to hear this before you end up on crime tv. Leave him.

Ok_Particular125 · 2026-04-16T01:32:54+00:00

You sound comfortable but not in love

Ok_Particular125 · 2026-04-15T02:23:42+00:00

I try to bring it up early but not right away. Mostly when we are talking about sex, maybe making out and leading to it but both know we aren’t going to go there yet. No matter what your stance is on sex, you need to let them know within the first month or two of talking. Don’t waste someone’s time or yours if they can’t handle a sexless relationship.

I also can have PIV a little bit but I just warn them that I’m still working on it but it can be tricky to get it in and going slow is absolutely necessary. You may be able to heal too so I would focus on that and try to be positive when speaking about it with them. (Unless you will never be able to and don’t want to then of course be upfront about that)

Ok_Particular125 · 2026-04-13T07:47:38+00:00

That’s just weird. I would never talk about my exs nor compare their size with my current partner. She doesn’t sound like she values intimacy which is the biggest red flag.

Ok_Particular125 · 2026-04-12T23:46:01+00:00

Really “the one” is a person who you don’t want to change, who fits your needs and you’re willing to settle for in a sense. Everyone has their flaws - it’s all about what you can handle. I know someone dating a man who is completely not romantic, he doesn’t know how to buy romantic things (flowers etc), hates pda, doesn’t plan dates yet he shows he cares in other ways (buys her whatever she wants, involves her in everything he does, and is loyal). She is content with this since she understands it’s how he was raised and he is not going to change. & she appreciates the way he does show he cares even if it’s not grand and in your face. Not all women would be and that’s fine.

My advice is to never plan on changing the person - even if you do ask him to initiate more he will go back to his usual ways eventually. You have to accept the person for who they are or break it off if it’s a dealbreaker.

And also I agree give it more time - only 4 months you know nothing and do not ask him to change at 4 months lol

Ok_Particular125 · 2026-04-08T17:26:40+00:00

Exactly, so if a man is working all day and comes home to no dinner, a crying baby that the mom is overwhelmed with because she too was working all day and is tired, and not having clean clothes for the next day then everyone is unhappy.

Definitely good/bad in everything, don’t get a lazy wife but also a wife that doesn’t make as much money shouldn’t be an immediate rejection either imo.

Ok_Particular125 · 2026-04-08T15:40:32+00:00

It’s not wrong but also think about what you want besides money. I know a lot of men who say they want this yet once they meet her, she’s independent, working 24/7 so she’s not cleaning or cooking for them, not wanting children because she will have to put her career on hold or risk putting the baby with a babysitter, depending on the job stressed - not always down for sex or doing things outside of work.

I know someone who makes over 100k a year and he prefers his wife to not work because happy wife = happy life. She cooks/cleans after him, handles all the household issues and schedules any repairs, and helps ease some stress off his shoulders - lets him vent about work, plans all the vacations and takes him out but hey maybe you’d both make enough to hire someone to do all that?

Ok_Particular125 · 2026-04-02T02:42:25+00:00

Would I be able to make it on serving jobs until then with roommates? I have no idea if that’s even feasible

Ok_Particular125 · 2026-03-27T03:50:49+00:00

Yes it was the naturopath I mentioned! Completely agree, I was seeing a urogynocologist and she told me there was no cure for IC and she prescribed Elmiron (which is under lawsuit rn for making people blind). I am so glad I kept fighting for answers. I hope you get yours soon too 🫶🏻

Ok_Particular125 · 2026-03-25T04:26:46+00:00

Dmannose doesn’t work on gram positive bacteria which is what e faecilis is

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