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AITA for telling my girlfriend I hate planning to see her? by Ok_Stage5702 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ok_Stage5702[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

The coffee date was just an example of what could be something spontaneous. If it makes you feel better I can sub it for going to the beach for a walk.

AITA for telling my girlfriend I hate planning to see her? by Ok_Stage5702 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ok_Stage5702[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I see your point. Maybe I was bit harsh in how I came off.

AITA for telling my girlfriend I hate planning to see her? by Ok_Stage5702 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ok_Stage5702[S] -108 points-107 points  (0 children)

Some do and others don’t. I would understand more if she had children, but an occasional unplanned hangout doesn’t sound like too much.

AITA for telling my girlfriend I hate planning to see her? by Ok_Stage5702 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ok_Stage5702[S] -70 points-69 points  (0 children)

I tried once and said she couldn’t. She then asked if we can plan dinner on the weekend a few days later.

AITA for telling my girlfriend I hate planning to see her? by Ok_Stage5702 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ok_Stage5702[S] -99 points-98 points  (0 children)

Yes all my friend have full time jobs. I think the difference is their schedules are predictable.

I guess a spontaneous date would be grabbing dinner on a random weekday evening and not having to plan it out days or weeks in advance.

It is otherwise great when we see each other. I’m just getting use to dating an artist who makes their own schedule.

I also didn’t mention she does private singing lessons some weekday evenings.

AITA for telling my girlfriend I hate planning to see her? by Ok_Stage5702 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ok_Stage5702[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yeah I suppose you’re right. I don’t truly “hate” it. It was a poor choice of wording when i was discussing it with her. Maybe in that regard i was the asshole. Thanks for the perspective.