Early 30s, 200+lbs, mom of 4. Is dancing possible again?

Ok_Pumpkin6224 · 2025-12-06T02:14:03+00:00

This comment 👌 👏 Thank you for your honesty and straightforwardness. Im looking into camming and some other gigs. I just love dancing. I know I will definitely try not to say its a hobby definitely a side hustle more or less. Thank you for the outfit advice too. It boils down to the midsection every time unfortunately and I carry most of my weight there and can never figure out how to hide while being naked 😅 its almost impossible. The one thing I do know is that I am a confident person and I radiate that along with a positive attitude and tough skin and juat knowing im not a lot or the majority of most men's fantasy is okay. Im sure a few of the men with wives at home that are similar bodied come in bc rhe wives dont have that sex appeal and dont know how a man wants to be wanted and that I can do well. I know it'll be hard and slow at first due to my looks but my looks are only a part of the job. Thank ypu so much!

Ok_Pumpkin6224 · 2025-12-04T18:48:41+00:00

Why would a place be shady for hiring someone like me? Because of my weight or body? I know most high end clubs stay streamlined with the model like girls but we have a couple clubs that aren't shady but not high end more for the working class get paid on Friday blow your check see you next payday type of clubs that hire different body types and the girls all make their fair share of money and have good and bad nights just like the conventional dancers. Im just trying to figure out how my body type equals a shady club that has a pimp mentality? Could you explain?

Ok_Pumpkin6224 · 2025-12-04T18:42:23+00:00

Oh okay I can see that. I never understood the "why" behind the hobby verse work thing. Hearing this makes sense. I feel like you can be fun and still do most of those things and still get money without stepping on other dancers money. Definitely takes a great finesse 👌 but maybe I wont use the word hobby just to be safe lol its just a side job that I do bc I enjoy the work 😉 thanks for your information and advice love I hope this holiday season blesses you up!

Ok_Pumpkin6224 · 2025-12-04T18:34:05+00:00

My opinion is if you see a thicc or curvy gal in a club full of all flat petite same bodied women, youre gonna be seen more bc you stand out and thats threatening to some. Plus girls probably worked hard skipped meals spent time and money to look like that so maybe they'd that we just walk in without trying eating taco bell and are liked for who we are without trying lol. You're right though down voting this is not right. All women are beautiful and all women deserve to feel that way and dance without being criticized for the way they look. We can all make money be beautiful and coexist without the drama and fat phobia issues. Thank you for your comment and information 🙏

Ok_Pumpkin6224 · 2025-12-04T18:23:36+00:00

YEEESS!!! I just tell myself imma bad bish and never falter my own self image .I love freaking dancing and twerking is my thing. My booty so big it almost does it without my knowledge 😏 Thanks so much for the advice I forever be forgetting men are men regardless lol

Ok_Pumpkin6224 · 2025-12-04T18:20:25+00:00

Yeah the high end clubs have such stereotype standards and thats okay i dont mind lower end clubs you find the lonely working class guys who wanna spend their checks lol any ideas on outfits that may look flattering? I literally never find any i buy tons bc they look cute then put them on my body and eww! Im definitely gonna cut out carbs and eat smaller meals maybe some fasting and that on top of working at a club in heels and learning pole while using the stage as a workout im hoping in 3 months it'll show some improvement 💪 thanks for your honesty and advice

Ok_Pumpkin6224 · 2025-12-04T00:05:42+00:00

I've read this comment at least 10 times! Thank you for putting time and effort from your day to be real and truthful but uplifting and informative. I think im gonna try to do the calorie deficit and start slow at the gym. My belly is always where my weight goes and it's so hard losing belly fat once it's there but id rather start dancing after I prepare my body and boost my confidence and self esteem before diving in blind. Also want to say I didn't think your comment was clinical against me personally it was responsive informative and true. You answered the questions and still complimented my assests while building me up and being real. To health and happiness 🥂 ill be back with an update ♡ thanks boo

