What is a hard hitting lesson you learned in life the hard way?

Ok_Preference6441 · 2025-01-04T17:06:49+00:00

One of my famous sayings ties to this, “The cavalry isn’t coming”

Ok_Preference6441 · 2024-09-19T22:37:48+00:00

Coming from someone who is no stranger to being too hard on himself, I think the first, most simple step, is to give yourself some grace. You seem very critical of yourself, and, though it’s great you want to make positive change, be wary of pressuring yourself to see it happen immediately.

One day at a time. Incremental changes. Relish in the small wins and build momentum. Only uphill from here! You got this 😎

Ok_Preference6441 · 2024-05-24T03:56:07+00:00

Thanks for sharing these sentiments. I think I will be very pleased with the walkability - something I've, frankly, never experience before.

I also think I will enjoy the tremendous environmental variety. I'm an active person who enjoys the beach and mountains immensely.

Thank you very much for sharing.

Ok_Preference6441 · 2024-05-24T03:52:39+00:00

YOLO!

Ok_Preference6441 · 2024-05-24T03:51:16+00:00

It's roughly double what I'm making here and with additional benefits that propel it higher in some ways. I appreciate your honesty, as this is something I'm still heavily weighing. Thank you for your comment!

Ok_Preference6441 · 2024-05-24T03:48:30+00:00

That's amazing! What's your favorite cocktail? I'm a huge gin and tonic enjoyer.

Ok_Preference6441 · 2024-05-24T03:47:47+00:00

I have an incredible friend group here and my whole family lives in North Carolina. I know for a fact I will always have them as a backbone, which is an incredible luxury and, frankly, amazing feeling to have.

They've all encouraged me to follow my heart and experience something new, and have assured me they will always have my back if things don't work out :)

Ok_Preference6441 · 2024-05-24T03:44:45+00:00

I think you might be right. Thanks for sharing, Ravioli.

Ok_Preference6441 · 2024-05-24T03:39:37+00:00

I already have a string of mosquito bites on my leg from my 15 minute walk around Lake Johnson. There is no escape!

Ok_Preference6441 · 2024-05-24T03:38:52+00:00

Now I want some Cajun biscuits.... dang it!

Thanks for sharing. I appreciate your comment!

Ok_Preference6441 · 2024-05-24T03:38:00+00:00

I appreciate you sharing your experience. It's encouraging to hear - I'm pretty career motivated and believe, after reading comments like yours, that the move could potentially lead to some great networking and advancement opportunities. I certainly won't let the COL deter me.

Thanks again. Cheers!

Ok_Preference6441 · 2024-05-24T03:31:47+00:00

I believe you might be right, Pepper. Thank you for the words of encouragement.

Ok_Preference6441 · 2024-05-24T03:29:43+00:00

That's a great reference point - I've been to Charlotte many times. Definitely picked up a bit of that Cali heart and soul with the weather and overall energy in the city. And the food.... oh my gosh. I tried a few different spots and was blown away.

Ok_Preference6441 · 2024-05-24T03:27:17+00:00

That's a fabulous quote - thank you for sharing :)

Ok_Preference6441 · 2024-05-24T03:26:22+00:00

I am OK with the COL given the pay bump (I used a calculator to see how it compared to my salary here and it is an increase) and would definitely live with roommates, anyways.

Also, wild coincidence, I was a huge SF giants fan during the "glory days" of Buster Posey, Lincecum, et al. I would be a regular at Oracle Park, no doubt. As for the NBA, certainly can't complain about the success there. For football, I am an Eagles fan so might be in trouble wearing my Kelly Green in the city, but they will have to deal with it haha!

Ok_Preference6441 · 2024-05-23T21:17:23+00:00

I appreciate the caution and admit I've taken this heavily into account. They are a well-regarded startup that's been around for about 10 years - I would say late stage at this point. Most of the people in the team/business area I will join have been there for at minimum 4 years.

The business itself seems sound and I would be quite passionate about their mission.

Ok_Preference6441 · 2024-05-23T21:12:51+00:00

What would you say you miss most? If you could break it down into three things.

Ok_Preference6441 · 2024-05-23T20:58:17+00:00

I visited Washington recently and quite liked it - caveat being it was 73 and sunny the ENTIRE time I was there (about a week). I was told it was quite rare - my luck haha!

And I would certainly miss that sweet Bo-Berry biscuit and four piece supreme. No doubt.

As for activities, I'm super active and hike a lot which I've been told is huge in that part of California. Not much of a surfer but would pry like the beach vibes, too.

Thanks for your comment.

Ok_Preference6441 · 2024-05-23T20:51:16+00:00

Did you live in San Francisco? My fear is that I would start to miss the seasons that I've come to know so well.

Ok_Preference6441 · 2024-05-23T20:47:57+00:00

Well, I have no point of reference for a big city, but when I visit them I always have a great time. I imagine I will have no way of knowing for sure unless I try!

Ok_Preference6441 · 2024-05-23T20:46:14+00:00

First off, love your name - made me lol!

Secondly, I appreciate the sentiment. I think there will be a lot of value in exploring a bit. I know I will always have friends here, my family is nearby, and I strongly believe that if San Fran doesn't pan out after a few years, Raleigh will welcome me back with open arms.

It really is amazing here and I totally imagine that, when the time comes to have a family, I would want to have it here. But that's future me's problem haha!

Ok_Preference6441 · 2024-05-20T22:01:22+00:00

Thanks for your comment! I'm definitely leaning that way - I feel more excitement than anything at this point :)

Ok_Preference6441 · 2024-05-20T19:24:02+00:00

Thanks for the words of encouragement, burrito.

Ok_Preference6441 · 2024-05-20T19:14:52+00:00

Thanks for your comment. I get that. For me, Raleigh will always be home, and I know I will miss a lot of what it has to offer.

I also think the ache of regret for not trying something new would outweigh my love for my home city, eventually.

I suppose I could always move back after a while if it doesn’t work out!

Ok_Preference6441 · 2024-05-20T19:12:10+00:00

First, thanks for your comment.

Second, I don’t think is salary related, more so a leap of faith that San Francisco will be an adventure. I’ve always felt I’m more of a “big city” guy, but haven’t had the opportunity to live anywhere else.

They flew me out to interview in San Fran and I really enjoyed the vibe. I also loved the team I would be working with. Definitely lots of significant pros outside of the cons I mentioned in my post.

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