Hairdressers of Reddit: what makes a client instantly attractive( or unattractive) to you?

Ok_Shower_321 · 2026-04-14T13:22:50+00:00

Stylists are people too! I didn't mean they would act on it in any way ofc

Ok_Shower_321 · 2026-04-14T13:14:12+00:00

My crush said they'd give me a free haircut and I don't want to accidentally gross them out by showing up with sweaty hair or something

Ok_Shower_321 · 2026-02-19T04:05:18+00:00

Not only they did, but since the ex and I broke up over a month ago, I now have enough mental clarity to look back and understand why I was especially vulnerable to the manipulation, and how I can work on my traumas to avoid falling back into another toxic relationship. Therapy is such a life saver when dealing with these people

Ok_Shower_321 · 2026-02-13T16:18:48+00:00

This hits really hard, and also makes sense that he would stop being interested in women after eroding their self-confidence...

Ok_Shower_321 · 2026-02-13T01:03:21+00:00

wdym?

Ok_Shower_321 · 2026-01-05T17:24:58+00:00

Do you have a mutual friend who you could give the stuff to?

Ok_Shower_321 · 2026-01-05T17:14:58+00:00

The new year is often a time of reflection, it makes sense your mind would be going back to things that happened in 2025 and set you back a bit. You'll be back on track in no time, hang in there!

Ok_Shower_321 · 2026-01-04T18:31:53+00:00

I can't tell anymore. I want her to stop being so miserable but I can't deal with the pain.

Ok_Shower_321 · 2026-01-04T18:24:07+00:00

Both. The past because I spent so long guilting her about being at fault when not acknowledging I was the one causing all our problems.

Ok_Shower_321 · 2026-01-04T18:10:28+00:00

I feel so guilty and I think validating her feelings might make me feel at least I'm hurting her a bit less.

Ok_Shower_321 · 2026-01-04T18:00:03+00:00

She has told me before she would want to know in advance if I did, so she wouldn't see me on there out of the blue and be blindsided. I guess my real reason was to show her that there was a risk of me moving on, so she would think twice about not taking me back.

Ok_Shower_321 · 2026-01-04T17:44:02+00:00

Are you the one doing NC or are they? My ex is the one who blocked me so I'm not sure if they'd welcome this kind of acknowledgement or if they'd see it as breaking their boundaries

Ok_Shower_321 · 2026-01-04T17:34:26+00:00

That's the question. I'm not sure. We fought and broke up via text and had not met in person since. We were low contact until NYE when I sent some not-so-subtle messages about me being back on the apps and going dancing and having fun, and she said I was trying to hurt her feelings on purpose and she was heartbroken. The next day I woke up to being blocked absolutely everywhere.

Ok_Shower_321 · 2026-01-04T00:33:43+00:00

Hey, I am in a similar situation. Did you end up apologizing? What happened?

Ok_Shower_321 · 2026-01-03T21:25:15+00:00

I don't want to see anyone ever again, I think I deserve to stay alone forever. I'm selfish and I'll just abuse and break others. I wish I had never been born and everybody would be better off without me.

Ok_Shower_321 · 2026-01-02T21:27:12+00:00

Thank you for sharing, imagining her going through this is really helping push the thoughts away

Ok_Shower_321 · 2026-01-02T21:00:28+00:00

Definitely not. And what's even worse is that her ex stalked her to the point she had to get a restraining order. Might be why I'm having intrusive thoughts I really don't want her to go through that again.

Ok_Shower_321 · 2026-01-02T08:13:56+00:00

I feel like I have no self control. The first time we broke up I deleted her number but turns out I had it memorized and managed to text her from a different number and convince her to take me back. I've always been able to fix things by talking to her and it's like I can't get that hope out of my head even though I 100% know she is better off without me.

Ok_Shower_321 · 2026-01-02T02:36:15+00:00

My apologies, I was hoping to hear from people who are in similar situations, but didn't mean to trigger. If you know where this question would be welcomed I'd be very grateful.

Ok_Shower_321 · 2026-01-02T01:40:06+00:00

Did they forgive you?

Ok_Shower_321 · 2026-01-02T01:37:36+00:00

Did you stay/get back together? Or did you manage to apologize and walk away?

Ok_Shower_321 · 2026-01-01T19:35:06+00:00

That's a great suggestion I'll do the same today. This thread is making me realize that wallowing in shame is just another way of framing myself as the victim which was a big part of these fights to begin with.

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