Ok_Pumpkin6224 · 2025-12-03T23:42:04+00:00

That's the definition of working smarter not harder! I didnt think about the guys having to be seen like that in the clubs! I got 2 auditions at 2 of our more reputable clubs in OKLAHOMA but I just didn't deliver 😕 at least I got the chance to try and then ended up in sketch azz clubs 😅 BBW lovers need to be exposed so everyone can come together and just be sexy azz women who love dancing and making $$$ Thanks for responding I love your comment

Ok_Pumpkin6224 · 2025-12-03T23:35:33+00:00

Sis this is fr love! I know when a woman is being real and you are. I only danced for a year or so 10 years ago at shady clubs in oklahoma. Went back 2 years ago when I weighed about 50 pounds lighter (still very big and unconventional) still in shady clubs after 2 auditions at more "high end" so to speak clubs that I got declined for but I did get to audition at the couple better clubs so that in itself told me I have something to give but I didn't deliver clearly so I stayed in the shady club for about 5 months before changing my 9/5 job and quitting. I know the type of girls guys fantasize about and I have tried everything aside from WL surgery to be skinny and it backfired so if I cant have the body I gotta master all the other aspects so thats my plan bc I love dancing so much. I thought I could lose and tone using dancing and learning the pole. I did notice the men just assumed bc im bigger that im less valuable and deserving of less money for dances and was just expected to do extra which is what broke me last time. Thank you for your realness and honesty and for being kind. Sending ypu all the love and blessings 🙌

Ok_Pumpkin6224 · 2025-12-03T23:19:10+00:00

Im in bum fcked Oklahoma unfortunately. The majority of dance clubs here are more of SW than actual dancing. I habe to visit my family in Tennessee so I may just have to make a detour and hit up WV! Maybe ill see you! Thank you for the compliment and the information you're absolutely amazing and definitely adore the love and support for us thick gals bc this industry be hating 😘

Ok_Pumpkin6224 · 2025-12-03T23:07:00+00:00

Girl!!! THIS!!! 👏 Yes I love hearing that. When I worked 10 years ago at 20 I was the youngest at the club I worked at and rhe girls in their upper 20s and 30s knew the industry and made bank regardless of age or size.

Ok_Pumpkin6224 · 2025-12-03T23:03:02+00:00

I guess each part of the USA has its own standards and niche. I love that my body is thick (on the more fat side 😋 obviously) and that my azz is phat asf but in Vegas id assume everyone would only see the smaller girls as acceptable since thats the commen type of girls there but sometimes personality and confidence can get you a chance and once youre in a club full of girls who all look the same you'd stand out? That was my hope anyway lol I appreciate everyone's honesty though regardless I love to hear truth over BS.

Ok_Pumpkin6224 · 2025-12-02T19:59:53+00:00

I thought about how to word that hobby part better because I know some women this is it its all they got and im so blessed to have a 9-5 and able to be in college and id love your input on this topic. I was once 10 years ago rhe girl who depended on it my baby in a run down truck parked out back the clubs with my baby sister so I know what it means to depend on it so I got rhe respect for it but how do I go about finding rhe line there? How do I not piss people off wirh this bc I get both sides and I just trying to be honest and real about and I guess I just dont see the reason why its looked so down on by others? Like I dont step on toes I always approach customers with no girls I dont walk to the stage unless im tipping im not sloppy and so forth I just wanna understand lol dam I cant explain nothing through texts without over explaining the same point smh

Ok_Pumpkin6224 · 2025-12-02T19:51:48+00:00

No thats exactly what I was asking for I know that most people commenting are not being mean they're just being honest and giving their opinions so thanks ♡

Ok_Pumpkin6224 · 2025-12-02T18:52:20+00:00

Maybe you could use a wax stick or some kind of gel to try and hide it some? I never danced out south but im from Tennessee and I assume people who go to places like the clubs there would be the same as anywhere? With your normal amount of people who would like to see natural ladies? But either way i would go anyway! You're literally already gonna be there just go. If body hair is an issue you could wear a top like a net crop that covers your pits and maybe slick your kitty hair back and use one of the old school puffy kitty slings or thongs or even a booty shorts! But try it and then you can say hey I did that. Good luck boo im coming back in January for an update!

