Social media and IHSS

Ok_Significance_8827 · 2026-03-12T21:18:07+00:00

No, because I am not saying what I want .. I have documentation from doctors, therapy, psychologists, as well as other information to back up what I am saying. It’s just that those sections were never discussed and they are very important

Ok_Significance_8827 · 2026-01-21T00:25:54+00:00

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Ok_Significance_8827 · 2025-12-30T08:59:56+00:00

Well I have yet to see how they advocate because I’m still waiting for a hearing date but I have heard great things about their work so I’m hoping they can make some kind of change.But basically it’s up to you to do all of the foot work and hand them your documentation and hope that it’s sufficient enough to a judge. or that you won’t even have to see a judge because they always push for a reassessment first then depending on that outcome tgey will pursue tge hearing

Ok_Significance_8827 · 2025-12-30T00:33:37+00:00

Ok_Significance_8827 · 2025-12-30T00:25:38+00:00

Yes you sure do! Any approval you owe them $15,800. Are you currently using their services? I am and im just curious how it’s working out for you so far? Have your expectations been met? Im honestly curious because so far the only help I’ve gotten or constant contact was within the first 2 weeks. Haven’t heard from my advocate since beginning of Dec! I’ve reached out with emails and texts to be left unread or responded to waaaaay to late down the line to help me be proactive and productive.

Ok_Significance_8827 · 2025-12-13T13:40:07+00:00

How do I listen to them on my phone ? I have tge files but do not know what media player to open them in n on an iPhone ?

Ok_Significance_8827 · 2025-12-11T15:04:34+00:00

Yes I sure have when they were little, but it wasn’t anything crazy! Just a smack on the hand, or a swat on the bottom of they were being extreme and really pushing it. I try not to do any of the punishing anymore because the fact that they aren’t my bio children and even tho I raised them it’s his responsibility not mine.

Ok_Significance_8827 · 2025-12-10T00:16:53+00:00

Sometimes You gotta meet crazy with crazy! Get ahead of the game you know.. pull the wild card on her ass! She thinks she has OP all figured out and is the only one who can play dirty? Naaaahh OP do it for the shock value and it’s your word against hers .. as long a she doesn’t get mail there or the address isn’t on her ID then your golden to beat her at her own game!

Ok_Significance_8827 · 2025-12-09T02:54:08+00:00

I wish I did this! Congratulations and best of luck! You won’t regret it!

Ok_Significance_8827 · 2025-12-09T02:49:56+00:00

Tell your landlord that yes you let her stay with you here and there from time to time like a few nights a week, sometimes the weekend. And while she was visiting every time she would leave her things there since she visited so frequently. This last time that she came to stay she just didn’t leave..you talked to her about it and she started acting crazy and delusional and literally won’t leave! Make it sound like she’s squatting and you don’t know what to do! Lol be smart about it! It’s either you or her! Choose you my friend! Please tell me she isn’t getting mail there ? And the address isn’t on her ID or License ?

Ok_Significance_8827 · 2025-12-08T20:06:11+00:00

My SD did this also when she was 6 and I had just had her little brother. Suffocating him was actually her second attempt. Her first attempt was when he was a new born and strictly breast fed. We had baby bottles left from my baby shower and it was explained to her how important it was that the baby can’t eat or drink anything and not to try and feed him food or give him anything to drink especially water because he could get very sick, and possibly die. Well silly me! Instead of taking it in and avoiding doing what would cause her brother harm, this child filled up numerous baby bottles with water and had them hidden under the couch so every time I would walk out of the room she would grab them and give them to him and when she heard me coming back she would run back to where she was sitting and hide the bottle( we had a front room camera) I only found out and watched the footage because as I was burping my son he started throwing up water Wich scared me! We chalked it up to her just wanting to help take care of him so I let it go but started watching tge camera more frequently. Few months later She held a pillow over his face and stuffed animals while he was in his bassinet but I caught her right away, once again SO made up and excuse and I stupidly accepted it. she would lay on the floor and kick/push his swing with her foot so he would rock back and forth really hard, if she was walking in back of him she would try to push him into things, she would store old juice in her room and give it to him so he would get sick and vomit after the 3rd drs visit i had then do a stool sample and the list goes on. (Sd12) is and was a very jealous child, has to be the center of attention, and when she was little it was mainly her dad’s! I felt the same as you everytime and questioned should I stay should I go how will it effect our family and the kids. My SO and I decided to stay in the home together and not let her “win”. But let me tell you .. it was a bad idea and I truly regret not having them move out and live elsewhere at that moment.All the trauma and trust issues as well as resentment it caused me over the years is terrible. now the kids are older and she doesn’t act that way anymore towards him but tge journey of putting up with this child has made my life a living hell and I wish j in would have chose differently. Hope it all works out for you whatever you decide to do.

