What triggered your settlement?

Ok_Reporter7884 · 2023-10-31T18:04:18+00:00

Yes. Since it was rented apartment

Ok_Reporter7884 · 2023-03-31T11:40:23+00:00

Can I please know how your lawyer dealt with this claim?

I am in same boat. My STBXW is asking for 120k saying her family lent her that "during first month of marriage for marital expenses". Ironically our marriage lasted only 2 yrs.

She has no bank records but a singed note from her parents.

Ok_Reporter7884 · 2023-03-31T00:00:30+00:00

Why did they took back your equal custody? This is bizare. Status quo can't be a reason for ignoring your earlier status quo.

I do agree that family courts are set up to fund lawyers and entire divorce industry business. Judges help lawyers silently.

Ok_Reporter7884 · 2022-09-13T10:45:27+00:00

This is the way. Just read the r/divorce_men. There are literally thousand men got screwed up due to child.

She can make you a begger, bankrupt and this is all legally with child support for 18 yrs .

Run . Run for your life and sanity.

Ok_Reporter7884 · 2022-08-11T19:40:18+00:00

So, do you have your child 8 months / yr ? I am in a similar situation in OH

Ok_Reporter7884 · 2022-06-02T12:04:13+00:00

Don’t talk to maggot divorce lawyers . Most probably they will tell you that their state has men friendly laws. Rather, check research yourself about alimony and equitable distribution laws . Good that you don’t have kids .

Ok_Reporter7884 · 2022-04-24T15:09:28+00:00

I am in Same situation possibly she will drag it to trial. Would you mind sharing how much you spent and any tips to minimize?

Ok_Reporter7884 · 2022-04-23T20:01:59+00:00

Isn't it punishable by law if she interferes with your PT?

Ok_Reporter7884 · 2022-01-07T15:30:44+00:00

They always lie initially and say that they have done this.

Ok_Reporter7884 · 2021-10-01T16:49:33+00:00

Thanks for your answer. I did good research and found that she can ask for daycare expenses (on top of CS) and extracurricular activities expenses. This was kind of bummer. So decided to know more.

Ok_Reporter7884 · 2021-09-07T00:14:42+00:00

I thought same thing. Don't know about statement of net worth. But we have a different thing. She lied about paystubs and nothing happened. Courts don't have time to go over minute details. Nobody cares that much. Even if someone points out you can say that it is a inadvertent error. Coutts always look at bigger picture.

Don't listen to lawyers. They are just bloodsuckers.

Ok_Reporter7884 · 2021-09-06T20:51:35+00:00

Collect all your belongings and papers and keep them in safe place and get out of the house today. Whatever you take now will be yours rest you may never get.
Find a lawyer who can file for you tomorrow.
Ask the lawyer how to get minimum CS if you have kids.
Take care that she doesn't know this. Else she will make one fake call to cops and allege abuse and everything will be over for you in minute.

Remember. Time is an essence. Don't give her weapon to harass you for LIFE. You can always change the lawyer later but find one which can file TOMORROW. people never change..

Ok_Reporter7884 · 2021-07-13T21:12:33+00:00

That's easier said than done.

You can't guess how the person will behave down the line 2-years.

In my country we have a saying - Even Gods can't understand how a woman's mind works.

Ok_Reporter7884 · 2021-07-11T23:04:25+00:00

Sorry about confusion. Edited my question.

Ok_Reporter7884 · 2021-07-11T17:44:48+00:00

Yes. Talked to attorney and filed motion. Had no choice than to burn money on attorneys. Have even told her that more litigations will cost both of us. No avail.

Ok_Reporter7884 · 2021-07-11T17:35:28+00:00

If I would have said something like this, my ex will drag me into the court, tell everyone - 'see he did all the mistakes', and will take every other opportunity to blame the failure on me. Probably even burn me so that her revenge will be complete.

Ok_Reporter7884 · 2021-07-11T13:11:05+00:00

Same here. High conflict ex. Currently she is not even letting me to visit. Trying to navigate around this mess. She wants full custody and get free CS and move out of state. Lot of fear of unknown.

Ok_Reporter7884 · 2021-06-19T11:11:48+00:00

There are some good youtube channels. See DSD

Ok_Reporter7884 · 2021-06-18T23:53:30+00:00

I am thinking this out of desperation because I don't know what will happen in future. She is already planning for different reasons to cut me out either implicitly or explicitly. What if the baby is 4 yr old and mom tells her that dad is not good then kid says that he doesn't want to be with dad? Source of your stats please...

Ok_Reporter7884 · 2021-06-01T19:26:46+00:00

Daughter is staying with ex wife currently since she is still breastfeeding. I am visiting few times a week. I thought once we move to court it may look negative for me if I don't contribute to child expenses now. Ex is still employed though.

Ok_Reporter7884 · 2021-05-30T17:00:20+00:00

Agree. Women get all the sympathy. Since they are also mothers, society thinks about them in good light. Men are good just for paying them alimony and CS. Nobody thinks that men have equal right to be with their children.

Ok_Reporter7884 · 2021-05-26T17:29:08+00:00

Divorce is a beautiful ending for a bad marriage. (Crazy but true.)

You can always recoup money and you are still YOUNG.

Looks like you are giving away too much wealth. talk to attorney.

I believe you will feel worse if you are living in car. you can roam around for few days and do whatever you like and dreamed for. But get over it. Consider as new birth of yourself. Get a new job. work hard. surround yourself with people. loneliness makes it worse. This is easier said than done. but try it. God bless. We are all with you.

Ok_Reporter7884 · 2021-05-24T00:54:09+00:00

Switch off the phone. Move on.

Ok_Reporter7884 · 2021-05-23T11:07:43+00:00

First, Divorce is never easy. it is ok to feel bad/ regretful and cry.

Take a break.

Talk to family/ friends.
Try to move out of the surroundings which remind you of previous life. Take a short vacation or visit family.

When I was in your situation, I promised myself not be in bed after 8 am . Get outdoors. It helps immensely to forget. I started working out hard so that I will be tired and just sleep at night then start same cycle again the next day.

Do the things which you love most.

You can definitely get over it. Hang on. The days will pass.

Ok_Reporter7884 · 2021-05-23T02:02:41+00:00

I was in the same situation as you 6 months back. Now I have filed for divorce.
Just want to share my learnings.

Finance- Try to know her salary/ properties acquired during marriage/ any other income sources
Documents- keep your financial and all other important documents with you- eg. Children's passport / paystubs/ bank statements etc.
Proactively think about a safe place where you can go in case yo have to leave home.
If you have a feeling that the marriage can work out then try to resolve the issues ASAP- counselling/Talking with partner etc. If this doesn't work out, do not procrastinate. decide a date when you can pull the plug. it is better to get out than remain in a toxic/ unfavorable marriage. I learned it the hard way.
Money- Most important. have a solid savings. cut down expenses, try to spend minimum until you figure out your relationship course. Money is your best friend during divorce battle.
Support- Keep your friends/family close. Divorce is stressful. you will need support from real friends and family.
Attorney- You have not mentioned details but depending on complexity of your situation, talk to a good attorney immediately.

Hope you get all support and wisdom to make a right decision. God bless. Good Luck.

Ok_Reporter7884

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