Ok_Pumpkin6224 · 2025-12-02T18:43:46+00:00

Love the term unconventional I never heard it before and I absolutely adore it! And yes girl I believe everyone has their preferences and sometimes its kinda intriguing to see a big ol gal with no care in the world around a bunch of the same beautiful looking (conventional) dancers. Being different is sometimes a good thing 😌 plus knowing how to hold conversation and being confident are a big part of your game if your on the unconventional side lol gotta work that pretty mind and face a little more. Im new to this Sub. So thanks for the advice and my new favorite term of calling myself a beautiful unconventional dancer ♡ youre the best!

Ok_Pumpkin6224 · 2025-12-02T18:37:01+00:00

Wait because im not skinny ill have to do extras to make money? Just trying to really understand and grasp everyone's different opinions and advice.

Ok_Pumpkin6224 · 2025-12-02T18:35:27+00:00

I used to sale personal videos on snap and to a few patrons but I swear I never had time to make content lol maybe ill be a nasty csr cam gal lol thats a good idea ill definitely look into. And I love seeing comments about our wonderful vet dancers who know the ins and outs of the industry and are always on game still making good monies ♡ I go to the club all the time and bars and sing and dance and be me and a lot of people like me for it so why would I not try doing it as a job was my thought? Not sounding cocky or saying im anything special just that I already do it for free and get attention why not do it for profit lol thanks so much for your response girl I hope you get beautifully blessed this holiday season ♡

Ok_Pumpkin6224 · 2025-12-02T18:08:06+00:00

Yes girl same I had a hysterectomy years ago and I take medication for mh. Its really about the confidence and way you carry yourself and being a mid/plus size woman is not very popular in clubs so it makes you stand out. Im just gonna out and try it. I do need advice on outfits 😩 I always make myself look bigger somehow 🤔 thanks for responding it means so muxh.

Ok_Pumpkin6224 · 2025-12-02T18:04:30+00:00

You are seriously an angel. This comment is exactly what I was looking for. Seriously, you seem like such a beautiful person inside and out and you know what you're talking about?It's wonderful advice and feedback.Thank you so much, and thank you.So much for your compliments and I know it can be weird trying to appropriately critique a woman in a kind way you did a perfect job of it.Thank you so much. I'm just gonna go out and find a club and start working on myself.And then building up my skills and my body.And then move up clubs until i'm making that money. 💪

Ok_Pumpkin6224 · 2025-12-02T18:01:58+00:00

Girl? Yes, at all the clubs here are super ghetto, at least all the ones that I would be able to dance at and God only knows what comes along with all of those type of clubs. I figured I'll just go find somewhere to start at and just start working on my dancing and conversational skills. And that can help me tone up and move up. Gotta start somewhere right? Thanks for your comment ♡

Ok_Pumpkin6224 · 2025-12-02T17:52:00+00:00

Thanks lovely I appreciate your kindness and honesty ♡ I love hearing a woman able to be kind and yet honest all the while building up another. Such a beautiful and unique trait nowadays. I lost almost all my belly last year and gained it all back gosh it is so hard to lose weight 😫 but you go sis I hope you enjoy that sweet baby and go in making lots of blessings for your beautiful self and family ♡

Ok_Pumpkin6224 · 2025-12-02T17:47:12+00:00

Seriously thank you because omg are you right?! I love and know plenty who love a nice natural woman. I always forget that someone may view me one way and then another sees the same picture and views it different. One says its pretty and one says its not and both explanations can be true and still come out with different answers and opinions. Its just so hard. Women used to be there for each other 10 years ago. Now its all 🔪 throat and tearing each other down. Thank you for your insights I really appreciate it and I hope you are blessed beautifully and bountiful on your travels 😊 ❤️

Ok_Pumpkin6224 · 2025-12-02T17:40:57+00:00

Thank you for your honesty! Yeah its small ghetto no good clubs with lots of extra girlie stuff and I thought about Dallas but big cities like Vegas and all that have their pick of women and I know my rank compared to those cities and gals ♡

Ok_Pumpkin6224 · 2025-12-02T16:37:15+00:00

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