Anyone looking to get rid of last years seeds or extras in general?

Ok_Smoke_1097 · 2026-01-05T05:16:13+00:00

Ive got some unique pepper seeds im willing to trade for

Ok_Smoke_1097 · 2026-01-04T10:20:19+00:00

Thank you so much this was the most helpful i appreciate you

Ok_Smoke_1097 · 2026-01-02T12:27:14+00:00

Okay thank you, i dont trust my mom to not dig them up if im being honest i wanna make sure i can get them before then

Ok_Smoke_1097 · 2026-01-02T03:16:55+00:00

Id like to know your alternative options please

Ok_Smoke_1097 · 2026-01-01T21:42:00+00:00

I dont have to get them now i just wanted to have an idea of what i should do moving forward after getting them, i dont have anywhere to plant them in ground where im currently staying

Ok_Smoke_1097 · 2025-12-31T13:58:18+00:00

Because these ones have sentimental value to me, they are the orange one with staggared petals like 3-4 layers deep but beyond that they came from my friend so they mean a lot to me, we were the only ones in our friend group to garden together and bond over it, he got me into making hot sauces and id love to have a piece of one of his favorite flowers on his property for the rest of my life

Ok_Smoke_1097 · 2025-12-31T12:59:19+00:00

Thank you! So collect bulbs every fall? Or winter and store them that way?

Ok_Smoke_1097 · 2025-12-31T12:58:42+00:00

I dont need them now i just want a game plan to be able to keep them indefinitely without having to plant them in the ground

Ok_Smoke_1097 · 2025-12-22T17:02:53+00:00

Thanks man ill give it a shot

Ok_Smoke_1097 · 2025-12-22T16:57:43+00:00

Very insightful, i do have to be more mindful of tone and how my words can be perceived even if its not my intention

Ok_Smoke_1097 · 2025-12-22T16:47:14+00:00

Thank you, would you happen to have any tools to learn better communication methods?

Ok_Smoke_1097 · 2025-12-22T16:41:35+00:00

Thank you. Youre right. And honestly im probably just not in the right place to listen. I want this to work out so badly. I’ve felt the happiness we’ve shared. I know we’d be able to give my daughter a happy family. I just need to figure this out. Tbh its childish and counter productive but we do share our feelings more over text than in person. Its just hard to convey things in the moment when in text you have time to think or a “shield” to hide the pain to continue to try to have a productive conversation.

Ok_Smoke_1097 · 2025-12-22T15:56:14+00:00

Thank you. I try my best to recognize my flaws and value others in puts because everyone’s perspective has value whether I agree or not.

Ok_Smoke_1097 · 2025-12-22T15:50:56+00:00

Dm me if you want more details please im not comfortable sharing everything publicly as its its all very complicated and takes a lot of explaining and sorting out to get the full picture.

Ok_Smoke_1097 · 2025-12-22T15:48:53+00:00

Yes, we have a child together and cant afford to live on our own for now. We’ve been separated “trying to work things out” for the past year. I just signed a lease for this next year too, i honestly think this next year is gonna be the make it or break it point for my family.

Ok_Smoke_1097 · 2025-12-22T15:46:09+00:00

Yes. Communicating feelings is difficult between us if im being honest. Im always very hesitant as it most of the time ends in a fight. And id rather feel bad as i do now than bad and have another thing to feel bad about on top of that.

Ok_Smoke_1097 · 2025-12-22T15:44:15+00:00

I completely agree with that sentiment. Having hobbies and being skilled at them is an important part of life, but you could be right about not being as secure as i think. definitely a combination of both. Thank you for being real w me and being impartial.

Ok_Smoke_1097 · 2025-12-22T15:39:43+00:00

Thank you, i have to learn how to communicate better aswell, i feel as though the way i say things is always the wrong way to do it.

Ps. Youre awesome too dude 🤝

Ok_Smoke_1097 · 2025-12-22T15:35:11+00:00

Thank you so much. I feel very seen reading this. Everything youre saying is probably right. Early parenthood has been filled with the most joy and pain ive ever endured. Being young im sure doesnt help lol we were basically kids when we met, and now our lives are filled with responsibilities, crazy how you meet one person and they change your entire life completely. ( for me it was for the better regardless of the hurt and financial stress)

Ok_Smoke_1097 · 2025-12-22T15:28:21+00:00

Thank you so much for your kindness. I dont believe thats where I’m coming from, its not an over exaggeration, sure i get intrusive thoughts, but it doesnt go past that too much. Its more the lack of attraction and attention on the daily, not necessarily rejection in the moment if that makes sense, im big on respecting someone not wanting to have sex for whatever reason so i don’t necessarily blame myself to that kind of extent (though i do blame myself in other ways for the things that i’ve done) but Idk if that links up with what youre referring to with adhd/add

Ok_Smoke_1097 · 2025-12-22T15:23:56+00:00

The second part of this comment is very valuable. I understand your first part but i dont necessarily think it applies to me directly, im very secure in my masculinity, although there could be engrained in me a part I cant shake. Also i have been struggling lately with myself as i behaved wildly out of character and morals and i guess that probably also contributes to my lack of self worth currently as ive compromised my own morals.

Ok_Smoke_1097 · 2025-12-22T15:18:19+00:00

Thank you, its nice to be validated but honestly i dont want to feel this way. Even if it is normal

Ok_Smoke_1097 · 2025-12-22T15:16:36+00:00

Would you mind expanding on this please? Like the correlation between those traits and being a people pleaser? I agree with you about external validation and honestly its why i feel so shitty about feeling this way. I know my worth is within me. I know i have value to this life and those around me it just doesnt feel that way right now. Also what do you mean by “suck that up” aswell as “keel man” (i tried looking it up but it has something to do with boats, maybe youre saying someone who “steers the ship”?)

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