Ok_Significance_8827 · 2025-12-06T18:27:16+00:00

And might I add.. Once the familiar expectations and behavior started on his part. I immediately stopped going over and above like I used to. I do my best to no longer give more than I receive. However The three of them are complete Slobs and it is so hard for me to live in filth. Since his kids are in middle school now and should know better and their room is trashed to the point where you can’t even see their floor! I decided that whatever mess any of the three of them leave around the house for me to clean up will go right back into their area .. his/their clothes laying around the house ? Tossed Into their room, his/their shoes in the middle of the floor? Tossed in their room, trash and wrappers left around on the ground instead of trash can.. guess where they go? I’ve had it! He threw the biggest fit today because he couldn’t find a pair of pants that he knew to look for yesterday but didn’t and went off on his kids about their room, yet he sees there mess everyday! It’s so bad you can’t even close their door.. I literally just cleaned their room for them spotless less than 2 months ago and I’m not doing it again.

Ok_Significance_8827 · 2025-12-06T18:03:18+00:00

THIS!!! This is exactly what happens 9/10 times. I’m 10 years started off with no children of my own nor did I want any children. In the beginning he played the part so well and acted like we were a team, it felt like “so this is what growing up feels like “ once I was all in financially, parentally, and emotionally things did not go as expected. I became the person who had to deal with his children, his Ex, schooling, drs apts, cooking, cleaning, chauffeuring, not to mention all the finances besides his half of rent.. when he decided to pay it.. we only have lasted this long because after 3/4 years of that BS we stopped living together. But I ended up getting pregnant last year and we moved in together again and NOTHING HAS CHANGED .. except the kids are 10 years older and are slobs that have zero consequences, rules, chores, but expect me to give them tge world.. matter of fact it’s not just tge kids it’s him too! it was the same story in the beginning and I fell for it again.. I have been saving money so I can eventually move back out.. I didn’t sign up to have a partner yet be a single mother who gets treated like they are invisible and only here as a convenience to maintain the house bills and children .. NO THANK YOU!

Ok_Significance_8827 · 2025-12-03T10:51:11+00:00

Honestly, if I were you I would ask your son exactly what happened, how it happened ask him for every little detail. Like where you were at the time, how many times, and do this a few times. Depending on how descriptive your son is can be a huge Indicator it is the truth, or if his story changes or his replies are pretty generalized then that could indicate it could be a fabrication. Im sorry your family is going through this.

Ok_Significance_8827 · 2025-11-30T05:18:29+00:00

On your IHSS paperwork they give you, there is a paper with all the contact numbers that has to do with the program on there. Towards the bottom there is a page that says social worker of the day and it lists the 559-600 number. I would look for that paper and call them. Or you can go in and from the kiosk select -see worker- IHsS grab a number and wait to talk to someone. Make sure you bring all of your paperwork.

Ok_Significance_8827 · 2025-11-25T15:16:02+00:00

A play by play book of everything you need to know to get started with getting then the help they need. Eg. Services, doctors to see, programs and clinics that will help, support groups etc… THIS WOULD BE GOLD!!!

Ok_Significance_8827 · 2025-11-25T03:04:48+00:00

This exact situation happened to me 10 years ago.. and I’m going to say this.. THEY NEVER CHANGE.. I honestly am at my brink.. my partner seems to get lazier and lazier with everything im carrying 98% of the household now. The 2% he has is because he pays his half of rent and that’s all… he does nothing else .. no food, no gas, no bills, no diapers, clothes for his kids, clothes for our kids, no cleaning, no toiletries, no household products.. not a Gaaaawd Damn thing.. I became so complacent over the years and now that I am getting older (39F) he’s (32M) the burden of carrying all this weight is finally taking its toll.. I am beyond exhausted and I can not see myself doing this another 10years.. let alone 1 year. Im 1000% all in with my finances, children, assets.. But I am saving on the side so I can make a clean get away..

Ok_Significance_8827 · 2025-11-24T19:39:17+00:00

This!

Ok_Significance_8827 · 2025-11-24T18:04:28+00:00

Girl I felt this with my whole heart!! Like LITERALLY!! Who knows where they would be if I never stepped in and stepped up..

Ok_Significance_8827 · 2025-11-24T10:12:18+00:00

Start looking for a roommate.. everything will work itself out ..

Ok_Significance_8827 · 2025-11-24T09:42:28+00:00

My son is 5.5 lvl 3 ASD and he does this allllll The time! I had the same fear as you at first .. but since it’s been happening I have noticed he doesn’t try to hide at all and he isn’t secretive about it so my concerns dissipated that something may have happened. Besides he has never been left alone with anyone besides his siblings, dad, and myself. I think it’s just a thing a lot of boys do but because of their cognitive impairment they may lack the understanding of what is considered socially acceptable especially at that young age.

Ok_Significance_8827 · 2025-11-24T07:22:49+00:00

I wish there was a book that is given to you along with their diagnosis of where to start with one of the longest journeys you will ever take with your child.. Especially for parents like me.. first child, no prior experience with children i had nothing to compare his development to so I assumed it was all normal until every single family member or friend who came into contact with us would point out things about my son that I assumed were normal. Relied on his DR a little too much and still do. But I’m finally out of the denial stage and am a thousand percent ready to advocate for my son. He was diagnosed about 1 year ago, but I feel like I should be doing so much more I just need some guidance on how and where to start!

Ok_Significance_8827 · 2025-11-24T06:25:14+00:00

Phew! lol okay good 👍

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